Quarantine and chill and kindness chatty clubhouse: Jump in and join the conversation! All is welcome!

What do you think?


Honestly - and I come from a place of not being in the situation - I think her best bet is to contact her lawyer, ask for their professional advice in writing and and follow it.

Well, looks like a few of us have been in Lancaster, PA over the past few days! We popped up there yesterday, wanted to hit the Orvis & Columbia outlets (picked up a few things but not much), and go to a furniture place outside of town, on the way home, that has a lot of outdoor furniture & dining room stuff (both we need). Super busy, which I guess makes since considering it's about time to go back to school. Just grabbed a burger, neither of us likes buffets so we don't check those out. Didn't order any furniture but got a good idea of what is available for when we are ready to order it after we get done getting pool put in. As of now that is a big ??? in terms of getting on the schedule but we are working on it.

I woke up this morning and it was raining, and has been raining on & off most of the day. I guess it finally stopped about early or mid afternoon. Stayed gray and gloomy and humid though. Dogs and I are outside now, it's cooled off considerably. I very glad we got the needed rain, but now we have to race to mow tomorrow after work because we didn't mow Saturday and will be out of town a fair bit of the week for work related travel. Oh well, either it gets done or it doesn't, the world will still turn. And can I just say, I'm glad to be traveling for work again! Not that I did a lot before, just a few times per year at most. It just feels like a step towards back to normal.

Made ribs for dinner, and POTATO SALAD (thanks for the recipes & tips, I went for basic w/ mayo).

Have a great evening all -
 
I have a question about co-parenting after divorce. I don't know if any of you have experience with this but wanted your thoughts. DD's ex has accused her of not co-parenting/acting in the best interests of the children on many occasions and with the motions that his attorney has filed against her, it has her bending over backwards for him.

We are taking a short trip (5 days) to Houston with her and the kids during her Fall break. She feels that she has to notify him of said trip. My attitude is why? How does that effect the kids for him to know? We're not leaving the state. He has taken Lil Joe on trips a couple of times over the last couple of summer visitations, even took him to South Carolina where he is living without telling her and not telling Carol his current address until last week. I don't want to do tit for tat but does telling him everything fall under co-parenting?

What do you think?
Will the kids need to be taken out of school for the trip? If so, I think she would have to get him to agree. If not, maybe mention it but he shouldn't say they can't go.

Worked my 2nd job all weekend. Good news is that I stuck to my diet all weekend. Yay me!!! No rain this weekend but hotter than hell!
 
Honestly - and I come from a place of not being in the situation - I think her best bet is to contact her lawyer, ask for their professional advice in writing and and follow it.



This would be my suggestion to. If she contacts her lawyer and they advise her in writing, the ex won't be able to do very much about it. Good luck to her.

Well, looks like a few of us have been in Lancaster, PA over the past few days! We popped up there yesterday, wanted to hit the Orvis & Columbia outlets (picked up a few things but not much), and go to a furniture place outside of town, on the way home, that has a lot of outdoor furniture & dining room stuff (both we need). Super busy, which I guess makes since considering it's about time to go back to school. Just grabbed a burger, neither of us likes buffets so we don't check those out. Didn't order any furniture but got a good idea of what is available for when we are ready to order it after we get done getting pool put in. As of now that is a big ??? in terms of getting on the schedule but we are working on it.

I woke up this morning and it was raining, and has been raining on & off most of the day. I guess it finally stopped about early or mid afternoon. Stayed gray and gloomy and humid though. Dogs and I are outside now, it's cooled off considerably. I very glad we got the needed rain, but now we have to race to mow tomorrow after work because we didn't mow Saturday and will be out of town a fair bit of the week for work related travel. Oh well, either it gets done or it doesn't, the world will still turn. And can I just say, I'm glad to be traveling for work again! Not that I did a lot before, just a few times per year at most. It just feels like a step towards back to normal.

Made ribs for dinner, and POTATO SALAD (thanks for the recipes & tips, I went for basic w/ mayo).

mmmmm sounds good!

