Paternity test for unborn child

[horseshowmom]

Hmm. I've heard of this type of thing before (probably because I have a sick addiction to watching baby daddy episodes of Maury), so I did a quick search and came up with this. It looks like a standard test is $1,249 and includes testing for up to 3 possible fathers. It's completely non-invasive, and it takes the mother's blood.. and financing options are available.

Personally, I think that would be $1249 well spent.

I also have to wonder about the situation with your friends. Since the supposedly ex-BF is also claiming the child is his, the woman was obviously having sex with both of them. If the 5 year age difference isn't enough to concern them, her history should (not to mention the fact that she currently lives with said ex-BF .

OP, I'm with you, there's no way she would have been invited to my house for the holidays to start with.

 

[kaytieeldr]

They seem willing to accept this and to move this woman into their home.

Just wanted to point out - the future mom is moving to the same STATE as the seventeen-year-old. Not into the family's home.

disclaimer: quoting one random post of many who addressed the move, not picking on any poster.

 

[Wishing on a star]

~The difference between 17 and 22 is only 5 years. This woman may be a woman, but a 17 year old is a lot closer to "man" than "teenager", obviously.

I think there are a lot of 17 year old boys who might prove the complete opposit!

But, seriously...
Your friend is gonna do what she is gonna do...
I wouldn't even begin to try to have anything at all to do with it.
I am with those who say that if any woman would let this 22 year old move into their home with their minor son...
Even the best of intentions (involvement and control of 'supposed' and 'maybe' grandchild) IMHO, are very very questionable.

And, from this quote from the original post, this does seem to exactly what the friend is proposing.

before the girl moves across the county and in with them....

 

[debknight]

Just wanted to point out - the future mom is moving to the same STATE as the seventeen-year-old. Not into the family's home.

disclaimer: quoting one random post of many who addressed the move, not picking on any poster.

In the OP's 1st post she said the 22 yr. old is moving "in with them".

 

[okeydokey]

Just wanted to point out - the future mom is moving to the same STATE as the seventeen-year-old. Not into the family's home.

disclaimer: quoting one random post of many who addressed the move, not picking on any poster.

No, actually she is moving in with them, at least at first. She has no job, car or driver's license. The son is not graduation HS until May. He also has no job. They are thinking the son and gf will get an apartment once the son gets a job but I think they are overly optimistic. I have a feeling the parents will be supporting them for quite a while. Not what I would choose, but it's not my kid.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

This is a pregnant young woman in need of some place to live. It would probably be best to redirect her back to her parents, but it's important that she has someone safe to stay somewhere...

 

[CandyMandy]

The entire scenario the OP laid out can only lead to a....

 

[Amity]

Testing of an unborn child for paternity is usually only done where there is an immediate financial matter of risk, or other legal ramifications. The risk to the fetus is present in any type of prenatal obtrusion and the factors should be weighed heavily when deciding to have DNA testing performed. In all cases, and courts have backed this up, the medical professionals will have the final say on whether DNA testing can be performed on unborn infants. In some cases it simply is not possible to perform the testing at a certain stage because the risk to the unborn infant is too substantial.

If you want to get more information about unborn infant DNA testing you should start by consulting with your prenatal specialist. They will explain the risks and factors behind it as well as explain the process in more detail.

 

[cruisnfamily]

The age of consent in Florida is 18, but close in age exemptions exist. By law, the exception permits a person 23 years of age or younger to engage in legal sexual activity with a minor aged 16 or 17.

 

[ccgirl]

I'm not a big fan of two people getting together for "the sake of the child" regardless of the age. I never encourage that. If two people are in love and want to be together, that's fine. It sounds like these people don't really know her. Personally, I would not be moving someone in to my home that I didn't know. As far as paternity, I would wait until the baby is born. She needs to get her life on track. Get her license, a job, and an apartment. This sounds like something that went on in my family. The older mom had a very bad home life. The younger dad had a good home life. She saw this and wanted it too. Got pregnant......was pissed when he requested a paternity test but he did turn out to be the dad. They tried to make it work but had it not been for the baby, they never would have been together in the first place.

People....this is why sex should not be a recreational sport! Guess I'm just old fashioned.

