Remembering our Loved ones Dec. 21

safetymom

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The last several years I have done this here. I know the holidays are hard for many of us missing our loved ones.

On Dec. 21 we would all light a candle or candles to remember the loved ones that are no longer with us. It brings comfort to know that others are remembering them to.

So please provide me with the name of the person you would like us all to remember. I will put the names in the second post. If you would like to provide a memory please do so in this thread.

This is a poem I received from a grief group I was part of years ago when my husband died. I say this when we light the candles at our house.

Memorial Candles

As we light these four candles in honor of you,

we light one for our grief,

one for our courage,

one for our memories,

and one for our love.​


This candle represents our grief. The pain of losing you is intense. It reminds us of the depth of our love for you.



This candle represents our courage-- to confront our sorrow-- to comfort each other, to change our lives.



This light is in your memory-- the times we laughed, the times cried, the times we were angry with each other, the silly things you did, the caring and joy you gave us.



This light is the light of love. As we enter this holiday season, day by day we cherish the special place in our hearts that will always be reserved for you. We thank you for the gift your living brought to each of us.



We love you
 
Remembering our Loved ones

safetymom- My husband Fran who was taken too soon. The kids and I miss you. I miss my parents. They loved Christmas, it isn't the same without them.
I would also like everyone to say a prayer for our esteemed moderator Mackey Mouse and her family. Also if you could keep the Klose family in your prayers for their loss this year

Minniebeth- I would love to remember my father, Andrew, My sister Baby Mary who died at birth, I know she's our Guardian Angel
My dear friend's father, Robert.

denegate- I would like to remember my father, John and my friend TR.

TheDisneyGirl02- I would like to remember my grandparents - I just lost my last grandparent on November 1 just 2 weeks after my wedding. It's hard to believe that all of my grandparents are gone - but not forgotten.

quasar4legs- I would like to remember my dad, Ray. He has been gone 15 years and loved celebrating christmas. Once december the 1st arrived he played christmas carols at home and whenever I hear them now at the shops I get a big lump in my throat.

TruBlu- My Daddy who never got to know his grandchildren here on Earth. I lost him way too early.

Kathy C- I'd like to remember my mom who died of breast cancer almost four years ago at 64. She loved the holidays!

dogodisney- My dad who Feb 12th,1999 at the age of 62 and my mom who passed away Feb 14th, 2002 at the age of 63. Since it was Valentines Day (also the anniversary of her father's death) when she passed away, I had said she went to be with her sweetheart. My mom and dad had been married for 42 years. My mom loved Christmas and always made it special. Christmas is no longer the same for me. I'm hoping our trip will make it brighter.

Elfstar- I'd like to remember my husband, Jim, passed January 3rd of this year. And my cousin Gordon who died too young, and my mom, who was the original Christmas Elf in our family. All sorely missed and never forgotten.

tkbbmom- While we have lost many special family members and friends the one who is most heavily on my heart this year and the one who brings tears to my eyes so frequently these holidays is my daddy. His name was Marcus and he lost a five month battle to cancer on Jan 22 of this year. He loved Christmas and everyday - we had planned to take my parents to Disney this year as a Christmas treat --instead it's just us. I miss him so much and my dc - esp my little one and my oldest hurt so much from the loss.

accarson- Would like to remember my dear cousin Aretha that just passed 12/07/09. She was 38 yrs old and has been a diabetic since age 5. She leaves behind a daughter and new grandbaby.

KristiMC- I would like to remember my mom, who passed away 6 months ago today
(June 9, 2009). She was only 60 years old and is missed every day.

karen l- I'd like to remember my husband Jim & my parents - William & Eileen. Wishing everyone the best for this holiday season.

donaldduck352- I lost my mom Joyce age of 58,way to young, on Nov.16th of this year.She loved Chritmas so much,its gonna be hard not having her here this year.But I know she is A better place now.

zalansky-I'd like to remember my mom, Ginny, who passed at age 62 in 1998 and my father, Albert who passed at age 73 in 2007. Even though I have small children now, Christmas also isn't the same without them here

IMALOVNDISNEY- My Mom (Peggy)who was a CRAZY WOMAN during Christmas. Our house was decorated over the top. Wrapping paper on the window and lamp shades. Curtains made out of Christmas table cloths. Everyone loved our house during the holidays (except for us kids that lived there).. Now my dsis and I do some of those things that used to drive us nuts. She passed in 1992. My DD was born in 1994 and I know she was a gift from my Mother. She truly is my DD's Guardian Angel. Also, my Brother(Michael) who will be gone 8 years on the 23rd. of this month. Yes, 2 days before Christmas. There's not a day that goes by that I don't miss them. I feel them with me always. And I cherish my memories.

CarolAnnC- In honor of my husband Michael, who passed suddenly leaving his family at far too young an age. We treasure our memories, still feel the love, but also have an ache that will always be there for him. Prayers and hugs to everyone participating in this thread, too...

DIsNeYSweEtHrTs- I'd like to remember my mom. She passed away Nov. 22, 2009 at the young age of 50. I love you so much mom. I'll see you again someday...

Coach K- I want to remember the 2 women that are the most important in any man's life. My wife has been gone for 9 months now and, with her being a big Disney and Christmas fan, it is going to be tough for the first Christmas without her. She would take days to decorate the house! The other one is my mother. She's been gone almost 6 months now. All of us (her 6 sons-that's right, no daughters ) rallied around her when my father passed away almost 10 years ago. I miss them all terribly, but family and friends have been great with the invitations to dinner, party's etc.

Let's hope we all get through this time with a smile on our face and the memories of our departed love ones in our hearts.

