Quarantine and chill and kindness chatty clubhouse: Jump in and join the conversation! All is welcome!

[Pea-n-Me]

I still can’t get the individual quote feature to work on my iPad, but I wanted to say to frog that, wow, that is one bright light in your situation to have someone so nice and so accommodating in your job search right now. Excellent, and good luck with your ongoing search. I hope the weather lets up asap.

 

[Snowysmom]

Frog You are in my thoughts and prayers. I does seem like the job opportunities are good for you. She is indeed a kind woman. I am sorry things are not going as they should.

It is 56 here and sunny, heading up to around 80 today.

I bought 2 patio chairs yesterday for my balcony. I also ordered a lovely small table that has a glass top with butterflies and flowers on it. It spoke to me so I listened. I am getting anxious to make yet another change in my life to live alone in the condo. I feel like the past 8 and a half months have been change after change. I have not been able to follow a path that alot of new widows and widowers are able to, of staying in their house and going through the grief journey. I have had to do so much and change so much it is like starting over each time.

Have a good day.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Yeah, I can't quote on my phone today either. (Yet, occasionally I can - its weird.)

Anyway, the table sounds lovely! I'm glad you bought it @Snowysmom

 

[Pea-n-Me]

The good thing, Snowysmom, is that, once there, you won’t have to change again. For now it’s more a matter of, are you ready to take that next step. And it is so hard, because you’re maybe still not ready to let go of your life with Chris. Completely understandable, and so difficult. I think that taking your time, as you‘re doing, and making baby steps, is good. There’s no rule that says you have to do things on a certain timeline. I also love the sound of the table and chairs for your balcony. Sounds like a nice set up. That would be my spot. I’m sure nosy man didn’t help the situation, it’s like just one more thing you don’t need right now. But there will be people around like that, unfortunately. I guess it’s a mixed bag - in order to meet some nice people, you have to meet the toads too. Day by day. I checked in on my SIL the year anniversary of her loss is approaching. It’s been hard for her, too. She said she still can’t believe it happened. I’m not sure you ever completely get over that feeling.

 

[Judique]

Good afternoon.

I was exhausted yesterday and took a day for me to just relax. The wedding went off really well and the pictures came out better than I hoped. I may tweak one or 2 but I am happy with them. I really did stress over it. After 42 years together my aunt and her partner are now "official". We all knew they were gay, but my aunt's wife has had some serious health issues, she has been battling lung cancer, and my aunt was worried that if something happened to her that my one uncle would toss her now wife out of the house and try and make money off of it. My aunt and uncle haven't spoken since 1997 when their mother died, and he accused my aunt and mom of killing her. My grandmother had a lot of health issues and she needed full time nursing care so she was put in a nursing home. When my grandmother was hospitalized and we all knew the end was near everyone but this uncle agreed to a DNR. My grandmother actually told them that was what she wanted. My aunt has a will but we all know he would contest it. This was the perfect thing to do and honestly as everyone said "It's About Time!" They have been partners for over 40 years.

They did the Mummers Strut down the aisle
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My aunt and her wife - my aunt is on the left
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We all got lost trying to find the reception as it was held in New Jersey and we weren't that familiar with the restaurant. Of course we heard again how much my aunt and I look alike and sound alike. It starts to get old after awhile.

Today is another chill day as I remember my grandmother. She left us 20 years ago today and there isn't a day goes by that I don't miss her. I have never heard anyone say a bad word about her. I have always used my Gram as a role model on how to be a Grandmother and I hope my grandkids feel the same way about me as I do her.

It's another hectic week here. I have to get my grandsons to school. I can come home and chug down a cup of coffee then I have to head back to the school by 8:45 for an 8th Grade thing since my daughter is stuck working. I need to get my husband by 10 to get him to his monthly breakfast with former co-workers. Then we need to take him to finally get fitted for his shoes. At some point I need to talk to my granddaughter's school to try and get her class assignment for next year changed. I really dislike teenage girls at times. They are the quintessential MEAN GIRLS. A former best friend has turned on my granddaughter and has been spreading rumors and posting lies about her. This kid is a Straight A Honors Student and she needs to maintain that for applying to High Schools next year. They are supposed to be in the same class and that cannot happen. My Ella is already stressing over it. Unfortunately the Dean of Students and Vice Principal are the same 2 that allowed my other granddaughter to be tortured by a couple of other Mean Girls. I will go over their heads if I have to do that.

