Rude Behavior At Disney

[SueM in MN]

just to let you know - if you stop at City Hall you can get a card and tag which allow you to use your DS's stroller as a wheelchair, which are allowed into all lines and "story time" areas. Clearly your son is not in a stroller for your convenience, but due to medical need. Stop at guest relations next time, and a CM can help you. that way you do not need to speak to a CM at each attraction, but just show the card, and you will not be told to keep your "stroller" out of the way. You will be able to bring the stroller into shows, too, so he can stay on oxygen or feeding when needed...

There is more information about the Guest Assistance Card in post #6 of the disABILITIES FAQs thread (there's a link to that thread in my signature).

It mat not silence all the rude people, but at least the CMs will see it and allow the stroller in.

 

[abarnold]

There is more information about the Guest Assistance Card in post #6 of the disABILITIES FAQs thread (there's a link to that thread in my signature).

It mat not silence all the rude people, but at least the CMs will see it and allow the stroller in.

Thanks to both of you. We didn't realize we could have done that until after we went (I guess I should have found these boards sooner )

LUCKILY when we go next summer- we will not have this problem. He is finally well enough not to be on oxygen anymore- and his feeding tube has been removed

Now we will still have the stroller as a means to "attempt" to keep him from running wild but it will not be required as his medical support, thank goodness!

 

[buffettgirl]

Thanks to both of you. We didn't realize we could have done that until after we went (I guess I should have found these boards sooner )

LUCKILY when we go next summer- we will not have this problem. He is finally well enough not to be on oxygen anymore- and his feeding tube has been removed

Now we will still have the stroller as a means to "attempt" to keep him from running wild but it will not be required as his medical support, thank goodness!

I'm so happy your little boy will not have these things next summer!!!!

I have a child with medical conditions and it's amazing what people will say - and I always think "do these people think we enjoy this?? that our kids are ill?" If people just thought for a moment...

Anyway - I have my biggest pet peeve - we're on a bus. Last visit ds was 6 and dd was 13. So we're on the bus and many times I'd make them stand up to let another adult sit down. But what would happen - dd would stand up to let the adult sit and the adult instead would plop her little precious 10 year old right in the seat that DD just vacated. It just rubbed me the wrong way. I'm making my kid stand up so you can plop your kid down?? I don't think so. I didn't mind so much when it happened to my teenager because I do understand that kids sometimes are really tired at the end of the night, but it really ticked me off when I made my 6 year old stand up and an older kid sat down.

Another bus story - happened too many times - we're sitting waiting for the bus, either we're the first on the bench or we've sat down in line on the bench, and groups of people come and stand to wait for the bus jumping on in front of us - what do they think? that's we're just sitting there waiting for nothing?

One more - when they open the back doors to let on a wheel chair and then leave the back door open so people jump on the back of the bus, from the back of the line, while many of us at the front are still trying to get on - people that have patiently been waiting in line.

 

[livndisney]

I'm so happy your little boy will not have these things next summer!!!!

I have a child with medical conditions and it's amazing what people will say - and I always think "do these people think we enjoy this?? that our kids are ill?" If people just thought for a moment...

Anyway - I have my biggest pet peeve - we're on a bus. Last visit ds was 6 and dd was 13. So we're on the bus and many times I'd make them stand up to let another adult sit down. But what would happen - dd would stand up to let the adult sit and the adult instead would plop her little precious 10 year old right in the seat that DD just vacated. It just rubbed me the wrong way. I'm making my kid stand up so you can plop your kid down?? I don't think so. I didn't mind so much when it happened to my teenager because I do understand that kids sometimes are really tired at the end of the night, but it really ticked me off when I made my 6 year old stand up and an older kid sat down.

Another bus story - happened too many times - we're sitting waiting for the bus, either we're the first on the bench or we've sat down in line on the bench, and groups of people come and stand to wait for the bus jumping on in front of us - what do they think? that's we're just sitting there waiting for nothing?

One more - when they open the back doors to let on a wheel chair and then leave the back door open so people jump on the back of the bus, from the back of the line, while many of us at the front are still trying to get on - people that have patiently been waiting in line.

The "other side" of this if you will...

Not that anyone has ever offered me their seat on a bus (nor do I expect them to), but if someone had-I would "plop" my child into it for their safety. You can't always see that my child can't hold on on a moving bus (medical needs) (which is why we drive).

