Riddled With Guilt

[tinker&belle]

DH suggested that we pony up the $150 to get DSD a pink nano and then give DS 6 the touch. His reasoning being that 1) DS 6 doesn't have another family giving him gifts; 2) He isn't too interested in music yet but he loves movies and games; 3)the three oldest (and most prone to fighting and jealousy) would have the same item, thereby eliminating any conflict; and 4) DS 6 is the most likely to allow us to carefully control his access.

Of course that does mean we would end up spending more than we planned. I don't think the sweet lawyer that gave me the ipod necessarily cares which kid gets it. She just wanted to help out. Again, the last thing I want to do is disrespect her gift in any way, shape or form.

I think I worry too much.

Reading this from an outside perspective, I'm wondering if you've thought about how your older children will feel about the youngest one (that is both your biological child and DH's biological child) getting the best gift. Even if jealousy does not play a role in the family, from an outside perspective, I would worry about that. I dated a boy once who had two half siblings and always felt like he was the 'outsider' in their family. I'm sure that's not your intention, however that may be how it is perceived.

Certainly not judging or flaming, just wanted to throw another perspective in that you may not have thought of.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

I bet alot of mixed results would come up when you google that I'm thinking something other than the band would come up on some porn site

Someone suggested a combo birthday/christmas gift.. yeah am a new years eve baby.. please don't do the combo.. I had it done many many times as a kid.. it always felt like instead of a birthday gift they just put a Christmas gift aside and held on to it for my birthday...

Google, maybe..but the PP said the kiddo was going to YouTube. I looked at 2 pages of YT NBB, and saw nothing out of whack. Didn't watch them all though. I may be wrong, but I don't think You Tube allows pornography, or nudity..although the language on some of the videos is "R" rated.

 

[floridafam]

Reading this from an outside perspective, I'm wondering if you've thought about how your older children will feel about the youngest one (that is both your biological child and DH's biological child) getting the best gift. Even if jealousy does not play a role in the family, from an outside perspective, I would worry about that. I dated a boy once who had two half siblings and always felt like he was the 'outsider' in their family. I'm sure that's not your intention, however that may be how it is perceived.

Certainly not judging or flaming, just wanted to throw another perspective in that you may not have thought of.

Good point.