Wednesday is Awards Assembly for a grandson and then the other grandson's graduation that night.

I also need to get to Social Security because they did something and claim I owe a lot of money back but won't give me an accounting. Since they determined the checks I don't see how it's my fault. Of course the paperwork I requested never came so I need to go in person and deal with that. I also need to find a ride home from the airport after the cruise because my mom forgot and is heading to Virginia that weekend to see my brother and his family, and finally meet her twin great-granddaughters. If I have to I'll park at the airport but I am hoping to avoid that.

My problems seem trivial to what some of you are going through but they are a lot when they pile on top of one another. I figure that which dies not kill us eventually makes us stronger.

Hope you all have a great rest of the day.

My older DD has a gay friend that just got married. They are male and chose pink shirts. DD brought the girls and they were the flower girls. It was at a location on the Virginia side of the Potomac called MarryUs, and caters to smaller groups.

It looked very nice and is an option to those that want a smaller nondenominational wedding that is not in a courthouse but in a beautiful waterside setting. Later they went somewhere to have a meal with maybe 10-12 guests. The pictures were gorgeous.

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning all. Looks like it's going to rain, but who knows. Temp still going up to 84, but that's a lot cooler than they had predicted.
@Snowysmom What pea said up above is SO perfect, that I don't want to repeat what she said. She said everything I was thinking! We all know you will find your way in this new path, you just have to go at your own speed. You will know when you know~

Going to run down to the store over the PA line this morning. They have Kobe and Wagyu beef patties for $4.59 (you get 4 big ones in each pkg), and a few other things, that I will then be able to cross off my list for tomorrow.

Having a go round with one of the drug company's again. Cardiologist prescribed Trulicity for Mr L (no idea what it has to do with his heart, as it's a diabetes med, but he gave it a shot (literally). First month was the lower dose, which cost us $46 for 4 doses. (its one inject a week). Then he upped it to 3.0, and when I looked at the cost on CVS yesterday, I was irritated. $423 for 3 months worth. Pharmacist says your insurance is paying $2500 worth of it!!! Are they really crazy? Retail price is over $800 for just 1 months worth. Who on earth could ever afford that..it's almost $10K a year at that price. Girl at the hospital who does prescription assistance applied to the company to get it for him free, just waiting for their answer. Not picking it up at CVS till then. We don't see that it's making much difference, and Mr L says he's going to tell cardiologist just that!

Nothing else to report on,,no big cleaning plans for the day.

Have a good one, stay cool if you are in the heat, and stay dry if you are in the storm zones.

 

[Judique]

Just a quick stop in for the night. Not really much to report. It's been another long and emotional day. I keep thinking surly things can't get worse, but they do. I know it's going to get way worse before it starts to get better but, man I really could use a break every now and again. I know many on this little thread could use a break about now.

It's going to be HOT HOT here the rest of the week. I am not a fan.

I got a call from another place I applied to for a job for an interview next Friday. This is a job I think I'd really like and would be about perfect hours. So, I'm praying it works out, but if it doesn't, I'll have the other one to fall back on. I was very clear with the kind woman when I tentatively accepted the other job that my life is a circus at the moment and I can make no guarantees that I'll still be able to accept the job down the road. She told me that she understands and wanted me to still fill out the paperwork so that I have a job come school starting. She just asked if I could let her know by the first week of August if it isn't going to work out. Very kind indeed.

As always, hugs and prayers to all who are in the middle of a mess.

Great news on the possible jobs! That has to be a lift to know that there is something out there if you need it.

There may come a time where you will/may feel that you really escaped the bullet in your marriage. Although I certainly didn't want divorce, there was a certain freedom gained and although I have some respect for my ex, I'm happy I don't have to deal with him now, except at weddings, and a very few other events. Not having a partner is a minus, but not having one that is a jerk is a plus.

I went on to financial security - earned by me. The kids gravitate to me. They do love and visit their father and he visits them. But it's not the same, close relationship I share with them.

Another little thought - when they see you upset - they actually think they have you in reserve - as if you are their property. That's not what a marriage is supposed to be. Focus on your children, he's not worth it.

 

[footballmouse]

Happy Tuesday morning!

It's going to be a hot one today, 95 but feels like 107. We had some severe storms come through last night around dinner time. Over 1000 people still don't have power . The people behind my sister's house had a big tree in their backyard split in half and then another tree in the front fell over and on top of their car. Talk about bad luck! I have another sister who lives really close to me and her power went out, came back on around 3 am. Luckily I never lost power.

