Pretty upset

[happygirl]

I agree with others you need to report him to the church elders or deacons. What if he tries to do this to teens in the church. I also wouldn't leave the church you did nothing wrong at all. It's really hard to find a good church home and it sounds like you have really liked this church just not this man.

 

[pilotwife_02]

I'm really sorry, I do think you need to report him. There may be other woman who aren't as strong as you and fell for his deceptiveness.

I'm sure you're scared and worried they won't believe you, but most churches take allegations like this very serious. If you have it set up a certain way when you reopen you IM windows your old conversation will pop up so you can then copy the conversation as evidence.

 

[JerseyJanice]

I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I'm sure it hurt.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Oh, I am so sorry. What a horrible violation!

He's almost certain to have done this before and will almost certainly attempt it again. I hope you have the courage to report him.

I feel so bad for you.

 

[dislaney]

You absolutely need to report him. He's a predator. He gained your trust, made you feel comfortable with him, complimented you then went in for what he was after. He's looking for a woman he can take advantage of. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

I agree! He tried to take advantage of you when you were vulnerable. I'm sorry this happened to you.

 

[Disney Doll]

I don't know what religion you practice, but I would be going to the leadership of either my church (ie-elders, parish council) or my diocese and report this. It would be better if you could get him to send you some sort of email or something though, so you have some proof.

Otherwise it will be your word against his.

 

[karriemouse]

I work for the Church of England and this makes me incredibly mad and downright disgusted. I wish you were in the UK as I know the procedure for reporting this here and I would dearly love to advise you what to do next.

Please let me say - this is abuse, it is NOT your fault (I don't know if you were thinking this but many abused people blame themselves) and please do report it for your own sake and the others this 'pastor' may be responsible for. If you can find out the next in authority above him, get written evidence if possible, then please file a formal complaint. Even if you are not able to get paper evidence, please speak with someone higher in the church.

to you for this and your recent troubles.

 

[Buckalew11]

I'd report him.

 

[The Princess]

First I would tell your husband, show him the e-mail and then with I would report him!! What a scum!!!

 

[minkydog]

I have had some hardships in my life as of late. Nothing I can't get through, but I felt like I needed some support. I don't have all that many friends, and felt like my best support system would be my pastor.

He was wonderful and was a great ear, at first. He then asks if I have a computer and if I have MSN messenger. I tell him yes. We talk for a while and I'm starting to feel a lot better. He then starts telling me how beautiful I am. I feel flattered of course, but somewhat awkward. After much adoration on his part, he then flat out asks me to send him some nude pictures of me if I don't mind. OH.MY.GOD.

Nice to know my stupid pastor must think I am Mary Magdelene. Before anyone asks, no, I did not lead him on. I have been married for the better part of 20 years and my husband is good friends with him too. I am very disappointed and I'm not going back to church. Sad to know a cad heads what used to be my church.

I hope you are going to take this to the elders on the board.Take the emails with you. This would be shocking coming from a boss or a neighbor but it's unconscionable coming from a trusted spiritual advisor. Have you told your husband about this? I think he should know. I'd probably tell the pastor's wife, too.

I wonder how many other women he has approached? You know you're not the only one.

 

[marypoppinswannabe]

I am sorry this happened to you. What a perv... I agree with all previous posts and report him. Expose him for what he is.

 

[manning]

I'd blab this information to everyone, as quickly as I could, hoping it got back to the pastor.

Let him sweat, while he tries to clear his name.

It wouldn't surprise me if others came forth, claiming he'd also done this to them!

I'm now left wondering how many requests were filled and what transpired from there!

I don't think so. A good way of getting into legal trouble. If no one else comes forward then you are left to being hung out to dry. You're better off reporting it. Ever hear of defamation of character?? That can be costly $$$.