I would want a chapter dedicated to how it's ok for parents to allow their adult children, 18 years and older, to make their own doctors appointment, answer doctors questions, and have their own insurance card.
I manage a doctor's office and it drives me crazy when parents are making appointments for their adult children. When they call I ask how old is the child, because I need to know if they need to sign a parental consent, and when they tell me their kid is 25 or whatever, it drives me crazy. Sometimes, their kid is standing right next to them and they have to ask them when they can come in, what their phone number is or other questions. Sometimes I just ask them if I can talk to them myself. Drives me crazy!!!
People.....you aren't a bad parent for allowing your adult child to handle this on their own - I promise you....it's ok.
When my girls turned 18 they made their own appointments, carried their own insurance card and went to appointments on their own (for basic things - serious topics like needing surgery, I went with too).
We all want to take care of our babies forever, I get that, my girls are 24 & 19, but sometimes, you just gotta let them handle things on their own.
I hear you, but sometimes someone needs some assistance, kids and adults alike, and that should be okay.
Almost 10 years ago, I encounted an office manager that could have been you, by the way you have described yourself.
My son headed off to his freshman year of college needing PT after a traumatic knee injury that Spring. (Its been almost 10 years and he's gone on to have 3 additional knee surgeries, countless hours of PT and is permanently disabled, but mobile.)
I drove to his small, remote college town in NH to bring him to his first appt. I arrived and he was in the throes of a severe migraine headache. He wanted to cancel. I urged him to try and go, as the first appt. is mostly paperwork, meeting the PT, going over the plan etc. and not too much actual PT. We arrived at the PT office and by then he was feeling nauseous from the migraine.
He sat down and I went up to the window to check him in, and pick up the stack of required paperwork for first time patients. Immediately, I was greeted with apparent anger from the worker on why my son wasnt checking himself in. I explained he was sitting down and wasnt feeling his best. She barked at me that he needed to come to the window and she wasnt talking to me.
Needless to say, I was totally turned off from the place and had their been other options in the area, we would have just left.
I only share this to say that you don't really know why a parent, adult or friend is assisting in making appts. helping with the required paperwork, or checking an 18 year old in at the window.
Obviously, there are, I am sure, parents out there that baby their adult children when it comes to medical appts. But, there could be legitimate reasons why the parent may be assisting their very independent child.