Have a great evening all -
 
Hugs, Lynn, I had a feeling you would (I hoped you wouldn’t, though) end up mowing. Hooray once again for your SIL and niece. I am truly thankful you have them in your life.

Hug to you, Carol, how great you got to have dinner with your DS! Sorry church was pretty empty though. I started to watch worship but didn’t get very far—interrupted. I will watch in the morning :) Almost anything chemically or medicine-y upsets my stomach, as well. I hear you on the menthol drops.

That sounds very cool, “Cool Kids,” at church, Kirby. Prayers both kiddos enjoy that experience and of, course, that all of you enjoy worship! :) Sometimes a change of scene, especially amongst fellowship at church is wonderful “medicine.” Please do take care, my friend. I agree with Easyas, Footballmouse, and Lynn on trip advice.

Well, I’m glad despite the rain, you had a nice outing, Easyas :) How is your new pup settling in?

Yay you, Footballmouse!

Hugs to all for a good evening and sweet dreams!
 

Today it was mostly nice here in NH. Kids and grandkids arrived today. It got cloudy and rained a bit late afternoon. It looks like the storm should stay away for most of tomorrow. The grandkids wore me out today. They are busy little ones and all 5 at once is tiring. I did read that restaurants and stores are hwving issues getting help. Storyland is closed Wed and Thurs amd many restaurants in North Conway are closed 2 days a week. We are mainly just doing takeout from a couple of places or cooking or making quick meals. We are chilling out.

I hope everyone is safe from the storm and taking care.
 
Thank you for your comments.

Besides going to church today, I went with DD and the kids to the grocery store. Then I worked in my mom's bedroom getting some boxes ready to take to our local Helping Hands. Got to talk to DH's older sister. She is battling multiple myeloma, doing okay but gets sick easy. Just got over a bout of bronchitis and the flu.

Dinner was ribeyes, baked potatoes and Ranch Style beans.
 
Good morning all. After 8 am and yet I am still the first one on? LOL! I slept so soundly from 10 pm till 2 am..then he woke me needing to use the commode and I couldn't go back to sleep. I finally fell asleep again at 5 and slept till 7:30. Heat wave is back..into the 90's for the week,,ick!

OT, PT, and nurse will all be here this morning, so it will be busy,,will be back later to check in.

Have a nice day all..stay safe if you are still in Henri's path, stay cool if you are in the heat again.

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Cute Pooh picture this morning, Lynn!

I was up early, but not super "awake" so I watched a movie instead of getting on the computer - the new Aurora Teagarden from Hallmark that I taped last night. (And yes, I did figure out the murderer before the end. :magnify: )

We came through the storm fine. I think the tomato 🍅 might even be OK The cage was tipped over, but the plant itself doesn't seem broken. We'll see how it does.

I'm seeing lots on the news about Tennessee, though. 😥
 
Easyas :) How is your new pup settling in?

Honestly - I don't know! But that is on purpose...I specifically ask the adoptive family not to contact me with updates on the dog and this & that. Obviously I encourage them to contact me with any questions they have, or if they are experiencing a issue BUT I don't need/want random pictures and constant chit chat from them. Honestly, sending each dog on to their new home gets easier and easier with each one, but it's still just a nice, clean break if we don't act like we are the best of friends. I know the dog is in a good place, so I don't feel the need for constant updates. I guess other fosters are probably different, but it is what works for us.

OT, PT, and nurse will all be here this morning, so it will be busy

Busy morning - good luck, hope your husband is continuing to make progress and is well on his way to back to his normal.

I'm seeing lots on the news about Tennessee, though. 😥

Ugh, it's it terrible. Hard to believe so many folks missing. And this snafu in Afghanistan...


