Paternity test for unborn child

[okeydokey]

Can a paternity test be done in a non-invasive way for a fetus? A friend of mine's 17 year old son was visited by his 22 year old internet girlfriend over the holidays for the first time and now she is pregnant. However, her ex-boyfriend, who she is living with thinks it is his baby. My friend is interested in a paternity test before the girl moves across the county and in with them but is worried about how it will be done.

What a mess.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Ugh. That is a mess.

It seems like I've always heard you have to wait until the baby is born, but maybe there's something new now.

 

[NotUrsula]

Not noninvasive. Also PLENTY expensive and only available during certain tight windows of time.

A CVS (chorionic villus sampling) or amnio could do it, but both procedures carry a slight risk of miscarriage, so there is almost no likelihood that she could required by any court to submit to it.

CVS has to be done between the 10th and 12 week; there is a bit more leeway with amnio, but it cannot be done before 15 weeks.

 

[okeydokey]

Not noninvasive. Also PLENTY expensive and only available during certain tight windows of time.

A CVS (chorionic villus sampling) or amnio could do it, but both procedures carry a slight risk of miscarriage, so there is almost no likelihood that she could required by any court to submit to it.

CVS has to be done between the 10th and 12 week; there is a bit more leeway with amnio, but it cannot be done before 15 weeks.

I can't see them going with either of these options if they aren't completely safe. I have mentioned to her that the son shouldn't put his name on the birth certificate until they are sure. Can they delay the naming of the father?

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

I seem to remember hearing about a procedure that uses the mother's blood rather than a sample from the baby but I don't know how accurate it would be, nor how expensive.

 

[tzolkin]

I can't see them going with either of these options if they aren't completely safe. I have mentioned to her that the son shouldn't put his name on the birth certificate until they are sure. Can they delay the naming of the father?

Yes, but they should look into the particulars for their state.

When my niece was born (in NY) the father was in the military and not available to sign the birth certificate. After a paternity test and filing some paperwork she received a new birth certificate with the father's name listed.

A similar situation with DH and DD (born in FL). When we got married after college (DD was 4) DH and I both just signed an acknowledgement of paternity form, paid $15, and DD was issued a new birth certificate with her new name, and DH listed as her father.

 

[tiggersbombed2]

Even if there was, it would be invasive. For the sake of the baby they should wait until the child is born.

 

[okeydokey]

Even if there was, it would be invasive. For the sake of the baby they should wait until the child is born.

The ex-boyfriend has also said he wanted the paternity test. She is planning on moving out of his place and to our state with 17 year old's family. I'm not sure what rights he has until paternity is established.

 

[Leajess99]

I can't see them going with either of these options if they aren't completely safe. I have mentioned to her that the son shouldn't put his name on the birth certificate until they are sure. Can they delay the naming of the father?

Yes they can and many places do not let you just place your name on the birth certificate. Here you have to swear out a paternity affidavidt and then they will add the father to the birth certificate if the parents agree on it. Otherwise it is a paternity test requirement.

I would tell the mother of the boy to advise him to not place his name on the birth certificate. You just never know and a paternity is the best way to protect yourself.

My ex claimed this kid by his former girlfriend was his and he even put this child before our children (his true biological children). Well, last year the former girlfriend went to jail for murder and the state took the kids. She put on the paperwork that he was the father of 2 of the boys. The state made him pay for a paternity test (not sure if he got the money back or what) and neither of the kids are his. The one he swore was his for the past 9 years is not his (which I told him when the baby was born). His name was not on the child's birth certificate nor did he have a real relationship with the child.

 

[katesorad]

Hmm. I've heard of this type of thing before (probably because I have a sick addiction to watching baby daddy episodes of Maury), so I did a quick search and came up with this. It looks like a standard test is $1,249 and includes testing for up to 3 possible fathers. It's completely non-invasive, and it takes the mother's blood.. and financing options are available.

 

[LuvOrlando]

FWIW this 22 year old broke the law touching a 17 year old which is all kinds of not ok, if it was my son she would be in jail...then again I don't know the age of consent with an adult in Florida. From another angle, I think this sounds like a con where this person is hoping your friend will suckup the most expensive parts of bringing a baby into the world. Did you save all the e-mails and texts, they would be helpful in forcing the paternity testing if she eventually withdraws her position.

