Parents of the High School Class of 2017/College 2021

[bjscheel]

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Is anyone else sad that this will be their last "at home" Thanksgiving and they'll be visitors next year ?

We were just talking about how DD might not be able to make it to everything starting next year. She'll only be an hour away, but she'll likely get a part time retail job and Thanksgiving weekend is going to be hard to get off. We usually have DH's side on Saturday due to a SIL in another state. DD's current jobs have not interfered with our family events at all so it will be an adjustment.

A job will probably keep her at school for most of her 3 week Christmas break too. I was lamenting that fact at Thanksgiving but my in-laws pointed out if she was home she would be alone a lot of that time (DD15 may only have about a week off) and she could be making money instead which is true. And it's not like she has to have a large block of time off to make it worth a trip home since she'll be close. But I'm selfish and want my girl around

Not to mention she will be taking a summer semester in 2018 so basically not coming back for long term possibly ever!

 

[v.t.]

Berkeley just asked for letters of recommendation from DS. Hoping that's a good sign. Do you know anything about the letters of recommendation for Berkeley, good or bad?

I would think that is a positive step. I would be glad to have any interest.

Awwww - experience has taught me that they come back! They come back for school breaks etc, its not time to throw in the traditions towel yet!
There was one year we didn't decorate until the 23rd when DS arrived home from school but it is something that so far we have still managed to do as a family

One DS has applied to West Point so we are preparing ourselves in case he does get accepted.

DS first girlfriend just broke up with him. They have been dating almost a year. He is so upset. I know he has to worth thru it on his own but it's so hard to see him so unhappy.

Poor kid, I hope things get better soon.

DD is, however, working on a promposal already. She's making a poster to present tomorrow. Her intended date is friends with lots of girls and probably considered a safe choice by many to ask to go as a friend. She wants to be the one who gets to him first! Also, we took him with us to Moana on Friday and at one point someone mentioned prom and he said, "Oh, I have to think of someone to ask to prom!" so she also wanted to strike before he thinks of someone else. There have already been some other kids lining up their dates. DD suggested to another guy friend that he ask their friend who has never had a date to a dance and he seemed agreeable so hopefully that works out. And DD15 wants to go to the same prom as her sister this year, so she would need an upperclassman to ask her. Hints have been dropped to the boy who starred in the musical with her, and it sounds like he might ask her (I think he already was considering it anyway).

So, do the girls ask the guys now? I told my boys they needed to wait until after the holidays to ask a girl to prom. One has a girlfriend but I am not sure it is going to last. He is not a very attentive boyfriend, just too busy. But she keeps hanging on. I am afraid he will ask and they will break up right before. And I have already had a few girls ask who the other DS is taking to prom. I have a feeling he will be asked soon so he may need to come up with a plan. He too is thinking about taking someone from the musical. So much drama! Way more important that college, grades and scholarships. LOL

 

[Poohforyou]

I'm already expecting that my dd won't come home for long periods once she starts college. She's applied to schools in cities so she'll have lots of opportunities during breaks. I honestly don't blame her for wanting be in a city rather than the suburbs. I'm hoping her 1st choice works out because it's the closest school so visits will be an option.

 

[bjscheel]

So, do the girls ask the guys now? I told my boys they needed to wait until after the holidays to ask a girl to prom. One has a girlfriend but I am not sure it is going to last. He is not a very attentive boyfriend, just too busy. But she keeps hanging on. I am afraid he will ask and they will break up right before. And I have already had a few girls ask who the other DS is taking to prom. I have a feeling he will be asked soon so he may need to come up with a plan. He too is thinking about taking someone from the musical. So much drama! Way more important that college, grades and scholarships. LOL

I don't know how much is girls asking and how much is guys these days. The girl is asking the guy in this case because she feels he will be in high demand . She was going to ask him to Homecoming and another girl beat her to it. And in our car last Friday he sounded a little stressed about picking someone for prom and he said Homecoming was easy because he was asked. She didn't mind going to Homecoming alone, but for prom she wants to ensure she has someone. She also thinks it would be fun to be able to say she has only gone to prom with Homecoming Kings. It is super early...most kids wait until after Christmas break.

 

[aprilgail]

I don't know how much is girls asking and how much is guys these days. The girl is asking the guy in this case because she feels he will be in high demand . She was going to ask him to Homecoming and another girl beat her to it. And in our car last Friday he sounded a little stressed about picking someone for prom and he said Homecoming was easy because he was asked. She didn't mind going to Homecoming alone, but for prom she wants to ensure she has someone. She also thinks it would be fun to be able to say she has only gone to prom with Homecoming Kings. It is super early...most kids wait until after Christmas break.

My daughter and her friends went to Sr Prom last year with boys that were seniors- this year they all said they just want to all go together with no dates so they can have fun LOL

 

[mamacatnv]

These promposals are a hoot! Hope all your kids land their dream dates!
My DD has absolutely no interest in prom - nothing, nada, zilch. Good thing I got in a few Father Daughter Balls to satisfy the dress/hair/accessories frenzy.
DS did proms etc so I guess I'll just have to cling to those memories

 

[bjscheel]

My daughter and her friends went to Sr Prom last year with boys that were seniors- this year they all said they just want to all go together with no dates so they can have fun LOL

That works! If everything goes according to my girls' plans, then it will basically be just pairing up girls and boys from the same friend group, so it will be fun and everyone will be comfortable with their date. I agree it's not so much fun to go with some kid you only kind of know, just so you have a date.

