Regarding Deafmedic

[Aidensmom]

Information gathered regarding the fact that the deaths were fabricated does verify that this "family" does indeed exist. Information came from outside sources, not the posters themselves.

There may have been mistruths about the various aspects of their lives, but the people are indeed real. I pray for the children.

 

[Shugardrawers]

I just don't understand. If the OP were looking for donations, I see a motivation there however wrong it is. But it doesn't seem they were seeking money so what would make a person do something like that?? I sure hope the "mastermind" behind all this gets theirs in the end and that the innocent victims will be alright.

 

[pattyT]

I just don't understand. If the OP were looking for donations, I see a motivation there however wrong it is. But it doesn't seem they were seeking money so what would make a person do something like that?? I sure hope the "mastermind" behind all this gets theirs in the end and that the innocent victims will be alright.

unfotrutantely there are abvioulsy some people out there who decide it would be "fun" to trick people -
play a game with them
and revel in the attention on their sincere sympathy.

0bviously very sick and twisted people...

Those beautiful kids - I shutter to think what their life is or will be like...
we can all turn of the computer and walk away -
those poor beautiful kids have to live with them

 

[akhenaten]

Thanks to WM Alex for posting this....otherwise I know I would have thought about that poor woman and her children every time i saw a dump truck heading towards me...........even many years from now.....

 

[Aimee K]

That's who I worry about most in this is the kids. For those of us that cared and grieved for this family, we are right with our hearts and our spirits.

 

[momof2inPA]

Is it really that big of a deal to make up a life or a tragedy on an internet board? This is the internet, not real life, afterall. This isn't someone you really "knew," like a neighbor or a friend. I guess it depends on how you see the "DIS." Is it a community or a diversion? I suppose if you are one of the people who share your life's tragedies and triumphs with DISer's you would feel betrayed and "sick to your stomach."

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Is it really that big of a deal to make up a life or a tragedy on an internet board?

Yes, I do believe that it's a big deal! A person can choose to share or not share whatever information they want to share with others on an internet forum, but to mislead and lie about something that is an emotional hot button for so many people is cruel. Shows how twisted they are.

 

[4cruisin]

Is it really that big of a deal to make up a life or a tragedy on an internet board? This is the internet, not real life, afterall. This isn't someone you really "knew," like a neighbor or a friend. I guess it depends on how you see the "DIS." Is it a community or a diversion? I suppose if you are one of the people who share your life's tragedies and triumphs with DISer's you would feel betrayed and "sick to your stomach."

You are kidding right? Do you honestly think it is acceptable to lie about your children dying? Wow, that is sick.

I hope karma doesn't bite these people. You have to wonder if they would lie about that, what else are they doing to screw up their kids?

 

[HoneyPooh]

I always thought I was fairly grounded and hard to fool but lately the internet has been throwing me lots of curve balls. Lately I've been feeling really stupid. I keep making the mistake of thinking that since I'm honest about myself and my intentions on the internet, that everyone is. I know better, really I do, but my heart just keeps trying to believe in everyone, it's how I was raised and I can't prevent it. It's really hurtfull when you find out otherwise. Kind of like being sucker punched. I knew nothing about that poster but cried when I read about it because I couldn't imagine losing my DH and my two sons. To find out it was all a lie is just to much to digest. I feel sick to my stomach.

 

[Minniespal]

Thanks, I just feel really bad for the people that took their time and energy and shed tears for these people. As someone said earlier it really makes you feel like you need to take a shower

Very sad

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Is it really that big of a deal to make up a life or a tragedy on an internet board? This is the internet, not real life, afterall. This isn't someone you really "knew," like a neighbor or a friend. I guess it depends on how you see the "DIS." Is it a community or a diversion? I suppose if you are one of the people who share your life's tragedies and triumphs with DISer's you would feel betrayed and "sick to your stomach."

Okay, here goes and I apologize in advance. I am one of those who shed tears over this. I am one of those who was part of this group and mourned the loss of one of our own and two of her children. I have made MANY friends over the internet, some of who I have been blessed to meet in person all ready and others who I have future plans to meet. These relationships are REAL. They can cause as much joy and as much pain as "real life" relationships. I pute "real life" in quotations because the internet is part of our real lives. People form friendships, relationships, etc. across in the internet EVERY DAY.

And I suppose I am one of those who does share my life with others I have met here. Oh the horror.

 

[Shugardrawers]

Is it really that big of a deal to make up a life or a tragedy on an internet board? This is the internet, not real life, afterall. This isn't someone you really "knew," like a neighbor or a friend. I guess it depends on how you see the "DIS." Is it a community or a diversion? I suppose if you are one of the people who share your life's tragedies and triumphs with DISer's you would feel betrayed and "sick to your stomach."

I suppose it depends on the intention and whether there is emotional manipulation involved. If, for example, we were to learn that a poster had been claiming to live in a mansion and be married to a heart surgeon when they actually were renting an apt and a 7-11 clerk, well, no harm done in my eyes. It's kinda twisted but no harm done. Considering that Deaf Medic was a fairly active poster and that many of us come to care about each other that line of emotional manipulation was crossed. The fact that someone truly cared is what probably led to the revelation.

It is very possible to care about those we've never met. I have several dis friends who check on my health frequently. I have a friend in Maine I play on Pogo with and I'd be crushed to learn of her death.

 

[poohandwendy]

Is it really that big of a deal to make up a life or a tragedy on an internet board? This is the internet, not real life, afterall. This isn't someone you really "knew," like a neighbor or a friend. I guess it depends on how you see the "DIS." Is it a community or a diversion? I suppose if you are one of the people who share your life's tragedies and triumphs with DISer's you would feel betrayed and "sick to your stomach."