Last week I had a clog in the utility sink so I wasn't able to do laundry all week . Ds3 finally made it over yesterday after work and we worked on the clog for about an hour and he finally got it fixed. I had about 4 loads to do last night, thankfully I got them all done, left one still sitting in the dryer so I'll grab that when I get home from work. Needless to say, I didn't make it to Pilates class last night.

I've been watching a police show, Bosch, on Amazon Video for the past couple of weeks. It's pretty good. I'm on season 4 and it's getting better each season. Each season is one main case.

Texted Ds1 & Ds2 this morning and suggested that they both take a cooler with just water and Gatorade with them to work. They both work outside. They both replied back saying that they already have the cooler packed and ready to go. Glad to know that they are thinking smart!

Frog - that's very nice that you have until August to decide on that job offer. Glad to see that it gives you time to see about the other position that you seem to like a little more. Good luck with the decision and I hope the interview on Friday goes well.

That's it for me, everyone have a great day.

 

[Judique]

Probably not. Half of you will like it, and half won’t.

It's occurred to me that so long as I don't know an individuals political leanings, I don't need to make snap judgements. I can appreciate them as a human being.

I do like to get into that stuff, but I'm learning to keep it in it's place.

 

[Judique]

Today we say goodbye to the beautiful ocean views and go home.

It's been a relaxing four nights. I'll come back again in July.

DGD is doing well but missing Mom and sister.

We've gone to Assateague to see the horses and visit the beach twice. Assateague beach is dog friendly and right now, more family friendly. I say that because June can be senior high school graduate month in OC. We are in the 15th street area so more high rent than the Boardwalk area down near the inlet. Driving by down there it's swarming with younger people, and less my 'spot'. I'm not a fan of the beachwear that covers nothing, lol! Especially on the street.

So we went to Assateague where there is a mix of kids, dogs and babies, and horses.

We saw two mares with colts - so cute! We saw a lot of horses but the foals/colts were the highlight. DGD saw a lot of horse poo. I tune it out but she sees it all and calls attention to it.

Today we are not leaving until checkout time and will dawdle getting home, so that DD will be off work by the time I get there. We will be stopping for lunch and then at Target. $$$. DGD will want everything.

The weather has overall been fantastic - 70ties to 80ties. We won't see 90ties until I'm back home and then not until friday. But there will be some rain and possibly thunder. If only the summer would stay in the 70-80ties range!

Time to shower and get packed to leave.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Having a go round with one of the drug company's again. Cardiologist prescribed Trulicity for Mr L (no idea what it has to do with his heart, as it's a diabetes med, but he gave it a shot (literally). First month was the lower dose, which cost us $46 for 4 doses. (its one inject a week). Then he upped it to 3.0, and when I looked at the cost on CVS yesterday, I was irritated. $423 for 3 months worth. Pharmacist says your insurance is paying $2500 worth of it!!! Are they really crazy? Retail price is over $800 for just 1 months worth. Who on earth could ever afford that..it's almost $10K a year at that price. Girl at the hospital who does prescription assistance applied to the company to get it for him free, just waiting for their answer. Not picking it up at CVS till then. We don't see that it's making much difference, and Mr L says he's going to tell cardiologist just that!

Lynn, Trulicity significantly lowers the risk of heart attack and stroke in type 2 diabetics.

https://diatribe.org/fda-approves-heart-protective-benefits-trulicity

Mr L’s doctor must feel he’ll benefit from this. HTH.

 

[lynxstch]

Lynn, Trulicity significantly lowers the risk of heart attack and stroke in type 2 diabetics.

https://diatribe.org/fda-approves-heart-protective-benefits-trulicity

Mr L’s doctor must feel he’ll benefit from this. HTH.

Yes, I understand that, but Mr L isn't diabetic..that's the issue! And this Dr seems to just prescribe every new drug that comes out to his cardiac patients. Mr L is already on Entresto and Farxiga, in addition to all of his other meds..this is just a new addition that he doesn't think he will benefit from, so who knows!

