roomate help

[phillybeth]

nO your not, but im not gonna bother with the contract so dont worry and I wont move in with her even though I would be fine, Im now moving to the bad part of town in a crappy aparment.

Aww, trying to make us feel bad?

You've gottne lots of good advice here. It's YOUR choice whether to take it or not. Only you are responsible for your actions, and you can't control other people to the extent that you seem to want to with that 'contract'.

 

[CheshireVal]

I thought you said that you could ask another friend of yours to move in if things didn't work out with the roommate. Why not just ask that friend now?

I'm so confused.

Move in with your best friend if you must (but I think it will damage your friendship, even though the friendship seems damaged already), but just don't do the contract.

 

[yeartolate]

nO your not, but im not gonna bother with the contract so dont worry and I wont move in with her even though I would be fine, Im now moving to the bad part of town in a crappy aparment.

I think that is the definition of a snarky comment.


Listen, you had a bunch of people indicate your contract was over the top.

We don't know you or your friend. I can see when talking about moving in together talking about issues and writing up something together, but this contract is more than what a a convict being paroled would have to agree to.

Roomate situations are iffy at best, and I guarantee that piece of paper won't change much, only add tension.

I guarantee that when the money becomes an issue and she doesn't pay rent, the landlord isn't gonna care that you paid your half. He is gonna send both your names (assumeing they are both on the lease) to the credit companies and you won't even be able to buy a car after that...

That is why it needs to start with trust. And that obviously isn't there.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

nO your not, but im not gonna bother with the contract so dont worry and I wont move in with her even though I would be fine, Im now moving to the bad part of town in a crappy aparment.

So since you can't use the contract you cannot move in with her?

To be honest the even though you are friends you do not sound like you can be roommates. Your lifestyles do not match.

Nothing wrong with that. Moving into a crappy apartment doesn't sound so bad. I have very found memories of my first crappy apartment.
It is one of the tales we tell our kids. The raccoons that lived in the chimney, the apartment above us with 10+ people living in it. Everytime they flushed and you were showering you have to dive out of the way otherwise you would be scalded to DEATH. Stuff like that.

 

[yeartolate]

So since you can't use the contract you cannot move in with her?

To be honest the even though you are friends you do not sound like you can be roommates. Your lifestyles do not match.

Nothing wrong with that. Moving into a crappy apartment doesn't sound so bad. I have very found memories of my first crappy apartment.
It is one of the tales we tell our kids. The raccoons that lived in the chimney, the apartment above us with 10+ people living in it. Everytime they flushed and you were showering you have to dive out of the way otherwise you would be scalded to DEATH. Stuff like that.

My first apartment on my own was a studio in San Francisco right next to a mortuary. No good grocery store nearby and I existed on Doggie DIner meals for a year.When my neighbors toilet flushed MY shower went hot. I really never wanted to lnow what the stain in the fridge was that would never clean up. I knew when my neighbors were naughty and nice, I remember being so proud when I painted the place (only took an hour )I had the time of my life.

 

[Mono~rail]

nO your not, but im not gonna bother with the contract so dont worry and I wont move in with her even though I would be fine, Im now moving to the bad part of town in a crappy aparment.

Thank goodness you've come to your senses! From reading that contract, you will do better living by yourself than with a roommate. Good luck to you!

 

[azgal81]

nO your not, but im not gonna bother with the contract so dont worry and I wont move in with her even though I would be fine, Im now moving to the bad part of town in a crappy aparment.

Awesome you are finally listening to us!!! Remember there are no crappy parts of town if you install multiple deadbolts on your door.

 

[mom2boys]

What would you guys include in a roomate contract with someone whos controlling and has temper issues? my bfriend and I are getting a place together in june. I dont want to get stuck doing all the work so that should be coverd, bills, and so such. I have no clue what to put in a contract. help

Don't bother with the contract. It's not enforcable & will only lead to more fights. Why would you want to move in with this type of person?

 

[OK!]

Ah, my first crappy apartment (with the aforementioned psycho)...Our apartment had paper-thin walls and we had, er, amorous neighbors who liked to, ah, "show their feelings" for one another in the bathtub, of all places. Several times a week. We heard everything. (Oh, and this was also the bathroom my nasty hag of a roommate liked to lock me out of when she left the house. Grr.)

Our other neighbors were very fond of Thai food, so consequently our whole end of the complex constantly smelled spicy. Shortly after we moved into a different townhouse, Jamie (the psycho) told me that, unbeknownst to me, there'd been a hobo living just outside our storage area at night. The storage area, BTW, was right outside my bedroom door (my "closet" actually was the chicken-wire-enclosed storage area; I had the entire lower level--which was designed as a rec room and not a bedroom and therefore had no built-in closet--as my bedroom). All that separated me from some random man at night while I slept was a lock flimsier than most you see on public bathroom stalls! She didn't want to tell me while we still lived there because she "didn't want to freak me out."

 

[hydster]

nO your not, but im not gonna bother with the contract so dont worry and I wont move in with her even though I would be fine, Im now moving to the bad part of town in a crappy aparment.

It's the crappy apartments that make you thankful for the better ones. We had a homeless man sleeping in our stairwell in our crappy apartment. Turned out he was a really great guy who "watched" our apartment from outside while we were at work and was thankful for a decent meal when we got home each night. I wouldn't have ever met him if we had lived in our next apartment.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

If you really would have been fine, you wouldn't have needed advice and that ludicrous contract!

EXACTLY