Regarding the pets onboard issue....I had to have my ds's cat on board with me last year. I was bringing the cat to him after he moved to Florida...ds not the cat had moved!!! Delta knew the cat was there, I paid extra for the cat to be there. I chose seats that had no one near me so that no one would be bothered by the cat if it had issues flying. However, when I checked the seating the day I flew, they had put people all around me. When I got to Logan, I asked the gate attendent if I could change my seat because I had the cat with me. She was a bit put out but when I explained that I didn't want to be near anyone who may be bothered by animal dander or cat crying, she understood and put me in the waaaaay back with no one around me. Yes, I realize that the animal dander does travel through the air vents but I'm sure it was better to not have anyone around me directly.
I have yet to see that those overhead lights are bright enough to bother anyone. For those who choose to travel on the red-eyes, they have to realize that there may be some who are on the same flight that will want to read, hence the light will be on. That's common sense. To expect others to keep their lights off in order for children to sleep is a bit over the top. In fact, I would think that if a child woke up, disoriented, the light being on would actually help calm them, rather than waking up to darkness. Most kids can fall asleep with some light on. Reclining seats??? Well, I have to say I have never reclined mine. I hate the thought of having my head back in someone's lap...so to speak. But then again, I'm not on to many coast to coast flights anymore. And my back is better off is I just have a few pillows scrunched in there for support.
Good manners go a long way in air travel. It's stressful enough without having to deal with those who need the perfect scenario. Airtravel is not perfect. We all need to make allowences for our fellow travelers.