Potty training advice

[Jenn Lynn]

Well, DD has really gotten good at telling me when she has to potty. She even says pee-pee and poop. The problem is that she will not sit on any potty. Hers or the big one. She sits for a second, stands up and then pees or poops on the floor. She will tell me "pee pee" and encourage her to sit on the potty but she won't. And sitting her on there does no good. I can't force her.

Has any one else had this issue with their child and the potty? I am just wondering if there is a way to make it more enticing? She leads me to the bathroom and points to the potty, lifts up the lid, wants me to sit her on it, but then gets right off. I also am thinking that she may just want to flush the toilet and thinks that if she sits on it she has peed and then can flush it. She likes to wave pee pee bye bye.
Or maybe it is a control issue? Should I not puther in diapers any more? Just use panties and/ or training pants? I just don't know how to go about this. This is one area that I am totally stumped. I know she will do it eventually. (SIGH)

Thanks for reading.

 

[AirForceRocks]

We used a little cushioned child's toilet seat that fit over the regular toilet seat. I was soft and cushy, and had Sesame Street characters on it. We had problems with DD staying still until we did this, but afterwards, it was a breeze!!

And we didn't use pull-ups - training pants and plastic pants only. We did use diapers at night, but during the day, no diapers/pull-ups.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Originally posted by Jenn Lynn
...I know she will do it eventually. (SIGH)

Thanks for reading.

There's your answer, Jenn Lynn. Enjoy these years, you look back and smile.

 

[Lynn CC]

I agree with Dan, those are the good old days
They have a lot of books on the subject that you could read to her

 

[Pin Wizard]

Find something she really wants. For some I knew, a penny each time worked. For my DS, pennies didn't do it. LOL! When he got the job done the right way he got a mini Recese peanut butter cup. Didn't take him long.

 

[cgcw]

Gee, I thought I might find a hint in here for DS2, but not yet. He was very interested in the potty last year at this time (still 1) and going on a regular basis for a good couple of months. Then one day, he decided he didn't want to any more and that was the end of that. It was almost like he almost mastered it and was bored. My older DS was fully trained by 2 1/2 and when the little guy started last year at 1, I thought, this is going to be a breeze.
DS2 is going to be 3 in just another month. I've tried telling him he won't be able to go to preschool if he's still wearing diapers. His answer? He doesn't want to go to preschool - even to play with all the cool toys they have there. Doesn't he think diapers are for babies? Yes, but he's not a baby.
I'm not making any headway here. I'm hoping that come spring/summer he'll be a little more interested. I have thought about getting the potty that plays music when used.
I know in time he'll get there too. I just know he's smart enough and definately capable. That's a good part of the problem - he knows which one of us in truly in charge!

 

[pumba]

jacob just finally got trained....he is my dump and run.....and he was two and a half.....I finally said.......naked my boy.....and that was it.....took off the training pants and he ran around like OH NO where am I going to do it.......and he finally went to the potty and did it..of course it went every which way.....but he did it in the right room....now we have been toilet trained for almost three months.....I love it......have fun but dont' let yourself get so upset.....it will come...honest...if not this week......maybe next week

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Thanks guys!

I'm not upset with it. I was just wondering if anyone had any tricks up their sleeve with this particular potty issue.

Maybe I will buy her a potty book. She does love to read books.

 

[AirForceRocks]

cgcw, I don't know if this will help or not, but it worked for our son. Yes, it is absolutely silly, but...we used to drop a few Cheerios in the toilet bowl, and then he would try to "shoot" them. I know, I know, it sounds ridiculous, but it re-kindled his interest just enough to finish the training process.

 

[ang]

Well, Put her on the kid potty and let her look at a book...both my kids did great with that.They just get bored really fast just sitting there...I always put the kid potty near by...in the kitchen in the frontroom....well, there was no room in the bathroom....LOL.....she will do fine.....my DS did it all on his own....in the kithchen....on his potty...on my Birthday...that was a great birthday.....LOL

 

[holycow]

How old is she?...

Just to let you know....I know they said don't force the issue...but you know what ...my DD was 31/2 and I forced the issue!...It took her 2 days....

I printed a potty chart off of the internet and told her when she went potty she would get a sticker if she went to the potty... she really liked those stickers!!!

