Problem With My Daughter, WWYD?

[Allison]

Wow... way to pick apart the OP's life!

OP, I was never fortunate enough to live near my folks when my kids needed sitting. As a result, I had to secure babysitting outside the family 100% of the time. As a parent, the ultimate responsibility for my kids is mine alone. Not my mom's. Mine. On those few occasions when we visited my folks over the holidays, my mom would cancel anything and everything she had planned to be able to visit with us or watch one of my kids while I took the other someplace (i.e., watching an 18 month old while I took a 6 1/2 year old to Disneyland) even if she didn't know our exact itinerary in advance.

I think it's nice that you are assisting your grown son while he transitions from one job to another. It must be such a relief for him to have one less thing to worry about as he makes his way. It's too bad your daughter doesn't understand her role and responsibilities when it comes to her own children. While it's ok for her to ask you to provide back up care, she is out of line for operating under the assumption you'll do it regardless. She could use a small lesson in putting on her big girl pants and securing alternate care that day while thanking you from the bottom of her heart for committing to the other two days.

Good post.

 

[MIGrandma]

What's funny is--the daughter may have gotten over it.

It's only us folks on the DIS who carry on ad nauseum about it.

OP here....yes, she IS over it!

And I can't believe there are 140 responses and people are still talking about it!

 

[TwinsinCA]

So, sometimes things happen in life that doesn't seem fair or maybe my dad should have been told "You snooze, you lose".

I am sure that kind of thing happens in hospitals ALL the time. And the call that comes in for a loud party is going to get pushed behind the later call about a home intruder. The call for a cat up a tree is going to be less important than getting to a house on fire. I get that. But baby sitting is not life and death.

In non extreme circumstances, those who ask first, get in line first, etc. should get priority. It is about a sense of fairness and order and it completely boggles my mind that such a concept is dismissed as childish.

 

[TwinsinCA]

OP here....yes, she IS over it!

And I can't believe there are 140 responses and people are still talking about it!

I'm glad to hear your daughter is feeling better about things.

And looking at the picture in your sig line, are you sure your son has to leave the house to go hunting? It looks like he might do fine just sitting in your backyard.

 

[2girlsmom]

OP, I am so glad that she is over it. Sometimes we do get upset over silly things, it sounds like this was the case for her too.

 

[Allison]

OP here....yes, she IS over it!

And I can't believe there are 140 responses and people are still talking about it!

Great.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Good post.

Yes, I agree with you. It is one of the best posts in this whole thread. She gets to the point but then again I'm use to her doing the same in other threads, especially on the Transportation Board.

 

[DVC Sadie]

OP here....yes, she IS over it!

And I can't believe there are 140 responses and people are still talking about it!

Well this is the Disboard and everyone has an opinion.

 

[PaulaSB12]

All the men in my family, from my grandfather and his brothers down to my husband are hunters. Guess what they do when they get a deer, they keep some and give most of it away to others who like it and do not hunt. Never in the past 100 years have we needed the deer so bad that we would starve to death.

If his older kids family is so poor they will stave then the OP's son needs to give them more in child support. He now keeps an extra $1K from not renting the house. He is on his third month and that would be $3K extra. That could feed the older kids family for a year.


Many of you keep forgetting that the younger kid is by a different mother. He is not with his sister and brother except when his dad is in town. So he is being abandoned by all three. He also has a very limited relationship with the person he is being left with. Talk about separation anxiet for that poor child.

The son chose to be an over the road trucker. It is a very tough job that is very much needed and he knew he would be away from his kids.

So his kids need food and never see their dad yet we are making the son out to be a marter.

No one is making the son to be any such thing. What people are pointing out that while the grandmother is supposed never to say no to the daughter, if she chooses to keep 1 day for her son she is being selfish. Quite frankly there is a good deal of anti male attitude on the board. Its ok for a woman to spend time with her mother but not ok for a son, you should always do what your daughter wants but cant say no for a male sibling.

 

[MIGrandma]

I'm glad to hear your daughter is feeling better about things.

And looking at the picture in your sig line, are you sure your son has to leave the house to go hunting? It looks like he might do fine just sitting in your backyard.

Oh, no! He can't shoot Bernard the Bear!!

But that's not our back yard, it's at our property up north where we go camping. DH has a critter-cam attached to a tree. We usually just get pictures of deer, rabbits, raccoons, porcupines and squirrels. So we were extremely happy to get this picture of the bear, who I named Bernard.