Pregnant 20 year old

[Jey12]

I think adoption is a wonderful thing, I don't, however think telling someone they should choose adoption just because they have not finished college is a wonderful thing, that was my point. It would be a very difficult decision and some posts have implied that it should be taken lightly, implying the child is nothing more than an inconveniece that should be dealt with. Again, no disrespect for adoption, but pointing out how things are implied.

Oh no I totally agree. I was floored to see the posts that suggested placing the baby for adoption. Like this is something equal to having a wart removed because it's become a bother. I do understand what you are saying and misunderstood your word choice. I still encounter this attitude at least once when I'm out with my 4 year old daughter. Someone will always come up to us and ask oh is she yours? Or why did her real mother give her away? Now when she was much younger I had some fun snarky statements to answer these questions, one of my favorites was how did your child come about? Failed birth control? Now that she's older I have to be more diplomatic.

This is just my opinion so take it for what it's worth. A young woman who is concerned early in her pregnancy about future health care of her unborn child is probably not one that's going to jump on the public assitance wagon just because she can. Obviously she's searching her options to provide for this child herself. Now she may need some sort of assistance, but it appears that only after other avenues have been exhausted. The kind of person several posters on here seem to have their panties in a wad over would be the one to wait until the baby is born and go oh yeah I don't have insurance, so I'll need to apply for public help. Usually someone who is going to use this type of assistance in order to take the "easy" way out is not going to plan ahead and ask about other options.