I'm chilly for some reason this morning. I even have the AC off in my office, and it's hot & humid outside! This office has weird pockets of warm & cold, which is why I am often wearing a sweater in here in the summer! I've got to run some errands after work today, and then I have a appt., so I'll grab something for dinner on the way home. I won't pack for my trip until tonight, honestly I'm just tossing a few outfits in the bag with the thought I'll just iron them when I get to the hotel, then up to meet my SIL and head to the airport around 4:45 tomorrow morning. My husband decided last night he wasn't going to go, so it's just us gals until my brother comes in on Wednesday morning.
We will have most of Tuesday and a bit of Wednesday to check out Boston before our meetings. Then I'll be home Thursday night.
 
Good morning all. After 8 am and yet I am still the first one on? LOL!

I popped on earlier to 'like' stuff, but didn't post. Was in a bit of a hurry to get out the door to get to the post office and the store...made it to the p.o. and discovered I left my wallet at home. >:( It took over 30 minutes for the first drive there, because I was stuck behind a school bus, picking up junior high kids (bad timing on my part). I'm debating if I want to go back up today, since I have to go back up Wed for 2 more packages. Three are Target orders (tp, paper towels, laundry stuff, deodorant, etc) and the other is fudge, strawberry preserves and a fruitcake to try (we are still searching for a 'good' one, lol) from a specialty shop; so only one 'might' go bad, but I think it'll be fine for a couple more days. Isn't fruitcake supposed to be good forever? :rotfl2: On a bright note, I did get my Starbucks, so... (app had money on it, woot!), but they are STILL out of my salted caramel drizzle (and even regular caramel drizzle). :charac2:


DH was up last night, sick. :sick: I had to clean the bathroom this am when I first got up. :worried: He didn't wake me up last night. It feels like he ate something bad yesterday or the day before. He's got a sensitive stomach....the slightest thing sets it off. He's keeping ginger ale in right now, so that's positive. I'm going to get grilled cheese and some sort of soup for him for later. DS and I can have bagel dogs or pretzel dogs and salad.

I feel like it's an Eeyore day for me. It's gray and blah feeling outside. :eeyore:

We had our 22nd anniversary on Saturday. I made Swiss Steak burgers (from Fresh Market), onion rings and salad. We had a triple chocolate mousse cake from there too, instead of fondue. Watched some tv, and snuggled on the couch. I bought us flowers when I went to Fresh Market. :rolleyes2

I ordered DGS#2's Christmas gifts from Amazon already; there are always shipping issues to Japan from about October to February, so I went ahead and took care of things. I'll order the other grandkids gifts in late October or early November, since they are stateside. My kids can live with getting their gifts late, lol.

I hope everyone up North survived Henri with little issues.


@Kirby I would think it would depend on what their court papers say. She should check her paperwork and with the lawyer. A friend had to tell her ex everytime she took the kids out of their 'normal activity range'...so she would have had to tell him if they went shopping at a mall in the next town over. Another friend and her ex can't do anything unless both parents sign off on it...even something as simple as a haircut requires paperwork!

DD#2, from ages one to four, had two homes (DH and I weren't married then). But we worked with each other to make sure DD had what she needed, and spent enough time with both of us. He worked Mon-Thurs, I worked Fri-Tues nights (his office was closed on Fridays, and I arranged with my work to take my days off during the week). I would hang out at DH's place during her preschool time in the mornings, as he lived right across the street from it; then she and I would go to my place, or on Mon/Tues, I'd take her to my sisters so I could work. (DH also had a key to my place, and I didn't have a problem with him being there with her.) DH had insurance on her, as his family cost was cheaper than mine, but whoever took her to the doctor paid the copay; I paid for daycare (sis charged me $25 a week). If she needed shoes or a jacket or a haircut, whoever had the money got them for her. Everything he or I did for her, about her, we did together.

With DD#1, everything was a battle with my ex and ex-inlaws. We did some pictures, just her and I (I was newly pg with DD#2, but didn't know it); and with both of us with our hair done, wearing nice "Sunday school" type dressses, and sitting in a portrait studio. It because a major issue. :confused3 The ex was angry that he wasn't in the pictures; or because I didn't pay for him, his girlfriend and DD to get pictures; or because he was just being a jerk; I could never figure it out. Because we took a portrait without him, he tried to run me over with his car, and had his girlfriend try to fight me. :rolleyes2 He was...is...the worst kind of 🐓. I want to go back and slap my teenage self in the head two or three times. :teeth:


Anyways, I hope everyone has a good day.
 
