Posting PM's on a board?

[Duckfan-in-Chicago]

Of course they are private for the most part...in the perfect world. But this isn't the perfect world. There are evil people in it. If I got a PM which showed that someone was engaging in child pornography, or that they were somehow evil in another way, I would feel forced to share it.

I wouldn't share something like A thinks that B is a jerk, and b thinks that c is too fat.

 

[CarolA]

I got a PM once calling me every name in the book. I was VERY VERY tempted to post it and "out" thi idiot... (However, he managed to get himself banned about that time)

 

[MAKmom]

My mother always said "Never put anything in writing that you wouldn't care if everyone saw...."

While a PM should stay private I guess is always pays to be cautious.


PS> Woo Hoo this is my 2000th post!

Very good advice. Happy 2000th


Question: When you send a PM who does it belong to? The sender or the reciever?

If your getting nasty a PM...I'm not...or naughty ones....I'm not.... do you just report it & not tell anyone?

I just got my first PM 2 weeks ago so I have never thought about this. I only post here used to post at Passporter a few years back.

 

[mommaU4]

Actually, I think it says a lot about someone who would post a pm. Whenever I see someone do that, I know to stay clear of them because that is a person with absolutely NO integrity.

I agree. If I saw that someone posted a PM I would only think bad things about that person. Very tacky thing to do.

 

[Planogirl]

Like a few others, I get the feeling that there's more going on here that meets the eye. I seem to miss all the drama which is actually a good thing.

Oh, I've never posted a PM and won't.

 

[Keli]

Like a few others, I get the feeling that there's more going on here that meets the eye. I seem to miss all the drama which is actually a good thing.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

I know you're referring to my thread that got locked yesterday. I do think it makes a difference that I didn't reveal the identity of the poster that sent the PM, but that's just my opinion. If others want to think badly of me now well there's not much I can do about that. I did say that I probably shouldn't have started that thread and did it out of an emotional response, but what's done is done. No need to stir the pot, but you're entitled to your point of view.

 

[Shugardrawers]

Question: When you send a PM who does it belong to? The sender or the reciever?

You beat me to it. If I write a PM and hit the send button does that give away my rights to privacy?? Not that anyone ever sends me one worthy of dishing in public...

 

[Tigger&Belle]

There are more exceptions than just the inferno. I run the weekly NASCAR game on the CB and sometimes the players go on vacation (normally to Disney imagine that) and before they leave they will often PM me with their picks. Since picks must be "posted" to the board before qualifying I will often copy and post their PM so their picks count for the week. They all know I do it and no one has ever complained. The only editting I may do is if they say something about me (such as how wonderful I am) because well that's personal

That's a very different situation. Recently someone send me an e-mail and asked that I post it on a thread because people were asking about her. That's giving permission, a different thing. That's taking the private out of the equation, like in your case, and not an issue.

 

[MAKmom]

I know you're referring to my thread that got locked yesterday. I do think it makes a difference that I didn't reveal the identity of the poster that sent the PM, but that's just my opinion. If others want to think badly of me now well there's not much I can do about that. I did say that I probably shouldn't have started that thread and did it out of an emotional response, but what's done is done. No need to stir the pot, but you're entitled to your point of view.

I don't think bad of you.

 

[poohandwendy]

Actually, I think it says a lot about someone who would post a pm. Whenever I see someone do that, I know to stay clear of them because that is a person with absolutely NO integrity.

Yep, I agree.

 

[sajetto]

I posted that I got a weird PM yesterday or the day before, but I didn't post what was actually said. It was a bizarre, creepy one from someone with no posting history trying to mess with me. I just wanted to see if anyone else had gotten anything like that before.

However, I would never post a PM that was an actual exchange between myself and another person. The stuff that is said in PMs between myself and my friends is just that, private.

 

[KarenAylwood]

I know you're referring to my thread that got locked yesterday. I do think it makes a difference that I didn't reveal the identity of the poster that sent the PM, but that's just my opinion. If others want to think badly of me now well there's not much I can do about that. I did say that I probably shouldn't have started that thread and did it out of an emotional response, but what's done is done. No need to stir the pot, but you're entitled to your point of view.

I don't think bad of you either. I think what you posted was an emotional response (as you stated) and sometimes we do things out of emotions rather than thinking them through. Ok, PM means PRIVATE message, but hey, we all make mistakes sometimes and I thought the PM that was sent to your friend was very hurtful, and heck- I may have done the same thing you did.

Although as a general rule I don't post PM's (of course the extent of PM's I've had was dealing with free silver jewelry and someone who wanted to know about living in my area ) but if I ever got something really private, I wouldn't post it.

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

Well, actions speak much louder than words. If you have the nastiness in you to send hateful PM's in the first place, well, that tells me all I need to know about you anyway.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

I posted that I got a weird PM yesterday

I got a weird pm once and asked someone I trusted about it in another pm.

I would NEVER post or forward anything anyone said in a PM, even if I came to blows with them. I think it is a matter of character. I didn't even know it could be done.

And I would take them with a grain of salt. They could be changed, or edited or whatever you call it.

 

[L107ANGEL]

I don't think bad of you either. I think what you posted was an emotional response (as you stated) and sometimes we do things out of emotions rather than thinking them through. Ok, PM means PRIVATE message, but hey, we all make mistakes sometimes and I thought the PM that was sent to your friend was very hurtful, and heck- I may have done the same thing you did.

Although as a general rule I don't post PM's (of course the extent of PM's I've had was dealing with free silver jewelry and someone who wanted to know about living in my area ) but if I ever got something really private, I wouldn't post it.

Do you want me to pm you??

 

[mommaU4]

Like a few others, I get the feeling that there's more going on here that meets the eye. I seem to miss all the drama which is actually a good thing. .

Yep. I gave my reply and now that I'm reading more of this thread I have a feeling I am missing something huge. Of course I am blonde and feel that way alot so maybe not....

 

[Saffron]

Ack. Staying out of any issues and just responding to a question asked :

I think once you send a PM, it's not your's anymore, it now belongs to the receiver and the receiver can do anything they want with it. You may not like what they do with it, but that's the chance you take in sending private messages, especially nasty or "naughty" ones.

Best to err on the side of caution when putting your words in writing and giving them away to someone or they could end up on this board or any board in cyberspace, for all to scrutinize, rip apart, analyze, discuss, speculate about, follow, whisper about, make fun of, laugh over, blah, blah, blah.

That's why I hate to see people innocently post the links to their blogs. There is always someone who is going to do something with that link to hurt someone, always.

 

[imsorry]

I know you're referring to my thread that got locked yesterday. I do think it makes a difference that I didn't reveal the identity of the poster that sent the PM, but that's just my opinion. If others want to think badly of me now well there's not much I can do about that. I did say that I probably shouldn't have started that thread and did it out of an emotional response, but what's done is done. No need to stir the pot, but you're entitled to your point of view.

I think everyone is assuming your friend didn't want the incident mentioned. You didn't mention names, hence you didn't really share specific information. We all get emotional sometimes. If you had mentioned names it would be different. I don't think you did anything wrong. JMHO

 

[4greatboys]

For me it depends on what the pm is. If its something personsal from the other person then no I wouldnt post it. However I have recd a nasty pm from someone I dared to disagree with. This person sent a nasty pm and even talked trash about my kids--all the while this person holds themselves up as an "upstanding" member of the this board.
Did I post it? Heck yeah. If you want to send that kind of trash around Im not about to keep it private.