At the Bus Stops where they do have benches (POR and BW come to mind), different busses stop at that stop. If you have parked yourself on a bench how is anyone to know which bus you intend to get on?

 

[crashbb]

A few years ago my Dad and I were going on the Magic Carpets of Aladdin as we were steping into the vechicle this father tells his little girl that this one is free and cut right into front of us as we were about to step in. Since that was the last one we had to wait for the ride to finish so we could get on. I was also shocked that he basically told his daugther it's ok to cut into front of people and I wanted to tell a Cast Member about this, however my Dad said to forget about it.

Don't the CM count the number of people that they let into the carpet area? I would have thought that they would only let in enough people such that everyone had a carpet. I know that they do that on the other rides.

 

[DisneyDayTripper]

I definitely agree that I hate when people shove their kids up into the crowd along Main St. We had taken my parents for their first ever trip to the world and it just so happened to be the night they had Spectra. We had nothing else better to do so we sat down and got some ice cream and sat right outside the ice cream shop. If you look there is an overhang and the rope goes right down the sidewalk. There is just enough room for someone to sit there with the rope behind you. The night we were there a CM was standing there forcing people to keep moving during the parade so we did not have to worry about people being behind us. We were enjoying the parade and this mother walks up shoves her daughter under the rope and onto my dad's back. My parent's are very friendly people, but this girl was leaning all over them. She could see the parade just fine, but she appeared to want to view the floats all the way down at the other end of the road. She didn't speak English and the mom had disappeared only to come back with an ice cream cone for the little one....I am sure you can imagine what happens next. The little one has an ice cream cone in her hand trying to lean over my dad to see the parade...I saw an opportunity when the girl walked back to her mom and told my parents to scoot back so there was no more room. I know Disney is for kids, but we had been waiting there for an hour and a half for my parents to see the parade for their first time and I was not about to let it be ruined for them.

Another thing that made me laugh that night is how many times the CM had to tell people not to stop along the sidewalk during the parade. Like a thousand times people would just stop right in the middle of the sidewalk and be like "oh wow look at this amazingly perfect spot to stop and watch the fireworks...you'd think someone would have taken it by now" and then the CM would be like "sorry this is a sidewalk you cannot stop you must keep walking" lol......and then moments before the parade people were practically leaping over us to get behind us only to be disappointed. If you don't know you have to line up an hour or so before the parade to get a good seat you deserve to get your hopes up and then be disappointed.

 

[buffettgirl]

The "other side" of this if you will...

Not that anyone has ever offered me their seat on a bus (nor do I expect them to), but if someone had-I would "plop" my child into it for their safety. You can't always see that my child can't hold on on a moving bus (medical needs) (which is why we drive).

At the Bus Stops where they do have benches (POR and BW come to mind), different busses stop at that stop. If you have parked yourself on a bench how is anyone to know which bus you intend to get on?

Granted, I'm sure that happens, situations like you've described with your child, but it can't possibly always be the case. And wouldn't you say something like "thank you for the seat. I'm going to put my child here because she can't hold on" That's what I'd say.

and my bus experiences have been at SOG when SOG is the only bus coming. And I've had it happen leaving Contem. when there was only one bus coming.

 

[onelilspark]

I have a few stories about rude behavior...

One didn't happen at Disney, but it's travel related. A few years ago I was at bag claim waiting for my bag (because ya know, that's generally what you do there...) and I was standing about a foot back or so, so that if someone saw their bag come down, they had room to get in front of me and get it. Well, I see my bag start coming down, and seeing as how I'm close enough to the carousel, I wasn't too concerned about moving forward, but then these two guys stepped in front of me in that little space I had reserved. Not to grab a bag, but just to stand and wait. I was maybe 19 or 20 at the time and these guys were probably mid to late 20s. Hmmm, okay. So I said "excuse me" since my bag was coming (and I had been standing there.) They didn't move. I said it again, louder. Didn't move. Alright then...Reached through them, said excuse me again, grabbed my bag as it was coming in front of us, and pulled. Neither of them moved OR helped me. So obviously my bag smacked them. They looked at me with this look like, "what the heck was that for?" And of course now I'm pissed, I mean c'mon, chivalry anyone? So I just said, "I said excuse me." And walked off.