Thanks for the link, I will have Mr L look at it

 

[Kirby]

I got a call from another place I applied to for a job for an interview next Friday. This is a job I think I'd really like and would be about perfect hours. So, I'm praying it works out, but if it doesn't, I'll have the other one to fall back on. I was very clear with the kind woman when I tentatively accepted the other job that my life is a circus at the moment and I can make no guarantees that I'll still be able to accept the job down the road. She told me that she understands and wanted me to still fill out the paperwork so that I have a job come school starting. She just asked if I could let her know by the first week of August if it isn't going to work out. Very kind indeed.

What a blessing to know that you'll have a job waiting for you if the other doesn't work out.

I guess it’s a mixed bag - in order to meet some nice people, you have to meet the toads too.

That brought the saying about kissing a lot of frogs to mind!

We've gone to Assateague to see the horses and visit the beach twice. calls attention to it.

Going to Assateague/Chincoteague is one of my bucket items, has been since I was in elementary school and reading the Margarite Henry books as a child.

Lynn, Trulicity significantly lowers the risk of heart attack and stroke in type 2 diabetics.

https://diatribe.org/fda-approves-heart-protective-benefits-trulicity

Mr L’s doctor must feel he’ll benefit from this. HTH.

This is not the same situation but my mom had degenerative disc disease in her neck and her doctor prescribed Cymbalta for it. It definitely relieved the pain in her neck and it definitely made her mood a little lighter, she still worried about a lot of stuff but not as much after taking it.

I've started walking on my treadmill again in the morning, watching the end of our local morning news and the beginning of GMA. While we are not in the heat wave areas, it's moved on, we will still be in the 90's to 100's through next week. I feel for all of you that are experiencing much higher temperatures than normal for this time of year. Plus all of the storms that are sweeping across the nation. The ones that are in the mountains will be coming through here in a day or so but the forecast is only 20% chance of rain here. I can't imagine going to Yellowstone for vacation and getting stuck there due to washed out roads.

We've got Saharan Dust moving in today and for the next couple of days. Bad for people with breathing issues but the sunsets will be magnificent.

Shopping related - tampons are in short supply apparently, not all brands but they showed some almost empty store shelves.

That's all for my news report.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Yes, I understand that, but Mr L isn't diabetic..that's the issue! And this Dr seems to just prescribe every new drug that comes out to his cardiac patients. Mr L is already on Entresto and Farxiga, in addition to all of his other meds..this is just a new addition that he doesn't think he will benefit from, so who knows!

Thanks for the link, I will have Mr L look at it

Was his A1C elevated?

 

[Canadisney Fly]

Last week I had a clog in the utility sink so I wasn't able to do laundry all week .

There is nothing as satisfying as clearing a clogged drain! Amazing how something so minor can have ripples throughout your daily function. I have poured a significant amount of corrosive liquid down my bathtub drain to no avail, but finally went in with the "snake" - voila!

Had another bike ride yesterday - this one in the city, so it was a combination of euphoria and terror. This roadbike is FAST! I find it hard to get past the possibility of someone opening their car door and ending my life (I made the mistake of cycling around 3 pm, when all the parents are picking up kids), or talking on their cell phone and going through a stop sign right into my path (yep, it happened - again). Until I know that I can quickly clip out of my pedals, having to rapidly stop has the added risk of falling over before I can clip out. Definitely have a bit of PTSD from a few incidents, and then the weight of coming through the pandemic, losing a few people due to COVID, and being a single parent exacerbates the fear - I would never want to put my son through the pain of losing a parent, but that fear (and weighty responsiblity) of being his whole world is... challenging.

I've always been a very defensive driver and have spent tens of thousands of hours behind the wheel (and as a last-ditch attempt to find some "bonding" past time with my ex, I even bought my own motorcycle!) but this city is growing so quickly - thankfully there are more and more separate bike lanes. I just need to learn the routes and stay on those until I get my mojo back.

Is it just me, or has the pandemic made anyone else feel a bit more vulnerable than before?

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good Morning friends,

Frog, please just take care of YOU. I read Philippians 4:8 yesterday, "Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things." YOU are a kind, faithful, and true example to your children in how you are choosing to move forward. I am so thankful for that kind lady and will keep your future job opportunities in much prayer indeed, my friend.

Snowysmom, I am also so glad you got yourself that table. ITA with what has already been said, too. , my friend.

for you, Lynn and much prayer for Mr. L, too, my friend.

Judique, I am not much into horses but there is something about the wild Assateague ponies that sounds so peaceful to me I'm so glad you got to go there with your family!

