Pixie dust requested please

[Evil Princess]

My ex boyfriend is my best friend in the world. I went out with him for two years and broke up with him because he left for college and i figured i should give the whole "if you love someone, set them free..." thing a shot.

Well, he came back. We fight, only over our emotions for one another though. We're going through a rough spot and I feel terrible. I swear I just want to call someone on the phone to talk, but I really don't know who to turn to.

We just had a really big fight...hang ups, call backs on both sides. I demanded to know why he hung up on me, and he said if he was on the phone with me any longer he would scream at me and say things he would regret. Well, I told him to just say them so I wouldn't call him back and would not dare dial his number...he screamed "FINE, LEAVE ME ALONE I HATE YOU" and slammed the phone down. (Never said this to me before). 10 seconds later my cell phone rings and its him. Apologizing that he didn't mean it but saying that he needed a few minutes to cool down and would call me back.

It's been almost 20 minutes, and I'm crying so hard that I'm shaking. You never get over your first love right? He was my high school sweetheart, my best friend, and when we're together we get along all the time. We're just going through a really rough situation right now...but I still have that feeling inside that we're meant for each other.

This probably sounds really twisted and insane like a little girl unable to get over her ex boyfriend. Obviously I'd have to be telling you over 4 years worth of history for you to understand. I just needed to vent, to talk to someone. I really want to just fall asleep forever, and yet, all I want is to curl up in his arms, because hes the only one who makes me feel better.

 

[momsal]

Just hang in there!!! this is going to sound stupid to you but it what I would tell my own kids..

It is really hard to be uncertain about your first love but if it is meant to be it will be!!!

I am not your Mom but here is a hug from me.

 

[annemariec]

I felt a lump in my throat reading your post. Sounds like a lot of stress!!!No advice here, other than this --- be good to yourself.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Take a little time away from it all. Do something to take your mind off of your troubles if you can (watch a good movie or T.V. show, read a book, call a friend and talk about other stuff, take a good nap, bubble bath, maybe a little ice cream or popcorn....). Time for yourself will help you gain perspective.

This is going to sound crazy, but if you know someone that needs a hand with something help them out. It will make you feel better.
It won't solve your problems but it will make you feel better.

Momsal is right if it is meant to be, it will be. I was in a similar situation with my college sweetheart. We broke up and got back together over the course of a few years. I really thought he was the one for me, and that one day it would all work out. It tore me up when we broke it off and I knew it was for good. (not saying that will happen to you...)

You know what? I ended up meeting the man of my dreams. We've married and I couldn't be any happier.

It'll all work out. One way or the other.

Hugs and PD.
Annemarie

 

[WillyJ]

It sounds like you have a good understanding of the problem when you say; "We're just going through a really rough situation right now... E.P.


When emotions are running high things are said that aren't meant; I don't have any great words of wisdom for you except to say everyone has been there at some point and I feel for you. .

Hang in there and good luck with things. .

 

[helenabear]

I wish I had some great words of wisdom for you, but I don't. I do know that when people are emotional things are said that they don't mean. Just hang in there and things will work out for the best {{{hugs}}}

 

[jamsmom]

I am sitting here crying for you because it brings back so many painful memories for me.


{{{HUGS}}} I wish I could be there to sit and listen to you for as long as you need!

 

[shelle94]

Sounds like you both just need time to cool off. Everyone is right...if it was meant to be then it will all work out. Sitting there beating up on yourself or feeling down will not help the situation any. Tomorrow will be a better day.

 

[kiddo]

no real words of wisdom here either!!! don't worry... things have a way of working themselves out in the end...
{{{{{{ HUG }}}}}}

 

[Serena]

No advice from me other than to give each other the time you need.

 

[zurgswife]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}....Been there ...if you hang on you will make it through this....(not promising anything more then a friendship) but you both will make it through this...

 

[holycow]

((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))) to you...if he's worth it you'll forgive him and hopefully he'll forgive you. If not...I know this sounds trite but it is soooooooooooo true...

Time heals all wounds...or at least softens them a bit!

Holycow

 

[Evil Princess]

Thanks guys. We're not really mad at each other, its just a bad situation that leads to us fighting in circles. I get phone calls and text messages with "I dont want to fight". We're just frusterated with the situation and don't know how to handle it.

We made up, all is better, for now. It'll take a lil while to figure out what to do though.