S/O..have you ever had a thread go south on you?

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Not really here on the DISboards, but, in other places, I'm shocked at what some people will post - just the vulgarity & meanness. Surely we can't all be this rude in real life? I commented once on a Facebook post of a political commentator. Another person didn't agree w/ me, & she replied to my comment w/ some cursing & told me she I hoped I ended up raped and killed. Seriously?!

Holy cow!

 

[wenrob]

Please make fun of me for this question: How do I know if I have gotten points?

The mod notifies you and it shows up in your user profile.

 

[Uncranky Donald]

The mod notifies you and it shows up in your user profile.

Good to know!!

 

[NFLDERS]

Reading the latest YAGE thread made me think back to a few of my threads that ended up going places I never expected. One was so bad, it got locked!

Maybe others are more cynical (or realistic) but when I post a thread I am looking for actual discussion and I don't give a thought as to how it could be taken the wrong way.

So, have you had a thread that makes you read the replies and go huh?

Oh yeah! I've had a few, but than again too few to mention.

 

[NFLDERS]

Please make fun of me for this question: How do I know if I have gotten points?

Don't worry you'll know says: NFLDERS with head hung low... sigh.

 

[robinb]

Not really here on the DISboards, but, in other places, I'm shocked at what some people will post - just the vulgarity & meanness. Surely we can't all be this rude in real life? I commented once on a Facebook post of a political commentator. Another person didn't agree w/ me, & she replied to my comment w/ some cursing & told me she I hoped I ended up raped and killed. Seriously?!

That kind of thing happens here too. A DISer once said to me, "You have a beautiful little girl there. Let's imagine that she somehow lost her life to some type of tragedy." My DD was 7-years old at the time.

 

[NFLDERS]

You haven't lived until you've had points awarded.

"Awarded"

 

[RedAngie]

Do you ever feel that you get so many points that sometimes you are afraid to log in for fear of being banned? Me either.

No, but about a year ago I made a somewhat snarky reply to someone's post, and an hour later there was the highlighted red "1" on the Inbox tab on the upper right. I didn't dare open it, thinking I got points and/or a nastygram. I was afraid to open it for a few days, but when I finally did it was a message from another poster giving me a on my comment.

 

[Wendy31]

That kind of thing happens here too. A DISer once said to me, "You have a beautiful little girl there. Let's imagine that she somehow lost her life to some type of tragedy."

That's awful! I think I remember that thread!

People can be, at the very least, so thoughtless, &, at the worst, just downright mean & cruel.

 

[NFLDERS]

I think the lesson I learned from posting here is that there are so many people from different walks of life here, in terms of locations, ages, and backgrounds and such, that what one assumes when they're posting can be challenged when you least expect it by people with other views, and it can be a bit shocking at first, because a lot of us day-to-day are used to communicating with people who think similarly to how we do, so when people with different views challenge our thoughts and opinions, it's quickly very eye opening. (ie aka thread going south.) But I think that's also the thing that's kept me here - I enjoy hearing others' perspectives and learning new things, getting to know personalities, etc., so I try not to get upset, but more appreciate when someone has a different opinion than I do, although, for me, a lot depends on how someone says something. Anyway, I think there are a lot of good people here and I wonder how they compare in person to their posting personas. I think a lot of people would probably have us surprised, and probably in a good way.

HEAR! HEAR! Well said Pea-n-Me.

 

[NFLDERS]

I used to be in a forum where I knew most people personally. The ones who were the strongest, loudest, most strident and argumentative were quiet folks in real life with no hint of an argumentative nature. I would never have dreamed they would be what they were on the forums.

Also, I agree that I like the hear the various viewpoints. I learn a LOT about how people think about things. Many, many viewpoints I would never have considered on my own. Also helps me learn a lot about the nuances of etiquette as well as cultural expectations (I try to pay a lot of attention to this as I didn't grow up here)

Hear! Hear!

 

[DawnM]

I have exactly ONE PERSON on ignore. That person went off on me on another thread for something really dumb.

I haven't thought of him/her in a long time actually, but whoever it is just popped up on a thread I contributed to and it says, "So and So, who is on your ignore list, has posted to this thread, click here to see what was posted"

Do you think I can NOT click?

Nope!

HAHAHA

 

[cabanafrau]

That kind of thing happens here too. A DISer once said to me, "You have a beautiful little girl there. Let's imagine that she somehow lost her life to some type of tragedy." My DD was 7-years old at the time.

Did they actually put those words out in the open on the board here, or did they PM you with that garbage? I don't care how old your daughter was, not okay. If I had seen that on the boards here I would have hit report -- and then proceeded to raise a ruckus. Just not okay.

I don't report posts aside from spam or one time when I believe we had a child predator looking for fresh fodder for their fetish -- and was getting responses even after I gave a heads up warning out on the thread that offering up pics of your child's tummy for this sicko and the world to see probably wasn't a good idea!

