Quick question: Does the boy's family pick up the girl for an 8th grade dance?

[TheLittleRoo]

And should he buy her a corsage? This is an informal, gymnasium dance where the guys are in street pants and collared Hollister-style shirts. I think his "date" has a somewhat diva-esqe dress since she's the only daughter in her family.... What to do, what to do?!? My son is my oldest and my school didn't have a MS dance.

 

[SeansMom]

We did. Picked her up, brought her to our house, and "served" them a nice dinner with sparkling cider and the works. It was inexpensive for us and special for them. Have fun with it...they grow up too fast.

 

[kilee]

My son is in 9th grade this year. They had informal dances in jr high-- no corsages and he went w/ his friends.

This yr for homecoming- we took him to his dates house and went w/ her and her parents. Several of her girlfriends were there w/ their dates too- and it seemed to be the theme. The girls parents were driving. Not sure why- just worked out that way. Now at the end of the night we picked him up from the dance- but her parents picked her up themselves. Seemed to be the way it went w/ most of the younger teens.

As for corsages-- I asked about this too. Dress for the guys was dress pants and dress shirts. Girls were all in prom type dresses. He said No- that none of the girls were getting corsages. So, I think I'd ask your son what he wants to do.

 

[mybabesuz]

We didn't do corsages... You should see what your son wants to do.
You can offer to pick her up or they can just meet there.
The girl's parents might have something to say about it too.

 

[pfp258]

Our middle schools dances are held in the gym on Thurday evenings. (I think twice a year.) They do it this way to keep it very casual. My daughter had a boyfriend in 8th grade, but they just met up at the dance.

 

[mnasmom3]

We didn't do corsages... You should see what your son wants to do.
You can offer to pick her up or they can just meet there.
The girl's parents might have something to say about it too.

This is what I was thinking. I'd ask your son what him and his date want to do. I say yes to flowers. Even if it's not the norm for his school dance, she'll LOVE it!

 

[TRICKY_TINK]

we always just meet at the school for MS dances. No flowers in MS. To me that seems overboard for that age.

 

[ceecee]

Our middle school dance is right after school, so they don't leave the building. I think around here, flowers would be overkill. The girls and boys stay moctly seperated throughout the dance. They all dance in groups and run around getting sweaty!

 

[ticktock]

OK my son said no corsage and then we get to the dance and his date had brought him a corsage! Oh the shame! Oh the humiliation!

I say for $10-15 it's worth it to be prepared. Especially since she's wearing fancy dress, it's obviously a big deal for her. If she doesn't like it she can toss it. I'm sure you've wasted more money on less important things then making a sweet memory for a nice girl. I know I have.

 

[NotUrsula]

A corsage is always a thrill for a young girl, so I think that it would be a really sweet way for him to do something nice for her.

Make it a wrist corsage; they look like jewelry and there is no awkward "How to pin this?" moment. I'd stay away from orchids; something inexpensive and informal like carnations or daisies would probably be best under the circumstances.

 

[java]

Coursage yes. We met at the dance (as parents went to the dinner being served so her parents were driving anyway)Parents then left kids danced for 4 more hours!
But we drove her home at the end of the night.

The girls are very into it around here and she was way dressy and had also got him a rose to wear*can't spell it.

It was his "girlfriend" at the time though.

 

[JuneCleaver]

Our middle school has an end of year dance for the 9th graders. Boys wear at least a tie and dress pants. The girls definitely glam up! The school sends out a dress code so there is nothing too revealing!

Boys get the girls they are taking corsages or wristlets and the dads/moms drive. It is a huge deal to the kids, especially the girls!

Usually they all end up at one house after the dance for a social time and then their parents pick them up.

June

 

[Cindy B]

No corsages or picking up= not here. They all meet at the school. But everyone goes to Friendly's afterward.

 

[TheLittleRoo]

I made the call before I saw any responses...

We called and had a rose wrist corsage made in 20 minutes, and offered to pick her up and drive them both to the dance. DS13 was mortified by the whole corsage thing, and grumbling about how dumb it was all the way until he got out of the car. As I'm sitting there waiting for them to come out, I see flashes going off about 7-8 times inside the foyer of her house. SO GLAD I got him the corsage to give her!!! She was thrilled , her parents were happy, HE was grinning from ear to ear all the way back to the car ... They've been an item for almost a year, I guess, although "an item" means they text each other and see each other at school and church!

Now I just have to get him used to opening the car door for her! He missed the boat getting into the car, but a subtle reminder at the dance was all he needed to open her door getting out.

I'm about to choke up at the thought of him growing up. Another milestone...

 

[mnasmom3]

sounds like it all worked out. Hope they had a great time.

 

[Avalon_toon]

She was thrilled , her parents were happy, HE was grinning from ear to ear all the way back to the car ... They've been an item for almost a year, I guess, although "an item" means they text each other and see each other at school and church!

That is so sweet! Good call on the corsage!

 

[Liberty Belle]

When my son was in 8th grade, he had a girlfriend. They'd been "together" for about a year at that point. She met him at the dance. I can't recall if he bought her a corsage, but I'm thinking he didn't.