Road Side Memorials and Shrines. Possible debate

[Disney Doll]

I think for some reason they make the families and/or friends of the deceased feel better, and perhaps should be allowed to stay for a week or two, but not for years.

 

[laurie31]

Originally posted by peachgirl
I don't know, but I don't think I'll judge how long someone should miss and grieve for their loved ones. Perhaps if your husband dies, in 5 years you'll be over it, but maybe others don't forget so quickly.

I didn't mean to imply that the widow should no longer grieve - if anything happened to my DH, I don't know if I'd ever get over it, but I can't imagine going out every month and decorating the spot where a big truck crossed the center line and crushed his vehicle If this makes her feel better, that's fine, I just think it's a bit odd to do it for so long. Honestly, it makes me feel sorry for her. We do keep wondering when she's going to stop, though.

Most people on here seem to think a week or a month is long enough for the memorials to stay. I'm sure they don't mean the mourners should be "over it" by then.

Laurie

 

[Feralpeg]

Missouri was trying to pass a law outlawing personal roadside shrines. They said that they could be dangerous to other drivers and to the people that maintain them. They also said it was very hard for the crews that mow along the highways. Instead, Missouri would allow families to purchase a typical highway sign with the name of their lost loveones that could be erected at the accident site.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by Beth76
I'm guessing that this is an urban legend. It reminds me of another "story" that I've seen in an email. Again, I'm guessing. I could be wrong, but it seems to be along the same lines.

Actually, I don't think so. The cemetary is right next to our former church and school. The church sold the property to the city many moons ago. I know that a couple years ago there started to be a "debate" on what should and shouldn't be allowed in the "public" cemetary. It's been going on quite a few years. Sad.

 

[MosMom]

When my SIL was killed in an accident, her SUV landed in a farmer's field. My BIL asked the farmer permission to plant a tree and did that instead. He said he felt her presence there more than when he went to visit her at the cemetary. I completely understand the desire to do something like this as I've been there.

Personally, I never have been to the tree. I am happy just to visit at the cemetary. Besides, even when I am 2,000 miles away I still know she is with me. I don't need to visit the cemetary or the shrine to know that.