Pea, prayers you are still taking it easier this week. Paws and a hug for Henry and always Toto!

Kirby, good for you on the treadmill!

Yikes, to the weather feeling like 107 Footballmouse! You please take care and stay cool! That is definitely not weather to be out and about in at all! Eek.

PollyannaMom, how is your DH feeling? Thinking of all of you and praying you all are healthy!

Hug, Canadisney Fly, good for you for taking a ride. I'm not sure how I would feel about a bigger city bike ride either! Definitely need to stay alert! Is riding on sidewalks allowed anywhere near you? I am not sure whether it still is okay to do that in any places. I do pray the riding brings you added peace, my friend.

Dad just went to Ralph's quickly. After he drops off perishables he will be going to Supercuts. At the Supercuts he is going to, Tuesdays is Senior Discount Day--$3 off. Another nearby Supercuts location on Tuesdays offers $3 off to anyone on Tuesdays. Passing this along to all of you just in case there's a Supercuts near you to look into this at LOL, one of these days, dad will be my haircutter at home!

Have a good Tuesday everyone!

 

[easyas123]

Good morning everyone. Not much new to report, it's raining and thunderstorming outside my office window as I type. Boo, I wish I was home, on my porch w/ a cup of coffee enjoying it. Regardless, my new trees & the garden need the H2O so at least I won't have to water this evening after work.

Getting upgraded internet installed or put in or whatever the terminology is tomorrow mid-day. Considering cutting off Directv. Might try the TV w/ the internet folks, Dish or just go with streaming. But here is the thing, I like sitting down to watch TV and now having to search all over hill & dale for what I want to watch. We don't do any streaming right now, I mean we have Prime for shipping, but don't usually watch stuff although my husband will download the occasional movie or tv series for plane rides. I suppose I ought to do a bit of research on it.

If only the summer would stay in the 70-80ties range!

I love the heat & humidity, but it's been so pleasant of late that we've said the same thing to each other more than once! This weekend is looking fantastic in Maryland.

Got some family coming over for dinner Friday evening, hair cut on Saturday morning and I think we may try taking the dog to a restaurant for the first time, see how she does at some point over the weekend. Fit in there crabs for fathers day on Sunday afternoon I think. Should be a rather filled up weekend. Got a busy week at work next week, on the road Tuesday & Wednesday, and Friday morning I'm taking the new foster back to the vet for a 2 week check up on how he is doing.

Not sure what dinner will be this evening. Tacos or sautéed chicken in a vindaloo sauce over rice.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

Morning all.
@Snowysmom Your new table sounds beautiful.
@Judique Sounds like you had some fun!
@Canadisney Fly I can't ride a bike at all (balance issues), but if I could, I'm not sure I'd do the city riding...sounds scary!
@lynxstch DH had a dr that liked to try to give him all sorts of medications that he shouldn't take. I always double check his new meds with his nephrologist and the pharmacist, to make sure there aren't counter-indications or interactions with his regular meds.

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Got the front yard mowed and weedwacked (mostly). There's a little patch, about a foot, that didn't get done because all the batteries died. It was 87 when I started and 89 when I finished 90 minutes later (real feel 89/93). Am dead. It's 90 now, real feel 107; and our high is supposed to be 95. The next 6 days call for highs of 97, 94, 97, 100, 93 and 94. The a/c will be getting a workout for sure; front yard faces east, with just a couple of palm trees for shade; and the backyard faces west, no trees for shade in the back, so the house gets the full brunt of the sun all day long.

I was unloading the dishwasher, this morning, and I guess there was a little bit of water on something that spilled on the floor. I slipped and fell forward into the dishwasher; landed hand first on the bottom rack which was pulled out, over the door; and knocked the inside totally out of alignment. The inside of the dishwasher was leaning forward, the racks wouldn't stay in. Dropped a glass storage dish (which didn't break) and a glass, which did break and landed jagged edge up, about an inch from where my throat landed. Cleaned up the glass and water, and have to let the landlord know it needs repairing, because it is now leaking (ran a couple of rinse cycles to check). So, I have an icepack held between my feet (where it hurts) and one on the meat of my right palm (where I landed on the rack). DH said we will order dinner, so that's a win. Guess I'm handwashing dishes for the next few days.

Y'all have a good day, and stay cool!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Wow, glad you’re ok, B&B!

 

[lynxstch]

Was his A1C elevated?

no it wasn't