POPpers are back from POP 9/29-10/6 and made GREAT friends!Chat until next trip!! Part 4

[Patsfan7]

No, I just pick my days based on faves. We always do MK first, then Epcot, the Mgm, then AK. I wouldn't worry about the days part. And you aren't going during a super busy time, like Easter or something.

Just pick days and make a list of restaurants you do want to eat at.

Oh, you meant for MAY!!! I'm WORRIED ABOUT SEPTEMBER!!!!!

May, all we really want is Kona b/c we aren't doing dining plan, so we just do CS

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

 

[julsmom]

Ugh, I am so ready for Jul to be out of school. I might need to add that ticker.

Ready for summer. But it goes by so fast.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

I'm just ready for MAY!!!!

 

[ANTSS2001]

Isnt' it cute?!?! It's a LE. You can find it in SOME Hallmarks. They made them for a convention held at the Yacht Club by the Precious Moments peeps. i fell in love with it when i first saw it and now i reallly want it!

they have the same one at disneyshopping.. for $70

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

Alright i have a question and i need honest answers! call me a jerk if you mus!

Alright so DMIL mentioned to us on Easter that 10/6 is SILs Confirmation and we have to be there. Normally..not a problem, one of us would go or both and someone would just watch the kids in the back of the church. (i don't trust them in mass during big events where they could get loud).

BUT it's the weekend before we leave for vacation. Which means it is the last minute that we have to get the house ready for the trip since we are leaving the house friday (heading to a hotel for the night). It's our last day to run our errands and not to mention clear out the unused rooms (remember i am having the carpet cleaners in while we are gone).

On saturday i have an OB appt. and Gabriel has a Doctors appt a few hours after mine, so we will be busy the whole day.

Soo Sal and I are just not wanting to go to this thing, but we KNOW if we don't show we will not hear the end of it..So he wants me to think of what to say??
What do you think?? should we just go?

It's an hour and a half away from here, and at noon, so needless to say it's going to be an all day affair.

Like i said normally not a big deal, but it's the last full day we have to run errands and get teh house ready for vacation. ALOT of furniture is going to the basement and such, so it's a big day for us....

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

they have the same one at disneyshopping.. for $70

oo thanks!

 

[ANTSS2001]

Alright i have a question and i need honest answers! call me a jerk if you mus!

Alright so DMIL mentioned to us on Easter that 10/6 is SILs Confirmation and we have to be there. Normally..not a problem, one of us would go or both and someone would just watch the kids in the back of the church. (i don't trust them in mass during big events where they could get loud).

BUT it's the weekend before we leave for vacation. Which means it is the last minute that we have to get the house ready for the trip since we are leaving the house friday (heading to a hotel for the night). It's our last day to run our errands and not to mention clear out the unused rooms (remember i am having the carpet cleaners in while we are gone).

On saturday i have an OB appt. and Gabriel has a Doctors appt a few hours after mine, so we will be busy the whole day.

Soo Sal and I are just not wanting to go to this thing, but we KNOW if we don't show we will not hear the end of it..So he wants me to think of what to say??
What do you think?? should we just go?

It's an hour and a half away from here, and at noon, so needless to say it's going to be an all day affair.

Like i said normally not a big deal, but it's the last full day we have to run errands and get teh house ready for vacation. ALOT of furniture is going to the basement and such, so it's a big day for us....

questions:

1)do you have 3 kids by then.. if yes... I would send a card and dont go...

2)do you mind hearing the never ending "they did not come etc..etc..etc.." if you answer No then dont go...

3)would you feel guilty every gathering you see you folks .. if you answer YES then go...

4)or maybe 1 can go and one stay home to watch kids and finish last minute chore

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

1)do you have 3 kids by then.. if yes... I would send a card and dont go...Nope, just the 2 because it's next month

2)do you mind hearing the never ending "they did not come etc..etc..etc.." if you answer No then dont go...We hear this all the time! haha no biggie

3)would you feel guilty every gathering you see you folks .. if you answer YES then go...Nah, we're cold hearted people

4)or maybe 1 can go and one stay home to watch kids and finish last minute chore This is what we would do, BUT since it's me that would stay home (it's sals sister) then that defeats the purpose, since i can't move furniture pregnant! hahaha!

That's why we can't come up with another plan..

Oh and Sal just told me to say that he is tired of driving out there every weekend.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

TIMMY THREE DAYS?!?!?!?!?

 

[julsmom]

Alright i have a question and i need honest answers! call me a jerk if you mus!

Alright so DMIL mentioned to us on Easter that 10/6 is SILs Confirmation and we have to be there. Normally..not a problem, one of us would go or both and someone would just watch the kids in the back of the church. (i don't trust them in mass during big events where they could get loud).

BUT it's the weekend before we leave for vacation. Which means it is the last minute that we have to get the house ready for the trip since we are leaving the house friday (heading to a hotel for the night). It's our last day to run our errands and not to mention clear out the unused rooms (remember i am having the carpet cleaners in while we are gone).