I have no experience with co-parentling, Kirby. I think getting legal advice is good advice. I have one family member who had a situation with divorce and living in different states from ex, and I know it got tricky (and contentious) at times. It‘s tough on everyone.

We sailed through Henri pretty well, as it seemed to move more west than where we are. We got some light rain and fog and that was it, although early Sunday morning there was some minor flooding on the highways. @easyas enjoy your trip to Boston. :goodvibes I hope you can visit the North End for an Italian meal and don’t forget to hit the bakeries!

DD wound up very sick this weekend, had to go to the doctor’s yesterday and is now on antibiotics, as is another travel companion from their NH trip last weekend. Friend is positive for strep. DD’s rapid was negative but she had exudate in her throat which is often indicative of strep, so waiting for the standard culture to come back. Whatever she has moved down to her chest so she‘s been feeling really awful. (Multiple covid tests negative.) They think they got it at the water park up there, so be careful if you go there with the kids, @Snowysmom! They also visited the aquarium across from Storyland. I always felt that, where there are kids, there is strep.

Working the next couple of days. It’s been so crazy at work. I need a vacation! 🧐

Yesterday we made this, still trying to use up a ton of tomatoes. The grape ones are so good you can eat them like candy! If anyone wants the recipe it’s here.

https://www.bhg.com/recipe/creamy-blt-pasta-salad/

Lots of chopping but fairly easy. If we make it again, I would mix all ingredients and then let it sit for a couple of hours in the fridge to meld the flavors before serving. We had some last night and we agreed it tasted better than earlier in the day (even if lettuce wasn’t as crispy).

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Dang it's hot! Cut the grass at 8:30 this morning. Forecaster said it was 76 but felt like 82 so this morning was the best time to do it. Holy crap, I was sweating so bad, I looked like I just came out of the shower!!! At least it's done for the week. Now I guess I should stay inside an do my real job.
Everyone have a good day and stay cool!
 
DH was up last night, sick. :sick: I had to clean the bathroom this am when I first got up. :worried: He didn't wake me up last night. It feels like he ate something bad yesterday or the day before. He's got a sensitive stomach....the slightest thing sets it off. He's keeping ginger ale in right now, so that's positive. I'm going to get grilled cheese and some sort of soup for him for later. DS and I can have bagel dogs or pretzel dogs and salad.
We must’ve been posting at the same time. I was also cleaning bathrooms down with Lysol with DD being sick! Don’t want to get whatever it is that she has! I’m sorry your DH wasn’t feeling well. I know those meds can be tough. (I work with transplant patients, too.) I hope he’s feeling better soon and that neither of us have to clean bathrooms for a while, lol. You are smart to get your orders done early!
 
Sorry to hear of people being sick, and of custody troubles. Things can get definitely get awfully messy in difficult family situations. ☹️ I think I would want to know if my kids were taking an overnight trip somewhere, but having to share every little detail of daily things would seem like overkill. Though difficult to get to, I think a middle ground is usually best.

As for strep, DS used to be fairly prone to it when he was little. And he always had a particular pattern - He'd get a headache and stomachache first, go to sleep, and then wake up with the sore throat. One time I asked the doc to test, even though his throat didn't look "strep-y" and lo and behold, it came back positive. (Thankfully, we had a pediatrician who believed in mothers' instincts.)
 