Another time we were in line for Tower of Terror. My grandfather was the last one in line and some guy in an ECV kept ramming him in his heels. Like he was going to go anywhere... My grandfather gave him quite the tongue-lashing!

My last story is a real doozy. We were watching the Candle Light Processional in Epcot this past December. This woman was sitting two rows back from us. While we were waiting for it to start she had the loudest voice and kept going on and on. I could tell you more things about her personal life than I cared to know. I can also tell you that she was a chaperone and a parent of one of the kids in the choir. Saying how she had to make sure they kept the kids separated on the bus because you know how kids are. I mention this because then about half way through the program, she starts calling people on her cell phone!! "Can you hear them?!" So we start with the nasty glares...nadda. So as she continues, it was just too much. And this is someone who has a kid on stage!!! So there were about 5 people who had just had it all at the same time, all telling her to shut her trap (all different words.) My Mom turned around and told her to shut it and just held her gaze. She finally was like, "I gotta go." into the cell phone and hung up. That one just amazed me. I would be mortified if my parents did that and I was on stage!!!

 

[BenA81]

The rude behavior I witnessed was from one of the cutest little girls ever who couldn't have been more than 5yo. I was waiting for my oldest dd and dh at MGM, they were getting on the ToT. I was sitting on the curb and I saw the little girl sitting in the stroller looking super sad. I felt so bad for her. Her mother was standing with her but was preoccupied with yelling and cursing at her teen children. I looked over at the little girl and smiled hoping to brighten her day some. She gave me the nastiest evil eye I had ever seen then proceeded to give me the middle finger. I was in shock but managed to give her a firm look and mouth that wasn't very nice. She did look ashamed after so maybe she won't do it again any time soon. She was an adorable little girl but it was obvious that the parenting skills were lacking in that family.

did you get a picture?

 

[drnlhome]

Haha... good luck with the giving a mom holding a sleeping child a seat thing.

We went in April 2007 when DD was 18 months old and I was 7 months PG. DH and I got split up on the bus and I happened to be the one holding DD asleep at the time. Did anyone offer me a seat??? Nope! I was trying to hold on to a bar thing and hang on to DD sound asleep.

That was a hard trip because we had to get DD out of the stroller to fold it up and sadly DH is the only one who knows how to fold it so I would always be the one holding her.

Anyway... sorry OT rant.

I am not trying to "toot my own horn" but I wanted to let you know that there are kind people who are exhausted at DW and are still considerate. A couple of years ago we were staying at POP and you know how those bus lines can be - WOW. And the fact that you practically have to walk to Atlanta to get to the stop in the first place doesn't help. Well, a mom with sleeping 3/4 yo girl is trying to get on the bus. The little girl is in a stroller and sound, I mean sound asleep. I offered to hold her daughter so she could fold the stroller (looked much more complicated than holding a "sleeping beauty". haha The look of relief and gratitude was awesome. I actually held her the whole bus trip back. Sleeping Beauty woke up right as we arrived at POP and looked at me with such a look of confusion that it was quite funny. It was a great service lesson for my kids and I got to relive the feeling of my kids sleeping on me when they were babies! To me it was a win-win-win (the mom-my kids-me).

I don't do well with like cutters and I have been known to strategically position myself in lines. My dh just laughs.

 

[hitthebids]

Maybe this is the wrong way to think, but it is my opinion. We are all there to have a vacation. We are all tired, hot, cranky whatever. We should all use our inside voices when speaking to our group and we should be courteous to everyone. That being said if you are in a wheelchair or a scooter or if you are overburdened with your kids stroller, backpack or crib don't expect anyone else to care. Sometimes if you can't do something then don't. If you have 4 kids in strollers and can't get them on the tram, then you need to walk to the gate. If you have a scooter and I walk in front of you, you needed to stop. You are moving twice as fast as me and I don't know you are coming. If you realize the 3'o clock parade just started, then you are not getting a good spot for either you or your kids. Just let is go and chalk it to experience for next time. There have been plenty of times we could not do something or go somewhere because of our kids or other reasons. Waiting for a few buses to pass if you must sit is OK. If you are in a hurry wait your turn and be prepared to stand. If you got 2 kids hanging on you, that is your pblm not mine. You should have done the shore vacation. Like I said before, I am not mean or rude to anyone, but if you have special needs then YOU have them, not the rest of us. We are all spending the same amount of crazy money on these vacations. This board and others will help you out and give advice before you go to help you plan. Use it.

