Regrets - Do you have any?

[lucas]

Too many to list....

 

[Disney Doll]

"Regret" is probably too strong a word, but I do wish that I had gone away to college, to Boston. I htink Bosotn is the greatest city inthe world to live in when you are in those college years.

Of course, then perhaps I wouldn't have met DH, so all in all, I think life unfolds as it should.

 

[horseshowmom]

Not trying to go to law school. Over the years, I've had many people comment that I should have gone to law school (they had no idea I had ever considered it). DH has tried to get me to go now, but it would be a hardship financially for me to quit working.

But on the plus side, I met my DH through my teaching job (he had a much younger cousin in high school who introduced us at a basketball game). Neither of us ever dated anybody else after that.

 

[DMickey28]

I have lots of regrets, but the biggest one is probably being stupid with credit cards when I was in my early 20s. It's a mistake I don't know that I'll ever be able to dig myself out of.

I have to say that is one of my BIGGEST regrets as well as for DH. I am confident we can and are digging out but I am not confident my credit will recover as well as I hoped. That is scary facing life ahead of us and starting a family and buying a house. I try to say that we don't own a house now b/c we have moved a lot for Dh's job, and while that is true, I honestly don't know if our credit would allow us to buy a house now. We are saving a large down payment that we hope will help and working every day to clean up our credit anyway we can but it's still scary. We are doing very well now in our career and life, but we are paying for our mistakes and not able to be in the "position" we should be at this point. We did learn a lesson and a valuable one we can pass on to our kids. My parents were the first generation of credit and they learned a lesson too but where a lot smarter than DH and I. I do not think they ever really taught those lessons to DB and I, however placing blame is not my intent.

My other regret is being stupid in my late teens and early 20's. I have a regret from that I will carry for the rest of my life and I honestly can say that there is not one thing good that came from it. However, I am dealing with it and moving on, it really doesn't impact my life anymore.

I think while you do learn from regrets and it's nice to say that without them you wouldn't be who you are today. That is true, but you would still be as special a person you are just different. I don't think that any of my actions would have changed meeting my DH and our future together. I think we were meant for each other and would have found each other eventually!

 

[MinnieM3]

Only real regret I can think of is I regret never having lived alone in an apartment, like after colllege, before marriage. Went straight from parents' house to married house....

Also regret the anger I had at ex-DH that I ended up taking out on DDnow 20.

Nothing much else.........

 

[budbeerlady]

Interestingly. like alot of posts on here this thread, mine is also about school. I wish I would have gone for the "good" school I was accepted to with a scholarship. But I was worried I didnt have the math skills to go there and instead went to the average local university. If I had gone maybe I wouldnt have met DH but I was so proud to be accepted there (still have my letter) and I should have just gone for it. (I always tell DD "you dont know untill you try!") Mostly my problem was I never knew what I wanted to do after high school. So I took the "easy road", got bored with it and left to make money.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

I don't regret much. Sure, I make mistakes and I do things I shouldn't, but I can't change the past. Regreting won't change anything, so why waste my time and energy doing so?

jmo.

That basically how I feel.
Although, I do have one regret - eating so much when I first got pregnant.
It's 14 years later and I'm still blaming my extra weight on the "baby"

 

[salmoneous]

Regrets? I've had a few. But then again, too few to mention.

 

[kmebee]

Regrets? I've had a few. But then again, too few to mention.

LOVE IT!!

I have a few regrets but there is one big one that always is on my mind. I am currently in the process of fixing that though. I had a chance to reconnect with a high school sweetheart once & didn't take it. We are in the process now of getting together. We talk and email quite a bit. I've told him how I've regretted it for 20 years and he's told me that I've been on his mind too. We'll see what happens.

 

[AnaheimGirl]

Regrets? I've had a few. But then again, too few to mention.

Darn! You beat me to it!

I regret some stupid things I did when I was young (like driving drunk ) but I was lucky in that those things didn't do as much damage as they could have.

