Random vent

[jrydberg]

AAAAAARRRRRGHHHH!!!

I won't bore you all with details, but why do I always have to be the responsible one who bails others out of trouble? Ah well, there are worse things, I suppose.

 

[ADisneygirl]

Without any details it is hard to offer an opinion, but...... I think you are the one people in your life turn to to bail them out because you must be a responsible, caring, easy to talk to leader-type. People in trouble don't turn to others for help who are weak, irresponsible and uncaring.

You must be the nice guy! Good for you. The world needs more of them.

 

[jrydberg]

It's my ex I'm digging out of a hole... I thought I was done doing that

The thing is, she's not a bad person. Just makes some bad choices -- and continues to make them.

We'll never get back together for various reasons, but I want her to have a reasonable, comfortable, successful life. But financially she just makes some lousy decisions. Oh well, thanks for the kind words, ADisneygirl... appreciate it.

 

[Saffron]

I'll help you jrydberg! ARGH!!!!! Behave whoever you are! The man's on a collision course with happiness, stop making him frustrated!


Repeat after me. One more day. One more day. One more day. ...

 

[Saffron]

Whoops! Slow typing again! LOL!

Behave ex wife!

 

[ADisneygirl]

Wow~~ financially bailing out an ex-wife. Now I KNOW you're the nice guy.

 

[jrydberg]

LOL! Thanks Saffron... I need a countdown timer for my flight! 20 hours 45 mins 3 secs (approximately )

Edited to add:

Ehhh, my daughter's with her for 7 weeks in the summer. Not gonna do my daughter any good to have my ex struggling. I just hope she gets things turned around soon. I'd like to save up for that next Disney trip

 

[onecoolmama]

UGH! I hope she starts making better decisions too! I hope you get to disney soon


Just think, all these yucky feeling will be forgotten after you see your baby girl.


Just 1 more sleep

 

[jrydberg]

Dunno about sleep... but one more night anyway! Unfortunately, with this, I think Disney may have to wait til 2006. But all good things come to those who wait... or so they tell me

 

[faithinkarma]

Hang in there....karma does happen you know

 

[jrydberg]

I have faith in it

 

[crazyforgoofy]

You are doing a kind thing but are you doing the right thing? Sorry, I've had to rescue a few people but have come to the decision that my fixing their messes doesn't teach them anything except to come back to me to fix the next mess.

 

[sweet angel]

Originally posted by crazyforgoofy
You are doing a kind thing but are you doing the right thing? Sorry, I've had to rescue a few people but have come to the decision that my fixing their messes doesn't teach them anything except to come back to me to fix the next mess.

That's what I was going to say. If someone knows you'll always rescue them, what incentive do they have to do it on their own.

I know it sounds cruel, but sometimes you just have to say no.

Of course, your situation is different because you're trying not to let your daughter suffer because of ex's bad decisions.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Crazy...LOL! Isn't that the truth!?

jryd...It's great you can picture it boiling down to helping your daughter in the long run! Wow! I'm impressed! Most guys wouldn't think about that. Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa for just one more night!

 

[jrydberg]

I understand that perspective, crazyfor goofy and sweet angel, and certainly appreciate the constructive input But (there's always a but in there, isn't there?) I just... well... she needs the help (and won't get it anywhere else) and my daughter needs a stable environment. I am fortunate enough to be able to provide that most of the year. I dunno. Just seems like the right thing to do... but it is frustrating at times.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

jeff--just think how close it is till alyssa comes home! Im sure she cannot wait, and i know you cant either! hang in there!

 

[sweet angel]

I understand what you're saying, and as long as it works for you, who cares what anyone else thinks!!

My ex couldn't care less if me and my son were starving and homeless...he wouldn't give me a nickel. Actually, I think he'd prefer it that way, rather than the reality of me buying my own house and actually being self-sufficient.

 

[jrydberg]

Never really understood that attitude (your ex's), sweet angel. Sorry you have to deal with that. Especially if my daughter lived with my ex, I'd want my daughter to live in a good home environment.

Anyway, appreciate you all listening to me vent my frustrations. I feel better... and I'll feel much better tomorrow at this time!