Remember the un-invited playmate issue?

[Mskanga]

Tell me one thing, who in their right mind allows a 6 year old go across a lot that builders are building a house with all the backhoes going on?
Yesterday I had one of the contractors come knocking on my door yelling at me for " allowing my son go across a dangerous site " and told me that if I allowed that again he would call the police on me.
I told the man to do me a favor and go to the real mother ( I pointed at the house across from the lot they are building on ) and let her know , because I was not the mother.
I'm sorry but the kid also started getting really nasty pushing the girls yesterday and I sent him home ( because again he came un-invited ) and since his parents don't seem to care to place his care on to me , I will gladly send him home everytime.

 

[CEDmom]

Wow, that's incredible. I think I would have been tempted to tell the guy to go ahead and call the police. I have several friends with children they can't take their eyes off for a minute because they get into anything and everything. Well guess what, they don't take their eyes off the kids. It's exhausting but no one said parenthood was going to be a walk in the park. I bet when this kid gets injured the parents will look to blame everyone but themselves. I think you're doing the right thing by sending the child home everytime he misbehaves.

 

[Mskanga]

It's 11:30 am , I went out in the backyard at 11 , in the half an hour I was out there , I had to tell him twice that today is not a good day and not to come over. The first time it's when he saw me back there, the second time when he saw my daughter in the swings. You are right CEDmom, I should have allowed the contractor to call the police.
I am hoping that when the house is built he will not come across.
I have my youngest who is a daredevil , which is the reason why she's not allowed to leave my yard , period.
She's 8 now but when she was younger I could not take my eyes off her , yes it was exhausting but it's what I had to do to keep her safe. I still keep checking on her even if she's in my yard.

 

[ericamanda01]

I can't believe how some parents just let their kids roam around. If that kid gets hurt I bet the parents would blame the construction company. By the way did the contractor apologize for yelling at you? I bet he was mighty embarrassed.

 

[Mskanga]

Yes the man apologized. But now I am pissed off to no end. Not only he's in my yard now but he brought HIS DOG with him. My german sheppard id going nuts, I just sent him home for the thrid time today , if he continues to come over , I am going to have to talk to his mother again.

 

[ducklite]

You might also want to let the mother know about the contractor threatening to call the police... Wonder if that would shake her up a bit.

Anne

 

[sweet angel]

I feel sorry for the kid. Obviously his mother wants nothing to do with him and he's looking for someone to play with. I understand that's not your problem and you have to keep your kids safe and shouldn't have to babysit him. I totally understand that. But I still feel bad for the kid.

 

[disykat]

You might want to throw in about how the contractor assumed he was YOUR son! I hope the contractor goes over there.

 

[Mskanga]

I don't know if the contractor went to the house or not , I hope he did. All I know is that the kid came over again this morning for the fourth time , they were all playing outside by the front and his mother drove by while I was talking to one of my neighbors right by the road outside. You think she at least would have stopped and said something since he was here ? not a chance!
What struck me is that they let him walk all around the block , to the school bus stop ALONE!!!!! then he came back . ***???? Where are those parents???
Now I know my daughter will never go to their house!!!

 

[DaisyDebbie]

Olga I think it's time you talked to this woman and tell her how you feel. She sounds like a real winner. I would tell him and his mother that he is not to come over (especially with his dog) unless he's invited.

I too feel bad for him but his mother is taking advantage of your good nature.

 

[CEDmom]

Was the child's dad home during all of this or do they simply tell him to go find someone to play with because they have errands to run? Like you I wouldn't let my DD wander the neighborhood but if she was invited over to play with someone close by I'd also make sure I stayed home in case something happened. Only if I arranged in advance for a neighbor to watch DD while I went somewhere would I not be home. Like another poster said I do feel sorry for this little boy. When I think of all the people who would give their right arm to have a child stuff like this makes me crazy. I'm by no means Super Mom (far from it in fact) but this just defies common sense.

 

[HappyMommy2]

Boy, what a sad situation all around.

I think the contractor incident was a real blessing because it gives you a clear reason (not that you didn't have one before, but this is REALLY clear) to really go over there and tell the woman in no uncertain terms that her son may NOT come to your house unless you specifically invite him.

Good luck.

 

[sweet angel]

I'm sure you've mentioned it, but how old is this little boy? Maybe "someone" should anonymously get the authorities involved?

 

[elliemae1192]

We had almost this same situation in our previous home with two brothers who lived a few houses down. When they started to get really physical with my child I had to tell them they were not allowed back until they learned to not hit. Well for the next few weeks, every time we would be out front, they would stand just outside of our yard and curse and give us the finger!
These boys were maybe 5 and 8 years old! My husband finally went down and spoke with the parents and they were completely unconcerned about the situation. Thank God we were only renting and soon after bought a house FAR away from these two monsters.
I sure hope you are able to work it out soon.

 

[MrsKreamer]

I agree since ge is only 6, maybe "someone" should call social services.

 

[Southern4sure]

I agree since ge is only 6, maybe "someone" should call social services.

I was just about to suggest this. Sound like it does need to be investiagated.

Southern4sure

 

[Mskanga]

He's only 6 and the father ( who I found out is the live in boyfriend ) was there all along. Of course if he said I am going to play with XXXXX , do you think he would say no?
I also feel bad for the kid , I truly do , but I can't take up another responsibility just because they don't want to do anything with the kid.
I am going to start sending him home and when I see the mother I'm going to tell her that he cannot come everyday, my kids are "hiding" from him now because they know the moment they go out , he's over.

 

[MrsKreamer]

it is such a terrible situation....

 

[MELSMICE]

Wow, I feel bad for that little boy. It's not his fault that his parents don't watch him, but he is the one suffering the repercussions.

I also feel bad for you MsKanga because you are in such a sticky situation with this kid.

It's too bad some people don't get a parenting book when their children are born. Obviously, these morons need one!!!

 

[AllyBri]

This is such a sad story, my heart just breaks for this child. The Mom wants nothing to do with him. Maybe it would be in the best interest of the child to make a call and get him some help with child welfare.
Just my op of course, but the last thing I would do is complain to his Mother, she would probably make his life even more misarable.

there's a saying, not sure if I have it correct.
It can take a village to raise a child, but one person to ruin it.