Poll: Japanese First Date

[Liberty Belle]

OP, I forgot to mention, the correct usage of "you're" in the text is a plus.
I'd give the guy another chance. But, yes, 3 weeks away may have put him off a little, however, it may help him to realize he needs to slow down, too.

 

[sookie]

Am I? I don't know. I think I may have blown it. I mean, he checked in within an hour to let me know he had a good time, and he checked in within a day to tell me he'd like to see me again. Plus, we've been talking on and off since then. So, to me, that's a good sign. BUT...according to a friend of mine (yes, I let ONE real life friend into the inner sanctum of my love life) I probably put him off.

You see, he asked when he could see me again. I threw out a date in March, because I was going to be in his city for a meeting. This isn't a particularly long distance thing, we live about 45 minutes apart, which I know to some people is nothing...for me, considering my commute to work is 4 minutes, it is a longish drive. Anyway, I threw out that date....he said, fine, keep me posted, and well...he has been a little distant ever since. According to my friend, the fact that I picked a date that is 3 weeks away may have been off-putting? So, I texted him an apology, said I would like to see him sooner if we can work something out. Honestly, that date just popped into my mind so I put it out there. Didn't mean to offend anyone. I haven't heard back from him, so...we'll see.

I really don't understand now. You went on a date with him on somewhat short notice before, yet you can't come up with a reasonable date that is close now? If you said yes to date number two, three weeks away is rude.

How close to you was the location first time? You said it was a small area and there was really nothing to do after the movie; and that he asked you to go back to his place. You thought he was familiar with the waitresses on the first visit - so was it closer to him? All the things you said make it seem like he lived very near you (in the same town). What is going on here?

This sounds kind of made up at this point.

 

[Laura66]

I really don't understand now. You went on a date with him somewhat short notice before, yet you can't come up with a reasonable date now? How close was it the first time? You thought he was familiar with the waitresses on the first visit - so was it closer to him? What is going on here?

She's not keeping her "story" straight.

 

[iheartnmr's]

She's not keeping her "story" straight.

I agree. Plus, as adults, and not teens, 3 weeks isn't all that long between a first and second date when the first date didn't have the "fireworks" going off. Adults have routines, work schedules and often kids and can't just drop everything and date whenever. That wouldn't put someone mature off as long as you realize he has every right to see 15 women at that Japanese restaurant between now and then and there's not a single thing wrong with that

 

[Laura66]

I agree. Plus, as adults, and not teens, 3 weeks isn't all that long between a first and second date when the first date didn't have the "fireworks" going off. Adults have routines, work schedules and often kids and can't just drop everything and date whenever. That wouldn't put someone mature off as long as you realize he has every right to see 15 women at that Japanese restaurant between now and then and there's not a single thing wrong with that

I could be off - but she has no kids and social anxiety - so what is she doing that she's sooooo busy she can't see him for 3 weeks. If she's REALly interested in the guy I bet she could find time!

 

[luvsJack]

She didn't say she was busy, she said it was a date when she would be in his town.

Didn't she say she wanted to take this slow? I don't think 3 weeks away is too much if you aren't looking for a serious relationship right away.

I love the way if the OP doesn't do things exactly the way other posters do, then the OP MUST be lying.

 

[Liberty Belle]

She didn't say she was busy, she said it was a date when she would be in his town.

Didn't she say she wanted to take this slow? I don't think 3 weeks away is too much if you aren't looking for a serious relationship right away.

I love the way if the OP doesn't do things exactly the way other posters do, then the OP MUST be lying.

You know that's the way it usually is around here. I do not think OP is lying. Yes, I suppose she could be, but there's nothing that screams out to me and until there is, I take people for their word (on a message board, anyway).

 

[Allison]

She didn't say she was busy, she said it was a date when she would be in his town.

Didn't she say she wanted to take this slow? I don't think 3 weeks away is too much if you aren't looking for a serious relationship right away.

I love the way if the OP doesn't do things exactly the way other posters do, then the OP MUST be lying.

Some posters have earned skepticism all on their own. This particular poster has used 2 identities here recently trying to come off as someone new.

 

[luvsJack]

Some posters have earned skepticism all on their own. This particular poster has used 2 identities here recently trying to come off as someone new.

And she told you she was the two other identities or you are going by what other posters said?

 

[luvsJack]

You know that's the way it usually is around here. I do not think OP is lying. Yes, I suppose she could be, but there's nothing that screams out to me and until there is, I take people for their word (on a message board, anyway).

