deleted as I think that there is a chance that there will be no problem that the OP has the option that she needs that she can decide that if her son want to balk right before they get on the ride it is up to her and her husband ( or what ever the other adult is) to come up with what they think is best for there whole family. it is not like it really matter to any other guest how you get in line ( wether FP Stand by or DAS ) I think you are the one with the problem not the OP. I would not think that what the OP is doing is cheating the system, but touring Disney the best way they can.
Disney's rule is the DAS holder must ride. Period. Will there be CMs who won't want to confront guests who are cheating the system, sure. But to first, go on knowing that the DAS holder may not ride is not really using the system as it was designed. Once guests do that enough times you'll start to see people using a non-riding DAS holder as a free FP and that will increase wait times for everyone, including DAS holders and will make the system just as clogged and unusable as GAC became. And second, to go in expecting an exception from CMs puts them in a position to pressure them to break the rules and possible have the guest make a scene that affects ride operation. The rule is the DAS holder must ride, so why put the CM in that position? The OP has mentioned a wish trip and that she was a victim of looks. That comes off as a feeling of entitlement. The terms you're agreeing to when you get a DAS is the DAS holder must ride. It's not complicated. Why go into a situation knowing that you expect to be given an exception to the rules you're agreeing to whenever possible? Just avoid the situation have the non-DAS holders use the line that guarantees them a ride.
You do realize that certain rules at Disney are pliable. And that they allow the CMs to make decisions and adjustments as needed. A CM can choose to allow a guest into the FP queue without a FP if they feel that it is a reasonable situation. CMs can make decisions and choices you or I don't have to agree with!! They get to decide who is eligible for the DAS. They can decide how it gets used. Other guests don't have to agree with or like it but it is Disney's right to make the final decision and they have passed some of the decision making off to the appropriate CMs.
They still exist. Just because you haven't been offered them or seen them doesn't mean they no longer exist. They are out there...just not in large volumes.
I am sure you will have a great time at Disney and that you will do what is best for your family and that you are not meaning to or you cheating the system I can just about 100% sure if your son at the last minute said he did not want to go on a ride and you told the CM that your son was a DAS holder and asked if your husband and your other kids could ride they would say yes ( if this happens at the ride itself) in fact I would be very surprised if they made you all leave the ride but like I and other have said one you tap ( he tapes ) his magic band on the first tap point from there it is like any other FP rider and after you tap or go thought the second one you are just like any other rider in line and just like any other rider in line ( or family ) t this point if one member of the family dose not want to ride then they as a family can decide why to do ( dose mom and child go wait dose the whole family go dose dad and child go wait.) at this point you have waited your turn, your family has waited there turn no not in the regular line but you have all waited your turn. I would bet no one would say anything if your son did not want to ride as it happens a lot at Disney.
they still have them I still have them liked to my DAS card. I get 3 every day all thought I do not use them that much I still get them. but yes I would not count on getting them with the DAS at all I had a few very bad trips before a CM say lets try this and gave me 3 re-ads pre day. ( and I hade no idea about the re ads until the CM told me about it.)
