Sad day in VMK

[darkacre]

If she is such a good friend, why hasn't she told you why she's leaving? Come on people, don't confuse this with friendship. Come back to reality. Reality isn't so bad.

P.S. Did you know that one of my characters is on your friends list? Now you probably hate me for being so deeply hurtful by speaking the truth, but guess what? In the game, you still think I'm a friend. Ponder that for a moment.

 

[HappyBoy]

Sorry to see her go!
Hopefully it is just a break.

and darkacre, is there a point to this? she is sad and could use some kindness, not a lecture.

 

[Dudezeke]

Every day we lose more good players, it's sad. I'm very sorry for everyone's loss, and I will miss them all the same

 

[Tiinkerbelle]

Thanks for the support happy .

Ace I have kindly asked you to stop posting on my thread, "If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" please take THOSE words into consideration and leave me alone.

 

[Slamina]

That may be a real person on the other end, but real friendship is based upon knowing another person, and interacting with them. On VMK you are not permitted to get to know another person at all. On fan sites, it is less true, as you can sort of get to know people here, but on VMK, you know nothing about the other person. That pixel could be a 9 year old girl, a 65 year old corporate lawyer, a 26 year old hospital intern. You don't know. It could be a preacher, a high school kid, a police officer or a serial murderer. You cannot tell. All you really know about someone is what their pixels display. Often, it is not at all similar to the real person. It is a character. We are all actors. Some of us even have multiple mules we play that project completely different personas. That could be a person with real feelings. It could also be a person with FAKE feelings. I was on another fansite once and saw a person post about how they get free stuff by pretending to be sad and depressed, and leaving VMK. All those people fooled by him felt sad that their "friend" was leaving VMK.

Again, I'm not judging anyone. This particular person might be known to others outside VMK. She might be a very nice person. I don't know. But many times, people get sad over another set of pixels disappearing, and what is truly sad is that they think they lost a friend. If this person leaves VMK and you will no longer be in touch with her, you did not lose a friend. You never had a friend in the first place.

I am not trying to flame anyone. I'm trying to help people put things into perspective. You can call it rude if you like, but if you disagree with me, you might be precisely the kind of person who should take this advice to heart: if losing access to a character played by an actor or an anonymous computer user makes you feel like you lost a true friend, you really should work on making more or better friendships in the real world. Those are the friendships that will make you happy. These are not.

And, by the way, someone leaving VMK is not necessarily a bad thing. Spending more time in the real world is actually a good thing. In fact, I'm going to stop typing right now and go have lunch with my friends at work.

maybe it was personal.... why would I have to tell all of my business?

 

[pinkgalYall]

maybe it was personal.... why would I have to tell all of my business?

Good for you Slamina, coming and defending yourself. And welcome to the Dis, wether it will be your last visit or not.
Sorry to hear you are leaving, although i did not know you to well in the game i did enjoy your rooms.

And Tink i'm sorry that she is leaving, but never give up hope. I remember this quote from an email i got a long time ago. "Don't be sad if someone is leaving, be happy to have known them at all." I may be a buch of pixels, but who says you can't have a friend made of 'em?

 

[CapEldano2]

If she is such a good friend, why hasn't she told you why she's leaving? Come on people, don't confuse this with friendship. Come back to reality. Reality isn't so bad.

P.S. Did you know that one of my characters is on your friends list? Now you probably hate me for being so deeply hurtful by speaking the truth, but guess what? In the game, you still think I'm a friend. Ponder that for a moment.

So uh.. how does it affect you how she feels about someone? If she wants to be sad, then let her... If she wants to be happy, let her, it doesn't do you any harm. Was it really necessary to post such a thing on someone's thread who is obviously sad about a quitting friend? I don't think people need reasons to feel certain ways, but that's just me. If you didn't agree with what she was posting, just ignore it, don't bash her, or anyone else for it. That's one thing i've really learned from the DIS, everyone has different opinions and everyone reads things differently, don't try and force your opinions on others by bashing and telling people their ideas are stupid because that's not the way it's done in... to use your words,"reality". You were telling her she needs to get a life because she cares for "a blob of pixels", maybe you should follow your own advice and find something better to do other than bash other people's feelings for no apparent reason.

Anyways, to get back on topic, welcome to the DIS Slamina, sorry to hear your not going to be playing VMK for some time, but I'm sure this isn't the last we see of you in the game .... unless it is, then i apologize deeply.

 

[mking624]

Actually, I agree with darkacre. This is a game where we are not exactly given an opportunity to get to know anyone. Therefore, these people are more acquaintances than friends...unless you actually do know them outside VMK in a setting where you CAN get to know them. darkacre let his view on it known in a very tactful and polite way, in a nonflaming way. So I personally think caution should really be exercised before he's accused of bullying. If it's ok for the OP to have feelings on this and that she shouldn't be criticized, then the same should be done for someone who feels differently. I think darkacre brings up an excellent point because for players, particularly young players, sometimes you need a pespective check to remind you to be careful on becoming so attached to a "person" you really don't know. It's one thing to be bummed out that a good player is leaving and you can't "hang out" with them anymore. It's quite another to become depressed over someone you really know nothing about except for what the VMK dictionary allows you to say...which isn't much. I do think it's natural to have inklings of sadness over any kind of change...whether you know a person or not. It's something you're used to in a environment you enjoy, and having some part of that changed can be disheartening. But I don't think there's any harm in any of us remembering that this is a game, it's not reality. Real friends will always be there even when pixels fade away.

All that said, it's always a shame to see good players go away. Could always use more good players on there to be examples to newbies on how one should be on VMK (good influence on them!). But honestly, I never did get the concept of giving away all your stuff. You never know when you'll have the opportunity to come back on, even if it's a couple of years later. But to each his own.

 

[Tiinkerbelle]

I think this topic has pretty much made it's point from both sides, although it is a very old topic.
Mod's please close.