Mackey Mouse- I will honor my husband Tom who battled Pancreatic Cancer for 5 years...

Planogirl- I'd like to remember my Dad John and my friend Jack. They both left too soon.

antmaril- I would like to remember my husband, Mat, who lost his battle with pancreatic cancer in July, 2008 at the age of 55.

Deesknee- I would like to remember my brother who left this earth in a vehicle accident at the age of 40. My Gram who left 3 yrs ago. my dear friend Leah who left too young from a brain anerysm, leaving her college age daughters and all lose disboards friends and their loved ones.

luvdzny- I would like to remember my DD's boyfriend, he died last year on December 14th at the age or 20 after an 18 month battle with Ewing's Sarcoma.

Hillbeans- I would like to remember my Mom, Ann Carol, who passed away on 8/17/03 at the age of 66 from Cancer.

luvsmickeymouse- My dad Milton Manchester passed away 10-4-08 My dog Rhoda, who was my best friend passed away 11-21-09.

Elfstar- My candles are lit - for DH Jim, Thomas (his favorite cat who went to be with him), my cousin Gordon and my mom, and for all of those whom you all have lost. Let winter solstice pass on and bring a brighter tomorrow, but with all the good memories of those we've lost.
 
Safetymom, this is so beautiful, thank you~
I would love to remember my father, Andrew
My sister Baby Mary who died at birth, I know she's our Guardian Angel:littleangel:
My dear friend's father, Robert

:hug:With appreciation,
~Beth
 
Thank you so much for this, your kindness overwhelms me. I would like to remember my father, John and my friend TR.
 

What a wonderful idea...

I would like to remember my grandparents - I just lost my last grandparent on November 1 just 2 weeks after my wedding. :littleangel: It's hard to believe that all of my grandparents are gone - but not forgotten.
 
Oh gosh, your thoughtful post has brought tears to my eyes.

I would like to remember my dad, Ray.
He has been gone 15 years and loved celebrating christmas. Once december the 1st arrived he played christmas carols at home and whenever I hear them now at the shops I get a big lump in my throat.

Thankyou for your kindness.:hug:

Quasar
 
My Daddy who never got to know his grandchildren here on Earth. I lost him way too early.
 
Thank you!

I'd like to remember my mom who died of breast cancer almost four years ago at 64. She loved the holidays!
 
Safetymom thank you for doing this. We will be at Disney on the 21st so I probably won't be getting on here but I will be here in thought. :littleangel:

My dad who Feb 12th,1999 at the age of 62
and my mom who passed away Feb 14th, 2002 at the age of 63
Since it was Valentines Day (also the anniversary of her father's death) when she passed away, I had said she went to be with her sweetheart. My mom and dad had been married for 42 years. :lovestruc

My mom loved Christmas and always made it special. Christmas is no longer the same for me. I'm hoping our trip will make it brighter.
 
What a wonderful custom!

I'd like to remember my husband, Jim, passed January 3rd of this year.

And my cousin Gordon who died too young, and my mom, who was the original Christmas Elf in our family. All sorely missed and never forgotten.
 
What a wonderful thought. I love the poem. We will be back from WDW on the morning of the 21st so I'm going out tomorrow to buy special candles just for this.

While we have lost many special family members and friends the one who is most heavily on my heart this year and the one who brings tears to my eyes so frequently these holidays is my daddy. His name was Marcus and he lost a five month battle to cancer on Jan 22 of this year. He loved Christmas and everyday - we had planned to take my parents to Disney this year as a Christmas treat --instead it's just us. I miss him so much and my dc - esp my little one and my oldest hurt so much from the loss.
 
Safetymom what a thoughtful way to remember.

Would like to remember my dear cousin Aretha that just passed 12/07/09. She was 38 yrs old and has been a diabetic since age 5. She leaves behind a daughter and new grandbaby.
 
I would like to remember my mom, who passed away 6 months ago today
(June 9, 2009). She was only 60 years old and is missed every day.
 
Thank you for doing this again Safetymom. I'd like to remember my husband Jim & my parents - William & Eileen. Wishing everyone the best for this holiday season.:hug:
 
Thank you safteymom this is A great way to remember the ones we lost.

I lost my mom Joyce age of 58,way to young, on Nov.16th of this year.She loved Chritmas so much,its gonna be hard not having her here this year.But I know she is A better place now.

There will deffinatly be A candle lit for her on the 21'st!!
 
I love this idea, thank you so much Safetymom. I'd like to remember my mom, Ginny, who passed at age 62 in 1998 and my father, Albert who passed at age 73 in 2007. Even though I have small children now, Christmas also isn't the same without them here :(
 
Thank you for doing this again this year. It's so thoughtful.

I'd like to add the same 2 people this year.
My Mom (Peggy)who was a CRAZY WOMAN during Christmas. Our house was decorated over the top. Wrapping paper on the window and lamp shades. Curtains made out of Christmas table cloths. Everyone loved our house during the holidays (except for us kids that lived there).:rolleyes1. Now my dsis and I do some of those things that used to drive us nuts. She passed in 1992. My DD was born in 1994 and I know she was a gift from my Mother. She truely is my DD's Gaurdian Angle.

Also, my Brother(Michael) who will be gone 8 years on the 23rd. of this month. Yes, 2 days before Christmas.

There's not a day that goes by that I don't miss them. I feel them with me always. And I charish my memories.
 
In honor of my husband Michael, who passed suddenly leaving his family at far too young an age..

We treasure our memories, still feel the love, but also have an ache that will always be there for him.

Prayers and hugs to everyone participating in this thread, too...
 



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