 

[BlueLightning]

I almost never have problems with rude people at Disney, but...

Several years ago, while in line for Big Thunder Mountain Railroad, a child began kicking my calves pretty hard. I turned around and did the friendly smile that says, "please stop." Nothing. I turned around and gave a friendly, "easy, kiddo." Nothing. I turned around and sternly asked, "Please stop." The mom goes into a tirade on me telling me she is going to fight me. I informed her she would not be fighting me and that if she or her son harassed me in any way I would have security escort them out.

Finally got some peace.

BL

 

[AndyMcV]

Yeah the strollers and ECV's drive me nuts when people smash into youe legs constantly while trying ti leave the parks. Get over it people we are all trying to get home!!

Wow. I've never experienced this. However I guarantee if someone continually hit me or my children in the back of the legs with their stroller, I'd lose it. Seriously. It's bad enough to be super impatient but to do something like that. Words would be spoken for sure and that stroller would be going somewhere that they didn't want it to be.

 

[Sneezie]

I haven't encountered any rude behavior at WDW that I've noticed anyway. But I would definitely not have a problem addressing line cutters, ECV pushers and loud talkers.

One remedy I have for people (in any situation) who tend to talk "loudly" on their cell phones in inappropriate places is to join in on their conversation. I'll speak directly to them, answer questions, make comments, etc. while their talking to the person on the other line. Their obviously talking to me, right? It may seem rude, but it tends to work. I usually respond to their evil eye with a smile and a laugh .

I love Fantasmic and my sister loves RnRC so I'll go and sit in the theater for Fantasmic while she's riding RnRC. I'll attempt to hold a seat for her for a while, but she knows if she takes too long her seat is up for grabs. I'm not going to stop a family who makes it to the show on time from sitting because she wants to get in a few more loops.

 

[mickeyluv'r]

Ahh....the typical rudeness topics condensed into one convenient thread....

Simply put, rudeness often goes both ways...line cutters/those who feel their place in line is sacred, stroller vs. non-strollers, ECV vs nonECV, bus seats, tired kids, path blockers, fast vs. slow walkers...oh, and has anybody talked about refillable mugs yet? Simply put, rudeness often goes both ways. politeness can go both ways too. Maybe that person who was initially rude will turn around and do something exceptionally nice a moment later- I've seen that too. Like the QS line cutter who then offers you a free beverage.

 

[Scurvy]

Most of my pet peeves involve people who are not aware of their surroundings. Those with strollers or scooters who ram into the people in front of them, those who walk out right in front of a stroller or scooter, the people who stop suddenly to take pictures or look at maps, the ones who forget that their umbrella or large backpack will hit the people around them if they turn around suddenly . . . I am sure that most of those people don't even notice what they are doing. If everyone would just try to be more aware of everyone around them most of those things could be eliminated.

I also think it's inconsiderate to take flash photos in a dark ride or show or to speak in a loud voice in rides or shows.

And of course as mentioned in another thread, one of my biggest pet peeves involves bubbles, as well as misting fans and spray-on sunscreen. I hate it when people use those things in line because they get on my glasses and my camera, and as I recently discovered some of those things can stain clothing. I think it's inconsiderate to use those sorts of things in line when you have a captive audience around you. It isn't possible to completely control where those things go, and the people around you might not want to end up wearing them.

 

[katymare]

I have issues with the peple who walk into the theaters (Muppets, Honey i shrunk the audience, etc) and just sit wherever they please..all the while the CM is telling everyone to move all the way down to the end of the row.

If i have to step over you and your bags..i am not going to worry about where my feet land and what I step on...


The only other thing that irritates me is the stopping right in the middle of a crowd to chat or figure out where you are or where you need to go, answer a phone, looks for something in the stroller, bookbag, etc....seriously move out of the crowd...you will less likely be stepped on. I had to make my husband move out of the crowd a few times....finally I let him get plowed over and he finally got it.

