Putting My House on the Market, and I am just "not into it".

[DawnCt1]

Stay....you sound like you are talking yourself right out of it

For today anyway. Next week I could be in a totally different frame of mind.

 

[PatsGirl]

I've only moved twice since a teen, once at 16 and once at 24 into the house I still live in so I cannot empathize but it sounds like you should take it VERY slowly and not "settle". You might even reconsider selling at all and look at other alternatives especially if its only 10 nights/month. Can you pick up a small studio condo where you could meet up with your husband or stay for a few days here and there and still maintain your current residence?

 

[KarenB]

For today anyway. Next week I could be in a totally different frame of mind.

Yup....been there!

 

[DawnCt1]

I've only moved twice since a teen, once at 16 and once at 24 into the house I still live in so I cannot empathize but it sounds like you should take it VERY slowly and not "settle". You might even reconsider selling at all and look at other alternatives especially if its only 10 nights/month. Can you pick up a small studio condo where you could meet up with your husband or stay for a few days here and there and still maintain your current residence?

Wouldn't even need to. Hanscom AFB in Lexington has very affordable suite accommodations that have a small kitchen area if needed for less than the maintainance fees or taxes would be for a condo. DH is very happy with the hotel room there. That is what makes it a tougher decision. We aren't that inconvenienced by the distance from his job.

 

[DawnCt1]

No advice but I'm right there with you. Dh is being laid off (they told people in advance) and he has something lined up elsewhere.

While employment is good we are going to lose a boat load if we can sell. The agents here say it'll take 5-10 years just to get our money now and I'm not interested in being a landloard that long.

But, I'm not into it at all! I'm so sick of the declutter and depersonalazation. We've painted and scrubbed but with 2 kids it is constant.

And, I don't want to move!

I feel for you. At least I feel we have a choice.

 

[C.Ann]

Wouldn't even need to. Hanscom AFB in Lexington has very affordable suite accommodations that have a small kitchen area if needed for less than the maintainance fees or taxes would be for a condo. DH is very happy with the hotel room there. That is what makes it a tougher decision. We aren't that inconvenienced by the distance from his job.

It sounds to me as though if you move, you'll be "settling" - because nothing out there has grabbed you yet.. Who knows if it ever will? It doesn't sound like the commuting is that much of an issue, so I think you can take your time and just go with the flow for now..

And - with Jude's situation, I'm sure you're not really in the mood to uproot a very ill pet either.. It's obvious how much this dog means to you - just like another family member - so if there's no big rush, I'd put it all on the back burner for a bit..

Whatever you decide, best of luck!

 

[DawnCt1]

Well.........I don't know the backstory-except lots of threads when she was house searching. My DH is around hers age and that is a long commute-Not what I'd want my DH to do.

not sure why he got the job in another state. I think commuting or living part time in another state is pretty hard

But not doing it because of the dog????

To do something that is exciting, fun and is a major area of study and interest for him. Sometimes you have to break a few eggs to make an omelet. He loves his new job and is very disciplined, so working from home is easy for him. Me? I would have to throw in an extra load of laundry or run the vacuum cleaner. We could easily move with our dog and if there wasn't snow on the ground, "buyers" wouldn't notice his problem.

 

[Silent1CB]

How about DH renting in MA & staying there a couple nights a week?
How about both of you moving & renting in MA; and renting out your CT home to move back to when he retires?

I don't think that ride is 1 hr one way ever. Its got to be more like 1.5 to 2 hrs most everyday each way. Plus its wintertime and that's crazy.

My DH's job may move and his commute would now be well over an hour on a good day. I seriously looked at picking up a really cheap condo for him to stay in if it indeed happens.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Wouldn't even need to. Hanscom AFB in Lexington has very affordable suite accommodations that have a small kitchen area if needed for less than the maintainance fees or taxes would be for a condo. DH is very happy with the hotel room there. That is what makes it a tougher decision. We aren't that inconvenienced by the distance from his job.

See that--you answered your own question in the sentence I bolded. If you guys are not that inconvenienced, then the answer is to not move right now.

Good neighbors are golden. You know you have no way of knowing what you'll get in that regard if you move. Construction can always be done on houses; good neighbors and belonging to a community are things that can not be bought.

Well.........I don't know the backstory-except lots of threads when she was house searching. My DH is around hers age and that is a long commute-Not what I'd want my DH to do.

not sure why he got the job in another state. I think commuting or living part time in another state is pretty hard

But not doing it because of the dog????

See the bolded part. Do you really expect anyone to believe that you don't think you know the backstory?

I'm sure the dog is just a side issue. Dawn's heart is heavy over Jude's future, so of course she's not going to get excited over something arduous like selling her home and moving. I can totally empathize with her feelings.

 

[Disneycrazymom]

Oh my mistake. When you said DS #4 I made an assumption about the others being gone. It does make a difference that they are still living at home though. Where will they go if you move? Is this a long term job for DH? the condo idea might be something to think about.

 

[KirstenB]

You sound like youre happy where you are. If it's in your budget, I'd go ahead and update your home. It'll feel like you've moved to a new home, with all the benefits of staying in a comfortable, familiar sanctuary. If you decide to move in the future, the work will have been done.

 

[rie'smom]

Actually one of our goals is to buy a place in southern Fl. at some point, and taking on a mortgage on a primary residence would postpone. So money isn't an issue other than, would we be spending it on what we really want to spend it on. Of course if we saw a house that we were really crazy about, all bets are off. I could get really excited and be ready to go. I just haven't seen anything in the price range we want that I like.

This sounds like my husband and me. We thought about buying a house closer to his work even though we love this house. The floor plan is great and we have good neighbors too. There were some great places but there was always something we wanted to change.

We decided, in the end, to stay here and we bought a lovely house on a lake. It's only 15 minutes from DH's work. In fact, he can hop in his boat, cross the lake, have one of his employees pick him up and bring him to work. At the end of the day, he can boat straight to the house or stop and fish for a bit and "bring home the bacon".



DVC took care of south FL.