Poll: Teen doors...

[elizke]

Do you let your teenagers hang out by themselves in their rooms with the doors closed? You know, talking on the phone, listening to music, etc. DH and I disagree about this. I'm curious to know if the norm is what I think it is.....Thanks!

 

[happygirl]

Do you let your teenagers hang out by themselves in their rooms with the doors closed? You know, talking on the phone, listening to music, etc. DH and I disagree about this. I'm curious to know if the norm is what I think it is.....Thanks!

I don't have teen yet, but yes I would allow them to have there door closed.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Of course! I can't think of a reason that a normal teen (meaning not in trouble for slamming doors or doing things they shouldn't when alone in their room, etc) would be denied basic privacy and space by not being allowed to spend time alone in their room

 

[Mrs.Toad]

Of course! I can't think o fa reason that a normal teen (meaning not in trouble for slamming doors or doing things they shouldn;t when alone in their room, etc) would be denied basic privacy and space by not being allowed to spend time alone in their room

This.

 

[Janepod]

Yep. With a friend of the opposite sex? No.

 

[disney1990]

I had teen girls, but I don't see the difference. Mine hung out in their bedroom with and without their friends with the door closed. Just no boy/girl with the door closed.

 

[DVCLiz]

Of course my teens can be in their rooms with their doors shut!

I think it would be a weird family dynamic with some other issue going on if parents really insisted that a child over the age of 12 couldn't have that kind of basic privacy in his or her own room.

 

[Tinijocaro]

Yep. With a friend of the opposite sex? No.

 

[eliza61]

I put other. I have/had teens but pretty much mines didn't hang out in their rooms. We have a finished basement so they usually had their friends down there. video games, tv, music and computer were all downstairs.

When I was growing up though, no boys upstairs in your bedroom.

 

[mommyrosa2]

I'm with the majority here... both my Teen DD's are allowed to go in their room with the door closed with or without their friends (just no boys - that's where we draw the line).

 

[Tink888]

My teens are allowed in their rooms with the door closed.

 

[hanutedmansionmomma]

absolutely yes to a closed door.

When I come across situations like this I encourage folks to remember what it was like when they were that age. How would you have felt if you couldn't close your bedroom door and listen to music, or whatever when you were a teen?

 

[elizke]

Hated to appear to slant the results with my opinion, but since the trend here is obvious I will tell you that this is exactly what I assumed. I see nothing wrong with teens having some privacy!

 

[goofy4tink]

I'm assuming the OP meant either by themselves, or with friends of the same sex. If that is the case, then yeah. I wouldn't even consider having them keep the door open.
Those of the opposite sex are not welcome on the second level...period.

 

[elizke]

Yes I do mean by themselves or with same gender friends. Thanks.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I agree that it's fine. DS is 11, and I actually appreciate a closed door so I don't hear the video games! The only time I was asked to keep the door open as a teen was if my guest happened to be a boy.

 

[Riverhill]

MY DS and DD both teens, close their door. I will knock before I enter but do not wait for permission to enter. After all their father and I appreciate a knock before entering.

 

[Pakey]

Our boys are grown now but yes, they were allowed to have their door closed. In fact I required it most of the time. Teenage boys don't smell that great.

 

[It'sWDW4me]

Do you let your teenagers hang out by themselves in their rooms with the doors closed? You know, talking on the phone, listening to music, etc. DH and I disagree about this. I'm curious to know if the norm is what I think it is.....Thanks!

Yes I do mean by themselves or with same gender friends. Thanks.

Hated to appear to slant the results with my opinion, but since the trend here is obvious I will tell you that this is exactly what I assumed. I see nothing wrong with teens having some privacy!

Just curious, why does DH feel that teens should NOT be allowed to close their bedroom door? Given, of course, they're either alone or with same-sex friends.

 

[torinsmom]

I don't understand why anyone would expect a teen to keep their door open all day, unless there is an opposite sex friend in there, or there has been a problem before. I'm lucky if I see my DS17 a few times every evening. If he had a bathroom in his room, he probably wouldn't come out that much. Our house is pretty small, and I even let him be in there with his friends that are girls. I can hear pretty much everything that goes on and I trust my son.