 

[toocherie]

Maybe this is the wrong way to think, but it is my opinion. We are all there to have a vacation. We are all tired, hot, cranky whatever. We should all use our inside voices when speaking to our group and we should be courteous to everyone. That being said if you are in a wheelchair or a scooter or if you are overburdened with your kids stroller, backpack or crib don't expect anyone else to care. Sometimes if you can't do something then don't. If you have 4 kids in strollers and can't get them on the tram, then you need to walk to the gate. If you have a scooter and I walk in front of you, you needed to stop. You are moving twice as fast as me and I don't know you are coming. If you realize the 3'o clock parade just started, then you are not getting a good spot for either you or your kids. Just let is go and chalk it to experience for next time. There have been plenty of times we could not do something or go somewhere because of our kids or other reasons. Waiting for a few buses to pass if you must sit is OK. If you are in a hurry wait your turn and be prepared to stand. If you got 2 kids hanging on you, that is your pblm not mine. You should have done the shore vacation. Like I said before, I am not mean or rude to anyone, but if you have special needs then YOU have them, not the rest of us. We are all spending the same amount of crazy money on these vacations. This board and others will help you out and give advice before you go to help you plan. Use it.

I generally agree with you except for the bolded language. While there are circumstances where I can see people ahead cutting across in front of me, and can slow down or stop as appropriate, until you've actually experienced it you can't believe the number of times where someone has decided there's "just" enough room to skoosh in front of the scooter--and there isn't. And I don't go fast. It's like they see a "hole" and they go for it.

 

[Princess MaryPoppins]

Yeah the strollers and ECV's drive me nuts when people smash into youe legs constantly while trying ti leave the parks. Get over it people we are all trying to get home!!

Ah there are two sides to this argument. I had to use an ECV one time at christmas because I had dislocated my knee. I was sick and tired after about the third day of being in a busy park and people cutting infront of me and diving round me to get ahead of me. I continually had to slam the brakes on, which drove me insane. So in the end i took the attitude that if people were going to be so stupid as to cut infront of me like that, I wasn't going to stop and they would get their ankles rammed. Its their fault for being so rediculous. It happened wiht one woman and she looked at me like 'what the hell are you doing?!' I said 'you shouldnt have just jumped infront of me then!' - she didnt have a response!

I now am very tolerant of people in wheelchairs at Disney because I know how frustrating it is from their point of view, but I guess you have to be in that situation to understand.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

As a stroller pusher, this goes both ways. When the stroller pusher tries to leave a little bit of space in front so not to run into the legs of people, you would not believe how many people squeeze in that space. Then turn around and glare when your stroller touches them.

Yes, I remember when my girls were in strollers, it was amazing how many people would look right at the stroller, make a flying leap trying to cut in front of it, then turn around and glare when their heels got clipped. As rude as they were in the first place, I will always try to stop if I can, but strollers don't stop on a dime, and sometimes they jump in so fast and so close, it's impossible to avoid hitting them.

I just laugh at them for getting mad at me for something that was completely their fault.

My dh had the experience of carrying a sleeping 3yo on a bus and no one offering a seat, either. Not that I expect any one person to do so, I know about hidden disabilities, and I know they have the right to a seat, as they were on the bus first. Obviously, we wouldn't have gotten on if we felt he really really needed the seat. But it's still a little sad that so few people have the manners to make the offer. We always stand up when someone else looks like they need the seat more than we do -- myself, my dh and our two girls.

Overall, we've had good experiences in the parks. Not a lot of rudeness at all, but one that really sticks out were the resort-bus line-cutters when we were leaving a park (I think it was Typhoon Lagoon). There wasn't a real well marked line, but we figured it out and got in line. This couple, probably in their 50's, got off one bus and came straight to the waiting area for our resort bus. Instead of getting in line, they just sort of hung out near the front of the line. At first, I thought they were having trouble telling what was the front of the line, and expected them to hang back until everyone else got on the bus. But no, as soon as the bus pulled up and doors opened, they made a beeline for it, got on and sat down, staring straight ahead and avoiding all eye contact with everyone else, probably because they knew they were jerks and knew they were getting stink-eye!

It turned out that everyone who had been waiting got on the bus and got a seat, which is good for those two idiots (and for my dh! ) because if anyone had ended up standing, I would have gotten in their faces and told them they need to stand up and give the seat to the people who were ahead of them in line.