I am an independent thinker who has zero problem disagreeing with someone, telling them so and defending my viewpoint if necessary. I don't take it personally if someone disagrees with me and I don't deliver my disagreement in a way that's meant to be personal either. I'm not the best at knowing many posters from thread to thread either, so I'm quite certain I can be found disagreeing with someone in one thread and in agreement on another -- I've actually caught it happening and laughed about it. It's just discussion and I find some of the most interesting thoughts come from those I disagree with.

 

[robinb]

Did they actually put those words out in the open on the board here, or did they PM you with that garbage? I don't care how old your daughter was, not okay. If I had seen that on the boards here I would have hit report -- and then proceeded to raise a ruckus. Just not okay.

Thank you. They said it openly but it was a long time ago and the poster is long gone. My DD's photo used to be in my signature and they were trying to make a point but imagined my DD dead to do so. FWIW, the whole thread didn't even go "south" ... just that comment.

 

[cabanafrau]

Thank you. They said it openly but it was a long time ago and the poster is long gone. My DD's photo used to be in my signature and they were trying to make a point but imagined my DD dead to do so. FWIW, the whole thread didn't even go "south" ... just that comment.

Well I sure hope they simply made a really clueless, both feet in mouth, attempt at some kind of comparison or something like that gone way wrong and weren't saying they wished your daughter dead or threatening her like I originally thought. I'm not saying the comparison was okay, but I feel better if there was no malice or threat behind what they said.

I've run into a few situations in my work where people have made really horrendous comments in that kind of way and caused court officers to get ready to pounce, simply to sort out several tense minutes later that they actually operate at a level where what average people would consider an egregious violation of societal boundaries is a way of communicating that's normal in their world. I don't understand how humans get so twisted up where they almost live in a different dimension or something where those types of expressions are accepted, but I have actually seen it more than once IRL. I would be so spooked if someone did it commenting about a photo of my child, whether she was seven or 70.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I'm not the best at knowing many posters from thread to thread either, so I'm quite certain I can be found disagreeing with someone in one thread and in agreement on another

That definitely happens to me!

 

[ronandannette]

The only points I've ever received were for starring out a word and "circumventing the filter." It wasn't even a bad word, just one as a new poster to the CB I thought some might be offended by and I couldn't think of different one. I see it ALL the time though and find myself wondering if all those people are actually getting points for it. I kind of felt at the time they were just putting a newbie "in check."

See and one time I didn't spell out the word but used it's first letter and a moderator advised me they changed it to all stars. They mentioned circumventing the filter and then I responded back that was def. not what I was trying to do (I wasn't assigned pts though). Interesting how they changed mine to stars but gave you points for staring the word

I had this explained to me in minute detail by a Mod once when I enquires about my points. Apparently you can basically just let 'er rip with profanity and as long as it gets caught in the system's filter, you're fine. It's trying to "circumvent" the filter that's the violation, which seems totally crazy to me, but whatever. I now use the odd cuss-word (when it really expresses my thoughts) - the stars show up in the post and I've never been given points again.

...I don't take it personally if someone disagrees with me and I don't deliver my disagreement in a way that's meant to be personal either. I'm not the best at knowing many posters from thread to thread either, so I'm quite certain I can be found disagreeing with someone in one thread and in agreement on another -- I've actually caught it happening and laughed about it. It's just discussion and I find some of the most interesting thoughts come from those I disagree with.

This is so me - due to my faulty memory I'm lousy at holding a grudge. I'm a little in awe of the PP who mentioned something about noticing that somebody he'd disagreed with had "liked" other posts disagreeing with him; ostensibly to "send him a message". I'd never in a million years be able to connect those dots. You need to be pretty blunt upfront if you want to offend me.

 

[robinb]

I recognise people from thread to thread, but am lost when they change their signatures or avatars.

 

[kimblebee]

I had this explained to me in minute detail by a Mod once when I enquires about my points. Apparently you can basically just let 'er rip with profanity and as long as it gets caught in the system's filter, you're fine. It's trying to "circumvent" the filter that's the violation, which seems totally crazy to me, but whatever. I now use the odd cuss-word (when it really expresses my thoughts) - the stars show up in the post and I've never been given points again.

This is so me - due to my faulty memory I'm lousy at holding a grudge. I'm a little in awe of the PP who mentioned something about noticing that somebody he'd disagreed with had "liked" other posts disagreeing with him; ostensibly to "send him a message". I'd never in a million years be able to connect those dots. You need to be pretty blunt upfront if you want to offend me.

The rules for language are very subjective I think. I once used a word (ball) but in a different context. It didn't get starred out so I thought I was ok. I got points (not just a warning) and when I asked for an explaination I was told that the filters don't read context, just the actual word. The word I used was ok, but not in the context I used it.

 

[SirDuff]

I recognise people from thread to thread, but am lost when they change their signatures or avatars.

My problem is when different people use the same/similar avatars - totally throws me.

Okay, *one* of my problems.