Please help me tell my DD.....daddy left...Update 1 year later!(1st post)

[bumbershoot]

OP I'm glad things are going better for you and your daughter.

I am glad that things are going good for you. But I do have to comment on the above. I never get my kids things for Valentines day. They are my children, not my husband, boyfriend or lover. To me this is what Valentines days is for.

FWIW, obviously their family did do things for their daughter on v day. My mom got us little things, just like we made her valentine's day cards. I've never bought into it being for romantically involved people, especially since they had us make cards for our parents while we were in school. If a kid can give a parent a card, obviously a parent can give something to a child.

I would just assume that in *their* family before, they did give gifts to her, and this year without the OP reminding him, he didn't do it. Wouldn't be a deal in *your* house, but obviously it was in the OP's.

 

[alldiz]

OP I'm glad things are going better for you and your daughter.




FWIW, obviously their family did do things for their daughter on v day. My mom got us little things, just like we made her valentine's day cards. I've never bought into it being for romantically involved people, especially since they had us make cards for our parents while we were in school. If a kid can give a parent a card, obviously a parent can give something to a child.

I would just assume that in *their* family before, they did give gifts to her, and this year without the OP reminding him, he didn't do it. Wouldn't be a deal in *your* house, but obviously it was in the OP's.

Thanks....
Actually.....my DD 8 was very excited to give her dad his valentines card and thing she made at school....I know he felt stupid. Taught him a lesson though.
Glad I made up for it.
Kerri

 

[disneychrista]

Wouldn't be a deal in *your* house, but obviously it was in the OP's.

At least to the mom. We do not know if was a "deal" to the child or not.

Thanks....
Actually.....my DD 8 was very excited to give her dad his valentines card and thing she made at school....I know he felt stupid.

How did you daughter feel about her dad not giving her something?

 

[alldiz]

At least to the mom. We do not know if was a "deal" to the child or not.

How did you daughter feel about her dad not giving her something?

Well I know she was a little sad when she gave her dad a valentine and he didn't have one for her.....but like kids.....on to the next minute she went

 

[disneychrista]

Well I know she was a little sad when she gave her dad a valentine and he didn't have one for her.....but like kids.....on to the next minute she went

Yeah kids are much more easy going then we adults.

 

[rie'smom]

Kerri, I'm glad it has worked out for all of you. When my husband and I started dating I told him that he had to get along with my ex husband for my son's sake. They got to be pretty good friends and even called each other husband-in-law. It was great for all of us. When my ex died his parents asked my husband to be a pall bearer. He was honored and he did it.

 

[PaulaSB12]

Hi,


I can't tell her her dad is a cheatin piece of garbage....Please give me some guidance....
Kerri



I just want to say to anyone who is going through this....that....TIME REALLY DOES WONDERS!!!!
I would never have thought a year ago that my DD would have adjusted so well......
My rules.....
1. Never talk bad about her dad....she will find out herself that he is selfish.....like when he came over to visit for Valentines day and didn't bring her anything....I knew he wouldn't....and I didn't remind him. Broke my heart but I won't protect her from his stupidness. She will accept him for who he is......or not. He does love her and is a good dad....



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Kerri

This is the only bit I don't understand why is it selfish not to bring a gift on valentines day? I thought that was a day lovers gave gifts not fathers to daughters.

 

[alldiz]

Yeah kids are much more easy going then we adults.

Yes they are.

Kerri, I'm glad it has worked out for all of you. When my husband and I started dating I told him that he had to get along with my ex husband for my son's sake. They got to be pretty good friends and even called each other husband-in-law. It was great for all of us. When my ex died his parents asked my husband to be a pall bearer. He was honored and he did it.

I haven't started to date yet....would love to just no time. I am working more and I get to see DD less. I'm waiting for Mr. Right to knock on the door

This is the only bit I don't understand why is it selfish not to bring a gift on valentines day? I thought that was a day lovers gave gifts not fathers to daughters.

Well we always gave DD something. Quite frankly he sent his "girlfriend" at the time and her kids a Valentine in the mail....so while DD had no idea,
I knew his priorities were elsewhere. So when DD gave him a card....I know he felt stupid....and he deserved it.
Kerri

 

[SKWDW]

Thanks for the update Kerri. Looks like you're doing well.

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

I'm so glad you've found your peace! Very glad everything is going so well for you and your daughter.