 

[v.t.]

That works! If everything goes according to my girls' plans, then it will basically be just pairing up girls and boys from the same friend group, so it will be fun and everyone will be comfortable with their date. I agree it's not so much fun to go with some kid you only kind of know, just so you have a date.

That is exactly what my boys are trying to figure out. They both went their sophomore year and did not sit together, so this year they want to sit together and get 1st choice of tables, so they are trying to figure out which girls and friends would work best for their table.

 

[Mickeyluver37]

All of the applications are in! He knocked a few off his list that I thought he should still try for, but didn't want to fight with him anymore. But, I digress. Only one of the schools is rolling admission, so we don't expect to know what he's doing until Feb 1st and not a day sooner.

DS and his girlfriend go to 2 different high schools, so they each did a "proposal" for homecoming, and I would assume will do the same for prom. If they went to the same school, I would think it would all be on him. It's really more of a dog and pony show because the plans are already made, dress is already bought, etc, by the time the "promposal" is made.

 

[bjscheel]

DD's promposal was successful. She was very nervous! I'm glad I never had to do anything like that.

She still needs to work on her college application and scholarships. I thought after the musical she'd have so much free time but it still seems just as busy. She is working on a drawing for her great-aunt for Christmas and that is taking a lot of time as she does very detailed work. That Christmas party is only 8 days away so she's a little stressed. But tonight we're going to a community play, tomorrow she volunteers at a Business Women's event (volunteering increases your chances for their scholarship) and we're going shopping. Hopefully Sunday stays open.

 

[Mrs. Ciz]

DD got her first acceptance today from her safety school Old Dominion University. She also got a $4000 (per year) scholarship! We were not expecting that at all.

One more application to finish for Virginia Tech, and then we wait. She decided not to apply to her other safety school Longwood University.

 

[laughinplace199]

DD got her first acceptance today from her safety school Old Dominion University. She also got a $4000 scholarship! We were not expecting that at all.

One more application to finish for Virginia Tech, and then we wait. She decided not to apply to her other safety school Longwood University.

Congrats to your DD! It must be nice to have an acceptance already!

 

[aprilgail]

Got financial aid packet from Pace- They gave her 27,500 in merit and 7,500 in aid- still leaves me with about 30,000 a year to come up with.

 

[bjscheel]

Got financial aid packet from Pace- They gave her 27,500 in merit and 7,500 in aid- still leaves me with about 30,000 a year to come up with.

I don't know how people do that.

 

[Mrs. Ciz]

Got financial aid packet from Pace- They gave her 27,500 in merit and 7,500 in aid- still leaves me with about 30,000 a year to come up with.

YIKES!!!! That is one expensive private university! She rocked the merit aid!

 

[v.t.]

DD's promposal was successful. She was very nervous! I'm glad I never had to do anything like that.
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So happy for her. I would have been a nervous wreck too. Glad it all worked out.

DD got her first acceptance today from her safety school Old Dominion University. She also got a $4000 scholarship! We were not expecting that at all.

One more application to finish for Virginia Tech, and then we wait. She decided not to apply to her other safety school Longwood University.

Congrats! And a scholarship too, very exciting.

 

[Poohforyou]

YIKES!!!! That is one expensive private university! She rocked the merit aid!

DD applied to 4 private universities and 1 state university (not our state). All the private ones are in the $65,000- $68,000. We're hoping for $25,000-30,000 in aid or she'll be going to the state university.

 

[bjscheel]

Wow, the private schools here run $40-$50K. After merit aid, they end up $20-$30K per year. We just don't see how that can be done. It seems astronomical to me. One did make a better offer if she ran track but she did not like that school at all.

I'm afraid DD15 won't do the community college route like DD18 is, so we'll have to see if she can get a good enough offer somewhere. I think she does have a bit more potential for scholarships but it's going to take a lot to make private affordable.

 

[v.t.]

The state schools are around $25K here and private $50-$60K but with merit aid they end up around $30. If they went out of state we could get it around $10K or less with merit. But I told my DH I would spend at least that much visiting, so we will save more if they stay in state. LOL

Sadly, it looks like both boys will be in state. DS got a call that he is denied his medical waiver, so he will not be able to attend West Point. We knew it was a long shot, but he was devastated. He is so tired of his medical issues. (part of his intestine removed as an infant and bleeding uclers since 6th grade) I keep trying to tell him how fortunate he is to be as healthy as he is and to be able to do so many things, but that is not helping right now. I told him he can be depressed until this weekend and then we are moving on.

 

[Poohforyou]

The state schools are around $25K here and private $50-$60K but with merit aid they end up around $30. If they went out of state we could get it around $10K or less with merit. But I told my DH I would spend at least that much visiting, so we will save more if they stay in state. LOL

Sadly, it looks like both boys will be in state. DS got a call that he is denied his medical waiver, so he will not be able to attend West Point. We knew it was a long shot, but he was devastated. He is so tired of his medical issues. (part of his intestine removed as an infant and bleeding uclers since 6th grade) I keep trying to tell him how fortunate he is to be as healthy as he is and to be able to do so many things, but that is not helping right now. I told him he can be depressed until this weekend and then we are moving on.

I'm sorry about your son. it's hard to watch them be so disappointed.

I'm worried about that with dd and merit aid. Luckily the state school she already got accepted to is within our reach even without any merit aid. She likely will get something but we won't know that for awhile.