I am the same way. I just respond to what they say or ask rather than hunt reasons to say they are lying.

 

[Allison]

And she told you she was the two other identities or you are going by what other posters said?

I don't need other posters to tell me what to think.

I'm going by what was obviously true. If you are going to use 2 different user names, it is a good idea to change some of the facts of your life.

ETA-Don't know about the validity of this story but I understand being skeptical.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Some posters have earned skepticism all on their own. This particular poster has used 2 identities here recently trying to come off as someone new.

That's true. I'd forgotten about that.

 

[Allison]

That's true. I'd forgotten about that.

Is this story true or not? I don't know, but I understand people being skeptical.

 

[iheartnmr's]

No one lies on the internet.

I am skeptical by nature. Had she posted in the past she was conservative and looking to date, and then said she had a date and was nervous, I wouldn't be skeptical. But the story seems to have a whack of inconsistencies and things that simply don't make sense.

 

[Laura66]

Being skeptical doesn't make someone mean or a bully!

 

[luvsJack]

No one lies on the internet.

I am skeptical by nature. Had she posted in the past she was conservative and looking to date, and then said she had a date and was nervous, I wouldn't be skeptical. But the story seems to have a whack of inconsistencies and things that simply don't make sense.

Of course people lie on the internet. I just don't understand coming here just to try and figure out who is lying and who isn't and who we can prove to be lying today.

What is it that doesn't make sense to you? Maybe I am just not reading everything in the right order or something.

 

[Laura66]

Of course people lie on the internet. I just don't understand coming here just to try and figure out who is lying and who isn't and who we can prove to be lying today.

What is it that doesn't make sense to you? Maybe I am just not reading everything in the right order or something.

That's not it at all.

You read some of these stories and the inconsistencies or nonsense just jumps out at you. What's wrong with calling someone out?

 

[luvsJack]

That's not it at all.

You read some of these stories and the inconsistencies or nonsense just jumps out at you. What's wrong with calling someone out?

That's why I asked what doesn't make sense. I haven't read every single post in this thread so maybe I missed something.

 

[mrzrich]

And she told you she was the two other identities or you are going by what other posters said?

No, she didn't tell us, she was caught in December when she accidently posted the same answer under her regular user name, and then again under one of her pseudonyms.

From the thread: "a question for people with more than one christmas tree"

http://www.disboards.com/showpost.php?p=34233350&postcount=12

We have two fake trees.

The main one has all of our sentimental Hallmark, Disney ornaments, etc. All of our (immediate family) gifts go under this one.

The smaller tree has all of the older, generic and homemade ornaments on it, and we keep our extended family, friends, coworkers, gifts under it.

From the thread: "How many Christmas Trees do you put up?"

http://www.disboards.com/showpost.php?p=50151174&postcount=53

2-3.

We are Hallmark ornament collectors. Our main tree, a 7 foot tree in the living room houses all of our Hallmark ornaments, in addition to Disney ornaments we collect from over the years.

There is a dated ball ornament from every year since 1982. minus a couple that were broke.

Our secondary tree, about 6 foot in size, sits in our computer room, actually in front of a large bay window. On that one, we put homemade ornaments, generic ornaments, and any leftovers.

Number three is a miniature tree which we may or may not put up depending on our laziness level.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Of course people lie on the internet. I just don't understand coming here just to try and figure out who is lying and who isn't and who we can prove to be lying today.

What is it that doesn't make sense to you? Maybe I am just not reading everything in the right order or something.

I do ot think people are coming here looking for lies. I think people get invested in a story and spend time honestly trying to help someone (heck I did, even though the OP has a history of asking for advice, getting loads of excellent advice and not taking any of it--I still try hoping to help her in someway; and based on the posts, I do not think I am the only one).

I think when people put in that kind of time and effort trying to be helpful and then begin to see things that make them feel they are being misled by the person they are trying to help it is upsetting, and they want to call that person out, and also want others so those others are not investing time for no reason.

Personally the story no longer rings true for me. I can believe there was a date and possibly even that OP has convinced herself that the details are as she reported, but not the newer stuff. Maybe it is all true, but it seems highly unlikely (and if it is, OP is beyond my help here anyway) so I was originally not posting today,

but if others want to point out how unreal it feels (even if it IS real it would be good for OP to understand this is that far beyond the norm, right?) I think it is unfair to say they started with this thread many pages and several days back hoping to find lies and prove someone a liar (and so here I am posting after all lol). I know I started hoping that the OP was finally starting to take advice and would be bale to find what she says she wants for herself.