Hi Everyone! It's been a rough year! I was a cashier for 23 years for W-mart and my knees went out on me. They wouldn't work with me at all even though I had a doctors note so I had to take early retirement (ridiculous amount of retirement....I'd have to live in my car if it was paid off if I wasn't married) anyway, so now I'm stuck at home with bum knees that I can barely walk on.
My husband works for a big company and he's been working from home since the beginning of the Pandemic......I love my husband very much! we've been married 42 years but we are driving each other crazy! lol
We have had a trip planned for DW for the last 3 years (we were supposed to go last year) and have decided to go this October BUT it seems like that CV is running rampant in Florida! we've both been fully vaccinated but I'm kind of worried. If we don't go and have some fun I'm afraid things are going to get rough around here. So, what would YOU do? (BE NICE PLEASE)
 
DD wound up very sick this weekend, had to go to the doctor’s yesterday and is now on antibiotics, as is another travel companion from their NH trip last weekend. Friend is positive for strep. DD’s rapid was negative but she had exudate in her throat which is often indicative of strep, so waiting for the standard culture to come back. Whatever she has moved down to her chest so she‘s been feeling really awful. (Multiple covid tests negative.) They think they got it at the water park up there, so be careful if you go there with the kids, @Snowysmom! They also visited the aquarium across from Storyland. I always felt that, where there are kids, there is strep.


Yesterday we made this, still trying to use up a ton of tomatoes. The grape ones are so good you can eat them like candy! If anyone wants the recipe it’s here.

https://www.bhg.com/recipe/creamy-blt-pasta-salad/

Lots of chopping but fairly easy. If we make it again, I would mix all ingredients and then let it sit for a couple of hours in the fridge to meld the flavors before serving. We had some last night and we agreed it tasted better than earlier in the day (even if lettuce wasn’t as crispy).

Hope the girls get better quickly.

I think maybe I would skip the lettuce in the salad, and serve it in lettuce cups, so that the lettuce would stay crispy.
 
We must’ve been posting at the same time. I was also cleaning bathrooms down with Lysol with DD being sick! Don’t want to get whatever it is that she has! I’m sorry your DH wasn’t feeling well. I know those meds can be tough. (I work with transplant patients, too.) I hope he’s feeling better soon and that neither of us have to clean bathrooms for a while, lol. You are smart to get your orders done early!

LOL Great minds post, and clean, alike....
I have Clorax and Lysol wipes, that I alternate with, and Microban antibacterial spray.

He hasn't had a problem with his transplant meds yet, not even at the beginning. (Mycophenolate mofetil; Tacrolimus; and Prednisone; if he's off the Prednisone, he starts to reject, so it's a 'theraputic' 5mg daily dose) He's diabetic also (caused by pancreas issues that came to the front after the transplant; issues caused by the 'lazy brother-in-law kidney' and the adrenocortical cancer that caused the removal of the 'mostly working' kidney), using long and short acting insulin. He's also on Cinacalcet (since about 6 months after the transplant), Lisinopril (for the year), and Rosuvastatin (for the last 6ish months). He's had some tummy issues since starting the Lisionpril and those got worse with the Rosuvastatin; but the doctors say that they aren't bad enough to stop or change. :confused3

No fever, so that was good. and he is feeling a bit better, and is about to have some chicken and veggie soup. Hopefully he can nap for an hour or so, before going back to work.
 
I think maybe I would skip the lettuce in the salad, and serve it in lettuce cups, so that the lettuce would stay crispy.
I was thinking that, too, but I’m not sure it would get the dressing on it as well. I am a “like a lot of dressing” person. I suppose if you aren’t (like my DH), you could put the lettuce in later. Either way, it’s good. (DD and I are fighting over leftovers today, lol.)
He hasn't had a problem with his transplant meds yet, not even at the beginning. (Mycophenolate mofetil; Tacrolimus; and Prednisone; if he's off the Prednisone, he starts to reject, so it's a 'theraputic' 5mg daily dose) He's diabetic also (caused by pancreas issues that came to the front after the transplant; issues caused by the 'lazy brother-in-law kidney' and the adrenocortical cancer that caused the removal of the 'mostly working' kidney), using long and short acting insulin. He's also on Cinacalcet (since about 6 months after the transplant), Lisinopril (for the year), and Rosuvastatin (for the last 6ish months). He's had some tummy issues since starting the Lisionpril and those got worse with the Rosuvastatin; but the doctors say that they aren't bad enough to stop or change. :confused3
Those types of stories are very familiar. I’m glad that overall, he doesn’t have problems with the meds. Lol to the “lazy brother in law kidney”. :lmao:
 
