I love the "crap on a cracker" expression. I didn't make it up, but I forgot who uses it, so we can pretend that I do. Is it you, Steph?
Packing is not my DH's thing, either. He can almost handle his own stuff, if we use our imagination, but actually loading the van is a joke. I have to do it. The times that he has done it he willy nilly puts things in the van. I thought that it's something that goes along with having testosterone, but he will put little bags in first, then try to put big suitcases, leaves a bunch of dead space, say that things won't fit, etc, etc. Makes me crazy! I look at it like a puzzle. And before anything goes in, I make sure that all the pieces are there--I make a list of all the bags that should be there and then make sure that they are in the foyer and then that they make it out to the driveway and into the van. I've learned to totally leave my DH out of the process and have my older boys help. It sounds mean, but he truly doesn't get it. And with a big family we have to do it this way. It will be nice when we are to the point that we can go back to the willy nilly stage.