Holycow

Good luck!...I was VERY frustrated when I kept trying not to force the issue.

 

[cgcw]

AirForceRocks,
I'm off to get some Cheerios....maybe it will work. I'll try it over the weekend. Maybe it will be just enough incentive.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

holycow-she is still really young-17 months. Which is one reason why I am not forcing the issue.

She just is and can do everything "the books" tell you they should be able to do to go potty (like taking off her own pants, knowing when she has to go, etc.)

Really, I am in no hurry, but she just seems to want to do it. And I feel like we are having a communication breakdown! LOL! I don't know the next step.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

holycow-she is still really young-17 months. Which is one reason why I am not forcing the issue.

She just is and can do everything "the books" tell you they should be able to do to go potty (like taking off her own pants, knowing when she has to go, etc.)

Really, I am in no hurry, but she just seems to want to do it. And I feel like we are having a communication breakdown! LOL! I don't know the next step. Meanwhile she is pooping and peeing all over the house!

 

[holycow]

Oh, she is really young then!.... but you could still try the potty chart or books....I did the book idea too...we had some in the potty room so she could sit and read...LOL...


My first one was young when she started but this last one (3rd) understood everything but just didn't want to be bothered! LOL..

Good luck!
Hc

 

[KimR]

wow, my youngest is 21 months old and I haven't even begun the training process. My middle DD was 3 1/2 before she was trained and I'd about given up on her. I figured I'd just wait and let her husband train her! Nothing worked...I tried bribery - no dice. I tried putting her in big girl pants figuring she'd break down and go. That was a HUGE mistake. She actually held it all day long - I didn't even think it was possible to do that, but she did. She wound up screaming in pain from a stomach ache . Boy, I felt like the worst mother in the world...I never did that again. And it wasn't that she didn't know what to do - she just didn't want to and she was stubborn! One day, she finally decided to use the potty and that was the end of that.

At 17 months, I wouldn't even waste energy worrying about it. She sounds like she's doing great. Give her time, she'll do it when she's ready.

Kim

 

[nkjzmom]

Kim R....so glad to know I'm not the only one with a child over 3 who is not using the potty. Jennifer is more than able to and always goes before bed and in the morning, but during the day, she just won't go. Everytime I take her she just sits there FOREVER and says she doesn't have to go. But then in minutes, she'll be wet. She's also a hider. We've gone through all of the underwear in her drawer in ONE day, bought the books, played the games, given the treats.....

She was physically our slowest developer (not walking until 15 mo) so our Ped. said not to push the issue with her. But all of her friends "are doing it". Can't believe I said that.

Is anyone else concerned about messes on the floor? I feel like a big clean freak but I can't stand the thought of pee/poop on the carpet. Maybe when 2yo DS gets started it will be her incentive?

 

[Mrs. Grumpy]

KimR, I am with yall! Glad I finished reading all of them because I was starting to think that I was the odd on here. My DS turned 3 in August and this has been a challenge for us. He is more than capable and we have tried all the treats, rewards, potty charts, etc. Seems like the more you get frusterated, the more they do not want to do it. I look at it like this, how many kids go to K still in diapers/pull-ups? None! I just keep telling myself it is going to sink into him any day now that he needs to do this! But, it is good to hear I am not alone in this! I was thinking that I was doing something wrong.

 

[CamColt]

Have you tried those "targets" they make to put in the toilet? They didnt work with my oldest DS(NOTHING did!), but my youngest seemed a little more interested in them. From what you say about your DD that may be what she needs to stay seated.

What has worked with my youngest was really very stupid. He was pretty good about it, maybe being about 50% trained. Well, DH started calling him a "BIG DOG"...then he would howl, everytime he went. DS loved this "Me big dog...woooof" and he is now fully trained. The big dog thing was what pushed himover the edge. And we made our goal of "diaper free by 2003!".

 

[Jenn]

My oldest daughter didn't train until she was 3 years and 5 months old. She showed repeated interest from about 2 1/2 on but never would fully commit. So, we just stopped pushing. Finally, we had a nice long 3 day weekend with no plans so Saturday morning the panties went on and by Monday night, she was trained.

I have a 17 month old daughter as well - I haven't even thought of trying yet with her - although I have heard of people who have been successful at that age.

I think 3 is about average for girls, maybe a bit older for boys.