On saturday i have an OB appt. and Gabriel has a Doctors appt a few hours after mine, so we will be busy the whole day.

Soo Sal and I are just not wanting to go to this thing, but we KNOW if we don't show we will not hear the end of it..So he wants me to think of what to say??
What do you think?? should we just go?

It's an hour and a half away from here, and at noon, so needless to say it's going to be an all day affair.

Like i said normally not a big deal, but it's the last full day we have to run errands and get teh house ready for vacation. ALOT of furniture is going to the basement and such, so it's a big day for us....

K, I know where you are coming from and honestly, my ILs are nuts. We get presented with similar 'obligations' several times a year, usually out of nowhere. Maybe Sal could show up alone, and the ILs will at least get the pic that you guys are very busy right now. He can do a 'pop in'. If you have doctors appts, that is a legit excuse. You need to see the doc before you travel and cannot really reschedule that.
It really depends on how close you all are. Would you normally go there? We avoid pretty much all family occasions because they are so uncomfortable. It sounds bad, but they are just 'different'. Sean's SIL is absolutely insane (everyone's words, not just mine) and for her kids bdays she has a big cook out for extended family and long lost friends. Uncomfortable. We avoid it. I just wouldn't do that. I keep it small. Her house is a disaster zone and 2 years ago she actually discussed having to HIRE A CLEANING SERVICE just to get her house presentable for viewing. We usually have a trip planned during that time. This year I think I may have to visit my sister in Texas...

 

[julsmom]

DMM, you have to set limits. Esp. the older your kids get and the older you get. Otherwise, you will get taken advantage of. Set limits and boundaries.

Sean's mom is currently in a phase of trying to change the limits and boundaries, and I have to say NO. Jul is almost 7. MIL set our relationship up this way, so this is how it is. I have no interest in changing it now.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

hahahha! we're close, but not that close. We like them! hahaha! which is a lot, since we don't like a lot of people. Nobody is like us at all, so it's wierd to have to deal with these things. I agree with sending Sal alone, but he is now saying he doesn't want to go alone.

If he takes a kid with him, he will end up in the back of the church or outside, so waht's the point in going I told him! So now he says he's not going to go, but he's afraid to tell him mom! he's funny! so he wants me to come up with something! i told him to tell her the truth..WE ARE BUSY!

 

[ANTSS2001]

with your answer its like 2 yes and 2 no... OK go get a quarter and flip that coin!


Yup!!! You guys know my number if theres anything you need me to pick up Okie dokie !!!

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

DMM, you have to set limits. Esp. the older your kids get and the older you get. Otherwise, you will get taken advantage of. Set limits and boundaries.

This is soo true, i go through it too much with everyone. It's like AUGHHHH!! leave us alone!!!!!! Sometimes i just want to spend a holiday at home ALONE with my family! know what i mean?? but of course it will never happen

You guys hsould have seent eh STUFF hit the fan when we announced we were going to WDW for Christmas this year!! you would think that people were dying! Now it stinks that we still can't go! so we're thinking of just staying home anyways since the baby will only be 2 months old and i don't want him esposed to kids galore and germs and all that!

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

with your answer its like 2 yes and 2 no... OK go get a quarter and flip that coin!

hahahah! see i told you i needed help!!!

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

DMM- Maybe Sal could go for the service and leave after that and if anyone makes a fuss well, too bad.

 

[julsmom]

This is soo true, i go through it too much with everyone. It's like AUGHHHH!! leave us alone!!!!!! Sometimes i just want to spend a holiday at home ALONE with my family! know what i mean?? but of course it will never happen

You guys hsould have seent eh STUFF hit the fan when we announced we were going to WDW for Christmas this year!! you would think that people were dying! Now it stinks that we still can't go! so we're thinking of just staying home anyways since the baby will only be 2 months old and i don't want him esposed to kids galore and germs and all that!

Yes! This is what I don't like. I want to spend time with 'my family'. It sounds like you do need to get limits set or you will be SOL...WAY easier now than later. I even bet that someof the people in your family maybe even feel the same way...but could never do it. I just do it.

I am way stronger than Sean. He doesn't want to upset or rock the boat. I usually have to take the heat. By now, I don't care. If only his family knew that it was really him, but I happily take the heat for him.

For the nieces/nephews bday I usually send/give something really nice, so they dont' seem to really mind that we weren't there...

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

DMM- Maybe Sal could go for the service and leave after that and if anyone makes a fuss well, too bad.
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this is what i am leaning towards!

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

I even bet that someof the people in your family maybe even feel the same way...but could never do it. I just do it.

this is our problem, we are the first on all sides to get married and 'leave' the family parties so to speak. His older brother is unmarried and lives for family stuff, my sister is just a bump on a log and has to go everywhere anyways...soo none of our parents have encountered this b4...so being the first stinks!