 

[scrapquitler]

I can't see them going with either of these options if they aren't completely safe. I have mentioned to her that the son shouldn't put his name on the birth certificate until they are sure. Can they delay the naming of the father?

Depending on the state, she may not be able to put anyone's name as the father until a paternity test is done. I think that this is true in my state, if I remember the chain of events of what happened with my brother's then girlfriend correctly

I think they only way to tell before the baby is born is with amnio, and if there isn't a good medical reason to do it, I doubt most doctors would recommend it for a 22 year old woman.

 

[chisnpeke]

FWIW this 22 year old broke the law touching a 17 year old which is all kinds of not ok, if it was my son she would be in jail...then again I don't know the age of consent with an adult in Florida. From another angle, I think this sounds like a con where this person is hoping your friend will suckup the most expensive parts of bringing a baby into the world. Did you save all the e-mails and texts, they would be helpful in forcing the paternity testing if she eventually withdraws her position.

17 is almost an adult. The age difference is not that huge. It's about maturity rather than age, a lot of the time.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

FWIW this 22 year old broke the law touching a 17 year old which is all kinds of not ok, if it was my son she would be in jail...then again I don't know the age of consent with an adult in Florida. From another angle, I think this sounds like a con where this person is hoping your friend will suckup the most expensive parts of bringing a baby into the world. Did you save all the e-mails and texts, they would be helpful in forcing the paternity testing if she eventually withdraws her position.

That is exactly what I thought when I read this post. That boy is playing with fire here. What are his parents saying?

The whole Internet relationship, then visiting once while she still lives with her ex boyfriend... I guess its possible, but why would a 22 year old want to date a 17 yo? I would gave my guard up on this one. Somethings afoot!

 

[golfgal]

The ex-boyfriend has also said he wanted the paternity test. She is planning on moving out of his place and to our state with 17 year old's family. I'm not sure what rights he has until paternity is established.

And your friend is going to allow this

Sorry, sounds like the "mom" is really a, well, not DIS appropriate word.

Also, the age of consent in many states is 16 or 17 so that may be a non-issue.

 

[hereyago]

That is exactly what I thought when I read this post. That boy is playing with fire here. What are his parents saying?

The whole Internet relationship, then visiting once while she still lives with her ex boyfriend... I guess its possible, but why would a 22 year old want to date a 17 yo? I would gave my guard up on this one. Somethings afoot!

 

[Hannathy]

I hope it isn't an 8 pound premature baby! In other words I hope the mom is able to count correctly and it adds up to a Christmas conception.
If she is pinning it on the 17 yr old.




I wholeheartedly believe in men owing up to their responsibility. BUT in this case tell the 17 yr old not to sign or verbally agree to anything until the paternity test. Then he can stand up and take responsibility but he should not pay for some other mans problem

 

[stepmommyof1]

I'd wait til the baby is born and get testing done then and don't put his name on the birth certificate.
The age thing is a bit disturbing...i wonder if his parents care??
Personally I think people sometimes make a mountain out of a molehill with this woman/boy scandal stuff. I mean if she wasnt using him, if theyre actually in love with eachother or at least have a relationship not based on sex, it would be okay I think.
I don't think it's a big deal because it's not the same as a young girl with an older man.
I mean...I guess I have to admit I wouldn't like it if that woman was with my stepson, but then again I don't even like when he dates girls his own age.
Oh another thing is, I don't personally think that boy should have to pay child support. I don't think the relationship is necessarily wrong but if the woman gets pregnant from a teenager, well too bad for her, she knew what she was getting into dating a teenager in the first place and I don't think she should be able to get money from him for the next eighteen years just because she made the choice to do the deed with someone underage.

 

[hereyago]

And the 17 year old made a CHOICE to be with her as well knowing the consequences. I am sure if the OP's friend went into court with the 17 year old and said she didn't think he had to pay child support for the reasons you listed, the judge wouldn't feel the same way. Kids don't ask to be born.

 

[stepmommyof1]

No they don't ask to born, your right....but I guess I just think a 22 year old (while that is young too) should probably be able to take care of her child without the help of a teenager that she probably shouldn't have touched in the first place. I know there isn't much difference between 17 and 18 but in the eyes of the law there's a difference so I guess I just think if she wanted to take the risk of sex with someone the law still calls a child, then the responsibility should be on her as an adult, not the teenager she slept with.
Only my own opinion, I don't expect anyone to agree.