Please tell me why I'm feeling this way...

[Mishetta]

Our family had a particularly tough year. I have been saying all along that I desperately need a vacation...but now that we're only a few days away from our (much needed) Disney vacation, I'm having second thoughts & am close to cancelling! I feel very nervous about going & not sure I want to spend all that money & I don't know what else or why I feel this way, but I'm suddenly very nervous about taking this trip.

Come to find out, my DH is also having these same feelings. Do you think we have a premonition that something bad will happen or do you think it's just anxiety with all that we've had to do to prepare for Christmas & now we'll be frantically packing, etc....

Is there anyone who can shed some light on our surprising reaction to this upcoming trip?

 

[Rajah]

Do you feel guilty about spending the money, or strongly that you SHOULDN'T go? If it's just guilty-type feelings, it could be the pre-vacation anxiety that hits many people, myself included. If you both have a really strong feeling that you shouldn't go, who knows.

I know when I've had general "bad" feelings that were proven true, it's always been a specific "BADBADBADidea" type thing, a very strong warning of "DON'T!!" as opposed to guilt.

 

[one_cat]

I always get pre-vacation anxiety. The worse the anxiety the better the trip ends up being. Take your vacation and enjoy yourselves - as you have already said, you deserve it.

 

[Mishetta]

Yes, I am worried about the money issue. There is so much we could be doing with it but.....then there is the issue with driving such a long distance with a 2 y/o!! We're driving from Michigan to Atlanta the first day (which will be about a 13 hour drive). What were we thinking keeping a 2 y/o strapped to a car seat all that time??? How stressful can that drive be??

Then again....I sooooo need to be away for this holiday. I just can't be here for Christmas this year.

 

[Rajah]

With the worries you're describing so far -- go. You need the break, and those sound like normal pre-trip anxieties.

 

[delswife]

I think your stressed out, thats why your feeling this way. Happens to Del & I before we go on vacation.

Relax, your going to Disney!

It seems scary and stressful NOW, but when you are standing in the middle of Main Street, in the warm florida sunshine with the classic disney music playing in the background, getting your photo taken in front of the castle it will be worth it.

Don't try to push yourself worrying, It really will be okay.

Promise.

 

[Otimon]

Come on down and have a wonderful vacation.

I can relieve a little bit of your worry if you care to pm me.

Best wishes.

 

[KathyFP]

Enjoy your trip. It sounds like you need it.

I know that there are things that we should spend our money on, rather than Disney, but I also know that we need a vacation to keep us mentally sane.

We drove from Pittsburgh to North Carolina with a two year old. We sang silly songs, played games and read books. Have plenty of snacks and things to drink. Stop and get out of the car at frequent intervals.

 

[Pop Daddy]

go

 

[DisneyObsessed]

Go and enjoy. Sure there are other things the money could be used for, but those things will always be there. Life is waayyy to short. We need to enjoy life more, not stress over it. HAVE A WONDERFUL TRIP!!!!!! and RELAX!!

 

[snoopy]

Awww, Mishetta, I know you have had a tough year with having lost your Mom. I hated that first Christmas after my Mom died and if I could do it over again I wish so much that I had left town for that Christmas.

I think its pre-trip anxiety. Go, you'll be glad you did afterwards.

 

[Disneycrazymom]

Lots of parents get pre-trip worries. It is normal! It might help to talk about the first day drive and decide that you will only go as far as the 2 year old can take. If the little one is doing ok then go all the way to Atlanta but if s/he needs to cut the day short stop, get a hotel with an indoor pool and let her play. Travelling with toddlers is very hard but sooo worth it. Just be tuned into what s/he needs and be flexable, you'll do fine. Have a wonderful trip!

 

[one_cat]

Mishetta,
As far as driving with the 2 yo goes, we took our drove our twins to Seattle when they were almost 2. That is a 25 hour trip that we split into two days. They did great. They didn't even mind when we hit the deer. One trick is to take a break during the day - try to hit a mcdonalds with a playland or something for an hour or two every few hours then once the kid falls asleep in the evening, drive till you get there.

 

[Kallison]

I always feel that way before a Disney trip, but mine is about the worry of flying with the kids. I think your 2 year old will be fine, he will probably nap a long time. Just keep throwing M&M's at him. I worry about spending the money too, everything going smoothly and having a good time. We always have wonderful memories of our trips, and looking back, I don't regret a penny I've spent on the last 5 Disney trips, which has added up to quite a bit. Go you'll be fine.

 

[Sonya]

I feel this way before every trip. And then I have a great time. I think it's seperation issues, from my home, family and friends. I'm fine as soon as I get on the road. Have fun and don't worry!

 

[momof2inPA]

We will be driving down from Pittsburgh with our 3 and 6 year olds in a few weeks. Sometimes we will stop at hotels with comfy lobbies, where we can get a drink, a snack, maybe ride the elevators and have room to roam.

I feel guilty about the spending, too, but my husband just says we can tighten our budget when we get back. He's right.

Watch your Disneyworld trip planning video if you have one. That always gets me in the mood (for Disney, that is).

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} my friend. This is your first Christmas without your mother, I know you are feeling very sad as well as stressed.

We drove all over the country with Travis from the time he was 6 weeks old. He did great. We did try to stop at a rest area every couple of hours to let him run around a bit once he started walking. That helped a lot.

Go on your trip and make some <b>magical</b> memories. I think you will be glad if you do.

You have my number, you call me if you need to talk.

Katholyn

 

[dzneprincess]

I agree with everyone else Mishetta. SOunds like you are mostly just feeling guilty. Once you get *there* it will all be okay!

 

[Phrebert]

Take a Deep Breath, and hold it as you back out of the driveway. Hold it, and exhale slowly as the car speeds up. Leave your troubles your driveway.

 

[C.Ann]

Mishetta, I know that this is a particularly hard year for you and Christmas will be extremely difficult - but that's exactly why you should go..

You KNOW your Mom would want you to go and take her grandson to the most magical place in the world.. She'll "be there" with you - I promise.. You may not be able to see her, but if you pause for a moment you'll FEEL her in your heart!

Hugs to all of you..
C.ann