Yes, it is a big deal. Many people actually form friendships with people they 'meet' on the internet. Some people even make life long friends and some actually marry those they meet on the internet. Most people are not made of stone and actually care about others, even if they haven't met in RL.

Most people CAN and should be trusted to be what they say they are, IMHO. Those who do something like this should be ashamed of themselves. Integrity happens to matter to me and many, many others. No, I will not change my life because of this situation, but it is definitely sad. I (generic me) am not going to own the word 'fool' because someone else chose to mislead me and many others. They are the fools because they took something that was kind (friendship) and spit on it.

So, I guess if integrity and consideration of others feelings mean nothing to you, then NO...it's not a big deal.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Okay, here goes and I apologize in advance. I am one of those who shed tears over this. I am one of those who was part of this group and mourned the loss of one of our own and two of her children. I have made MANY friends over the internet, some of who I have been blessed to meet in person all ready and others who I have future plans to meet. These relationships are REAL. They can cause as much joy and as much pain as "real life" relationships. I pute "real life" in quotations because the internet is part of our real lives. People form friendships, relationships, etc. across in the internet EVERY DAY.

And I suppose I am one of those who does share my life with others I have met here. Oh the horror.

You said it perfectly!

 

[luvmydogs]

Is it really that big of a deal to make up a life or a tragedy on an internet board? This is the internet, not real life, afterall. This isn't someone you really "knew," like a neighbor or a friend. I guess it depends on how you see the "DIS." Is it a community or a diversion? I suppose if you are one of the people who share your life's tragedies and triumphs with DISer's you would feel betrayed and "sick to your stomach."

At least for me, I'm looking at it beyond The DIS. I tend to not take internet MB's seriously at all; but looking at the sick, twisted and pathetic BS Lea/Chris have pulled here and at the other board (where posters there *did* consider themselves friends), makes me wonder sadly about this kind of sickness in the collective sense.

I must be either incredibly naive or afraid of major bite-me-back Karma, but I would never in my wildest dreams think of posting the supposed death of my ds--along with some of the gut-wrenching details (holding your child's hand while she's being taken off life support).

Those who were friends through their other MB (and I won't question the 'legitamacy' of their friendships just because it was through the internet) and those here who felt for her and her husband/children have every right to feel personally hacked off by these POS who manipulated their feelings so. I know I'm not taking it personally, but am looking increduously at people out there and wondering how on God's green earth they'd get off on writing about the death of their children. Symptoms of an awfully sick world, I guess--and The DIS is just a microcosm of it all.

 

[Rajah]

Pathetic.

Okay, here goes and I apologize in advance. I am one of those who shed tears over this. I am one of those who was part of this group and mourned the loss of one of our own and two of her children. I have made MANY friends over the internet, some of who I have been blessed to meet in person all ready and others who I have future plans to meet. These relationships are REAL. They can cause as much joy and as much pain as "real life" relationships. I pute "real life" in quotations because the internet is part of our real lives. People form friendships, relationships, etc. across in the internet EVERY DAY.

And I suppose I am one of those who does share my life with others I have met here. Oh the horror.

Well said, Miss Jasmine!

 

[bananiem]

Is it really that big of a deal to make up a life or a tragedy on an internet board? This is the internet, not real life, afterall. This isn't someone you really "knew," like a neighbor or a friend. I guess it depends on how you see the "DIS." Is it a community or a diversion? I suppose if you are one of the people who share your life's tragedies and triumphs with DISer's you would feel betrayed and "sick to your stomach."

The people that were hurt the worst were the people who talked on another board with these people and Im'd and emailed each other, so yes, they were friends. Didn't you ever have a penpal as a child? How would you have felt if you had gotten word they had died in a horrible accident?
Only a heartless person would not see that the death of any child is worth at least a small amount of grief and sadness.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Yes, it is a big deal. Many people actually form friendships with people they 'meet' on the internet. Some people even make life long friends and some actually marry those they meet on the internet. Most people are not made of stone and actually care about others, even if they haven't met in RL.

Most people CAN and should be trusted to be what they say they are, IMHO. Those who do something like this should be ashamed of themselves. Integrity happens to matter to me and many, many others. No, I will not change my life because of this situation, but it is definitely sad. I (generic me) am not going to own the word 'fool' because someone else chose to mislead me and many others. They are the fools because they took something that was kind (friendship) and spit on it.

So, I guess if integrity and consideration of others feelings mean nothing to you, then NO...it's not a big deal.

Thank you Wendy, your post means alot to those of us who were hurt so badly by this person.

 

[WebmasterAlex]

Okay, here goes and I apologize in advance. I am one of those who shed tears over this. I am one of those who was part of this group and mourned the loss of one of our own and two of her children. I have made MANY friends over the internet, some of who I have been blessed to meet in person all ready and others who I have future plans to meet. These relationships are REAL. They can cause as much joy and as much pain as "real life" relationships. I pute "real life" in quotations because the internet is part of our real lives. People form friendships, relationships, etc. across in the internet EVERY DAY.

And I suppose I am one of those who does share my life with others I have met here. Oh the horror.

Anyone who doesn't feel the relationships here are real needs to read this:
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=957678

 

[Planogirl]

I think that relationships on these boards are very important to a lot of people. I try to keep my distance to some extent but I've made some very good friends. I can't imagine how I'd feel if one of them pulled a stunt like this.