My biggest regret is not going to medical school, but choosing a different career which no longer satisfies me. But then again, if I hadn't chosen this career, I wouldn't have met dh, so I'm also glad I didn't go to med school.

 

[azgal81]

Not a one. Everything I did led me to where I am today (as corny as that sounds) and I couldn't be happier. I love my life and everything in it.

 

[Lynn CC]

I regret not standing up for myself and getting what was rightfully and legally mine. It's tough when family members are involved (especially when they are dishonest), so I just bit my toungue and I've been biting it for many, many years. I guess I regret not having a backbone! LOL Atleast I can laugh about it!

 

[grlpwrd]

I have my regrets, especially professionally/career-wise, but then again I don't regret the person I've become and the sometimes foolish steps I had taken to become what I am today.

Miss Kelly, you're in your 20s, right? You still have time to do what you want in life and achieve your goals ... live for tomorrow.

 

[goofygirl]

A few days ago I saw a story on the news about a women's basketball coach who was fightening cancer.

She said its important to live in the present because looking into the past brings on regret, and looking into the future brings on anxiety.

I just thought that was really profound.

 

[mommyoeo]

Without a doubt-- I regret how I behaved before I was married. I'm 32 and still lug that baggage around daily.

 

[jim and meesie]

Not trying to go to law school. Over the years, I've had many people comment that I should have gone to law school (they had no idea I had ever considered it).

Me too!!!
I got a Great job out of college so I figured I would make some real money to pay for Grad school (my husband went a year after college). Bought my first house and got married in my husband's third year of law school so then there were more bills to pay! Got pregnant 1 1/2 years later so more bills, less time! Two more kids and a busy career took over! Over the years I've thought about it (and I am often annoyed with DH because he did go and never practiced law). Over the years my dreams of law school changed to business school (more appropriate to my career) but I always cringed at the idea of taking on such a huge additional expense just to sooth my ego at this point. Now my kids are in private HS and College and I think it's their turn. Business wise I have had as sucessful a career ( 7 years ago I started my own business to have more flexibility with the kids schedules so essentially I appear to be a SAHM from the outside) as many with JDs or MBAs and I probably wouldn't be making any more money with an additional degree.

Last year some close friends were having this "biggest regret" discussion and one of my best friends who has a very similar life (we even went to the same college but didn't know each other then) shared that she also regrets never getting a graduate degree!! It's so funny because I have always thought of her as a brilliant successful business woman, mother & friend and she makes me feel the same way, graduate degree or none!!! BTW, we both have wonderful husbands who have doctorate degrees but have never, ever let us feel that we were not just as intelligent as they are! (smart men)

 

[Aidensmom]

No, because I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason. If things were different I might not be where I am now and I love my life.

That is how I feel. Are there things I believe I could have done better? Sure. But anything that was done differently could have led me down a completely different path, and I wouldn't have the life I have today, which I am very happy with.

 

[rt2dz]

There are things in my life that weren't done as planned. I didn't go to the college I really wanted to go to. I didn't live in some of the places I wanted to (I wanted to spend a year in Europe). But in the end, I wouldn't be where I am (exactly) today if I hadn't done things the way I did in fact do them. And when I look around at my life, DH, DS5 (today), DS2 and DS5 months, I am very happy to be where I am at today. I love my life. It's all learning experiences which was done "wrong".

To the OP: If jobs want experience, do volunteer work. No one turns down a free helping hand and you get experience.

And if there is anything else you want in life, it's never too late to start working for it. Law school is still there. You just have to make adjustments.

 

[theprincess]

yes, I just wish I would have went to college.

 

[rhanditresmom]

Not really a regret, more of a wish...

I wish I had travelled more, especially in Europe, before having children. Sometimes I think it would have been fun to do such when I was still single. I don't think I would have been wise enough to do it, though.

That said, I do not regret a single thing...I am so happy with the way my life has turned out!