 

[RangerPooh]

If it was my son I'd be asking why a condom wasn't used? Hello you want to prevent having a child when you're still in high school and have no job to support yourself, the gf, or a baby. Why a 22 yo is into a 17 yo is beyond me, maybe she's desperate to find someone who will take care of her? As others ahve said, the whole thing sounds fishy. To travel across the country to meet and have sex with a teenage whom you ahve never met in person, the get pregnant on that trip, to leave current bf for the 17yo, and to move across the country and into his home...

Since the possible father is a minor could the parents request the paternity test themselves? Then the son could slowly pay them back for the test.

 

[aaarcher86]

I am definitely on the boat of NOT moving this woman in until paternity is established.

It will be much easier to move her in after the baby is born than to kick her out while dealing with all the emotions of finding out the baby is not their son's and looking at the baby furniture I assume they will be purchasing, etc.

 

[cruisnfamily]

People....this is why sex should not be a recreational sport! Guess I'm just old fashioned.

Best quote on this whole thread!

 

[sam_gordon]

People....this is why sex should not be a recreational sport! Guess I'm just old fashioned.

Unfortunately (or fortunately depending on how you look at it) it is. If it wasn't "recreational", I'm guessing we wouldn't be worried about overpopulation.

What I don't understand is why people don't take precautions.

 

[ccgirl]

Unfortunately (or fortunately depending on how you look at it) it is. If it wasn't "recreational", I'm guessing we wouldn't be worried about overpopulation.

What I don't understand is why people don't take precautions.

I guess to some it is. I'm just not one of them.

As far as precautions....none of them are 100%. Take condoms for example. They are 95% effective. That means out of 100 people using them, 5 will still get pregnant. No thanks!

 

[dngnb8]

I can't see them going with either of these options if they aren't completely safe.

Being pregnant isnt completely safe. Just sayin that nothing is a given. We're talking risk levels here and the risks are low

 

[FlightlessDuck]

As far as precautions....none of them are 100%. Take condoms for example. They are 95% effective. That means out of 100 people using them, 5 will still get pregnant. No thanks!

I'm not sure 5% ineffective means 5% pregnant. That would assume that 100% you don't use a condom you get someone pregnant.

 

[lustergirl]

As I pointed out above it is not illegal for this young woman to be with this almost grown man in most parts of the US (including the state the OP lives in). Stupid, yes but not illegal.

I am curious that you point out the ate difference of 4-5 years as an issue. You have posted a lot recently about your 25 year old stepson and that you are only 26. One would assume that means there is at least a 4-5 year age difference between you and your husband, more than that unless your DH had his son when he was 16 (possible, but not all that likely since you also have stories of him living in the same house now as then and no parents seem to be involved--precious few 16 year old parents could afford their own place and that place be a 3 or more bedroom house to boot).

So I am genuinely curious--does this age gap bother you because the male is younger? Because one of the people is under 18 (though over the age of consent)? Why do you feel differently about it than your own situation? I hope you don't mind me asking; it just really intrigued me when I read your post and then realized who had posted it

wait a minute... I thought her stepson was a teenager, not 25?

 

[cm8]

wait a minute... I thought her stepson was a teenager, not 25?

me too

I would not allow her to move in with them till it were certain the child was his. who's to say that she is only using him to get what she needs, a place to live, access to doctors, money and anything else that comes her way. It could very well be a scam with her BF in on it.

I know, I really need to stop watching lifetime, have you all seen some of the movies on there, some of those people are and really should have their head examine.

I would have no issues with finding out at birth who fathered the child, but under no circumstances would any $$$ change hands or promises be made that would lead her to think otherwise. OP, I hope they find a compromise that is great for all individuals involved

 

[stepmommyof1]

DS is a teenager, he is going to be turning 17 this year
I'm assuming that the poster meant to type "15" and just accidentally typed a 2 instead of a 1 ? (stepson was 15 when I joined the board, which is probably what the poster is thinking of).

Anyway I have just recently changed my opinion on this subject and think this woman is messed up for having a baby with a boy that age. Not that I ever thought it was okay, but I didn't think it was the worst thing ever. Now I do.