David, I don't visit the Gay forums as much as I should, but when I do your posts are abundant. I want to offer my condolences as well. I lost my mother very young and I can tell you the best of times will be in your every thought and comfort will come in time, knowing she is at peace now.
I hope you are doing well. My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer in July. His was still operable, but the waiting and worrying was stressful. So sorry for your loss.
Conck, even though we've never met, I feel like I know you because of all the kind things others say about you, and the funny things you say yourself. That said, I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.