Popping over from the Community Board...

[jfoofj]

I posted this on the Community Board and someone suggested I post it here too. Thanks in advance for any ideas!

Jfoofj


My Uncle Mike is marrying his partner, Michael in a few weeks. They are coming up from Florida to have the ceremony here so my Grampy can attend (my grampy is 93 and not in good health, my uncle JUST came out to him and my grampy gave him is blessing so it is kinda a big deal for our family).

Uncle Mike and Michael live in a nice condo in FL near the ocean. They are both pretty successful and they have everything they want/need. I am at a loss as to what to give them for their wedding. I usually give money, but that doesn't seem appropriate here. I also sometimes give couples a nice figurine of a husband and wife (I have gotten Lladro ones before and Willow Tree makes nice ones too, depends on how much money I am spending) however, I have not come across any with two grooms. If all else fails, I think I will get them a really beautiful wedding picture frame (like Lenox or something similar) or a wedding photo album.

I am curious if anyone has any ideas for me.

 

[rpmdfw]

Hey there!

First off, do Mike and Michael have a gift registry? Speaking from personal experience, we put a lot of thought into our gift registry, and made sure there were things we really wanted and needed at several different price points.

If they don't have a registry, or nothing on their registry seems right, I'll suggest getting a Nambe piece. We got a couple (they weren't on our registry) and we really like them!

Here's the website: http://www.nambe.com/

And here's one of my favorite pieces that we got: http://www.nambe.com/namb/ctl10101/...=int1&offset=0&CategoryPath=qq Nambé Alloy xx

In all honesty, any gift that's given with love will be a precious one, so don't stress too much. They'll love it because it came from you!

 

[cmpdw4me]

I'm sure any gift you buy them will be appreciated. He's probably more excited that FAMILY is supporting them and being present. That is the best gift all all!

 

[rpmdfw]

I'm sure any gift you buy them will be appreciated. He's probably more excited that FAMILY is supporting them and being present. That is the best gift all all!

That's very true. I was overwhelmed by how supportive and wonderful my whole family was during the whole "Big Fat Gay Disney Wedding". The fact that every single one of my living Aunts and Uncles attended meant so much more to me than the presents they gave us.

 

[cmpdw4me]

I'm guessing that's how I'll feel this fall. My dad & his wife, my brother are coming as well as all of my children. My mom, sister & niece are meeting us in DW for our Honeymoon trip. So essentially, my entire immediate family will be there. That means MORE to me than anything.

 

[jfoofj]

Thank you so much for the ideas! They haven't registered, they are very well established in their home and really don't need anything. They said "your presence is present enough." And while I'm sure that is true, I would really like to give them something to mark the occasion.

Our whole family is very accepting, which I was sure the cousins (my generation) would be, and the aunts/uncles would be for the most part, but I am thrilled that my Grampy is so receptive. He says he and my Nana (she passed in September) suspected, but being of the Irish/Catholic upbringing they really struggled with it. My Grampy is giving him his blessing and says that "no church should tear apart families." I am so glad our kids will be there and see this and grow up with it being a normal event and hopefully it can stop being such a big deal.

 

[Sphyrna]

Welcome to the LBGT board, feel free to pop over anytime! I am sure that just you being there will be enough of a present, especially based on what you said about them being established and everything. If you want to give them something special, how about a card and include a nicely written letter?

 

[jfoofj]

Welcome to the LBGT board, feel free to pop over anytime! I am sure that just you being there will be enough of a present, especially based on what you said about them being established and everything. If you want to give them something special, how about a card and include a nicely written letter?

Thanks for the welcome! I will peek in and see what's up on this board. My son made a card for "Uncle Mike and Uncle Michael". Michael doesn't come from a big family so I know that being embraced by our family will mean a lot to him. He is glad to no longer be "Uncle Mike's roomate". Not that a bunch of us didn't know what the story was... as my brother said... he never really bought the "roomate" story since they are two guys who are very successful in their careers and don't have financial issues... what guy in his 50's has a roomate to share expenses if he doesn't have to? In fact, my brother and I strongly suspect that our great aunt who lived with another woman (they were both "old maid teachers") were infact partners.... Auntie Grace died years ago and I remember how bereft Millie was at the wake an funeral. It would make sense. I'm glad the world is changing.