So, what would YOU do? (BE NICE PLEASE)

Welcome to the fun, one thing you can count on...if you ask for a honest opinion several of us will give it to you, but we are always kind & nice!
So, to answer your question...I'd go. I've carefully & safely traveled pre my vaccination, and after my vaccination. We rolled the dice and it worked out, we followed prescribed recommendations at the time and took precautions, but we decided we were forging ahead with life. BUT, we made the choice that worked best for our age, health, and all those other myriad of factors, so whenever I am asked this question I always add the caveat that each person has to decide for themselves based on their own limitations. It's not a one size fits all question. So yeah, I'd go :rolleyes:. Honestly, sounds like you've had a year...if you guys want to go and you are up for it, head on out! And have a huge boatload of fun!!

I think maybe I would skip the lettuce in the salad, and serve it in lettuce cups, so that the lettuce would stay crispy.

I was thinking the same thing! My husband will take a bit of leftover salad w/ dressing already on it and save it and eat it the next day. I just can.not.do.that. I need fresh, crisp lettuce. But we love all things BLT here, so I may be giving this a try!

Well, we are once again dealing with neighbors who thought it would be charming to live next to a farm, until it's time for us to you know, use farm equipment. This installment of 'are you kidding me?' features neighbors complaining about a storage trailer that is needed for crop production being parked on a private road at our farm. You see, unbeknownst to us they talked the school bus driver into coming down there and she has a hard time turning around so they want me to move it. No, don't know why she can't do a 3 point turn. I seriously doubt she has a problem... I can't move it, although I did try. I wanted to be a good neighbor. And now some poor bus driver who they asked to come down a private road is going to get in trouble because she's not supposed to even be on that road. These people are getting on my last nerve. Why yes, these are the same people who complained when we took down a falling down fence because we were ruining their view. Of our property & crops. No, I'm not responsible for the view a real estate agent sold you that has nothing to do with me. I'm just on my last nerve with these folks...another guy who screamed at us because we were concerned about his kids riding in traffic and didn't want to see them get hit by a car, who told us to 'have a blessed day' and that maybe we should 'just go to church' instead of worrying about what his kids were doing - just got arrested for beating up his wife. Charged with a felony assault. Evidently not for the first time...the hypocrisy is not lost on me. I am just baffled by these people who want to move out to the country and then try to change it once they get here. Sorry - I'm not anti church, I'm anti people pontificating to me to lead a better life (??) and then they turn around and beat up their wives in front of the 4 little kids they have.
Deep Breaths for me, and my apologies for the rant.
Ok, so I have some errands to run this afternoon, and a nail appt. , and then a stop at the grocery store & beer store, after that then home to pack for my work trip to Boston. I predict a high probability of Wawa hoagies for dinner:rotfl2:
 
❤ and Good Morning to All! I enjoyed reading so many new posts just now. Means so much to check in with all of you every day to make sure you are here and okay :) Prayers to all going through health and/or family issues. Neither is ever easy! Know we all care.

I finally watched the DVD version of Miracles from Heaven last night and enjoyed. I think I may have liked the book version better. In a few minutes, I will watch Miracle of the Cards.

I've been an early Christmas Elf this morning. I'm trying to plan ahead on who I will be sending a card or postcard to this year (I got some extra stamps before the increase to come next week) For anyone I will be mailing a gift, too, I'm trying to plan ahead on cost for that stuff as well and hopefully Amazon will offer a free Prime trial in later November so dad and I can directly send stuff to a few joint people and I can do likewise for some extra friends. Of course, I'll be mailing a few packages myself. I'm just trying to be be post office smarter this year given the pandemic and all the mail delays! As a very Merry early Christmas FYI, please PM me (if I don't already have your address) and you would like a Christmas card of cheer :)

I will check back in this afternoon :)
 














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