Parent Thread

[PlutosFriend]

Hi, I'm Amy. I'm technically still a working mom, but I just started maternity leave on Wednesday! Quite honestly, I hate it, and prefer being home. I've only had a job the past 4 years.

My kids aren't "allowed" to fight either. They are fairly close in age (2 years, 3 months) but if I allowed them to "duke it out" all the time, it would be the older one always being mean to the younger one. I do intervene most of the time, even if it's just to tell them to knock it off.

My kids have been great lately, too. I'm officially on bedrest and DD has really been holding down the fort, even cooking dinner, until DH comes home from work. Now the littlest one- I'm ready for him to get OUT and he's not cooperating!

Your kids are about the same age as mine, and mine are also boy/girl. It gets interesting, doesn't it? My dd went thru a stage where she couldn't even stand to see her brother chew Congrats on the new baby on the way! How exciting!

 

[PlutosFriend]

I'm a parent, so I guess I qualify!

I'm a SAHM to DS8 and DD4. Thankfully they get along wonderfully, like best friends. (for now anyway)



Shelby

Hello! I am jealous that your kids get along so well Seems like the only time mine play nice together is right before bed time. Hmmm..think they are trying to stall

 

[Mkrop]

Is it a must that he go? I remember how much I could not wait to get both of my kids in school all day. Now I miss that time when them when they were little and really wanted to be with me. They are still young and all, but just not as needy, so I guess I miss that part.

No not a must but I like to try and push him a little to try new things. If I let him dictate where he goes, he would stay home all the time. He is a homebody, momma's boy. Some of that is bc he had physical issues when he was younger that required a lot of PT. He still gets PT and OT once a week. Plus he needs work on socializing more and I thought this would be a good time to do it with the kids he already knows, in a place he feels comfortable.

Plus who wouldnt like just an extra hour at the mall but as usual I am torn to where to push and where to back off. Like on Halloween, he wouldnt put on his costume to go TOT. Well DH said I am not begging him and him and DS10 left. Well I got the idea of glow sticks and told DS5 if he wanted a glow stick he had to put on his costume and go TOT. Luckily DH hadnt gone far so I push DS5 out the door and he had a blast. So there are times when I nee to push so he gets over his fears and realizes there are fun things out there.

 

[PlutosFriend]

You had me laughing! I wonder if 7 is the golden age for back talk because we are getting a lot of it in our house, too.

I hope you will remind DS5 of his obscene caller phase someday.

How do you guys handle back talk? (This question is for anyone going thru it). I need some fresh ideas over here!

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

Hello! I am jealous that your kids get along so well Seems like the only time mine play nice together is right before bed time. Hmmm..think they are trying to stall

Exactly! Anything to get out of going to bed.

Actually, when I have two of them together it is pretty good. It's when I have all three that they go nuts! The older tow have started to gang up on DS3 and leave him out of stuff. He was so sad last night. I think it is ironic because the first two hated each other until about 3 months ago. Crazy!

 

[PlutosFriend]

They are in the same grade, separate classrooms. Their bickering is getting out of control - it grates on my nerves as badly as whining! We recently instituted new consequences which I thought were working well, but they had a relapse last night. I like to blame it on Zach and Cody and Hannah Montana!

What did they do??

 

[mickeyboat]

How do you guys handle back talk? (This question is for anyone going thru it). I need some fresh ideas over here!

As part of our new rules they lose their evening "treat" for back talk. They lose tv for not doing what we ask within three counts. They have a time out in separate rooms for bickering. It has worked fairly well, and we were very clear with them about the consequences. I even asked them for their input on the consequences. They agreed they were fair (until I enforce them!).

 

[PlutosFriend]

No not a must but I like to try and push him a little to try new things. If I let him dictate where he goes, he would stay home all the time. He is a homebody, momma's boy. Some of that is bc he had physical issues when he was younger that required a lot of PT. He still gets PT and OT once a week. Plus he needs work on socializing more and I thought this would be a good time to do it with the kids he already knows, in a place he feels comfortable.

Plus who wouldnt like just an extra hour at the mall but as usual I am torn to where to push and where to back off. Like on Halloween, he wouldnt put on his costume to go TOT. Well DH said I am not begging him and him and DS10 left. Well I got the idea of glow sticks and told DS5 if he wanted a glow stick he had to put on his costume and go TOT. Luckily DH hadnt gone far so I push DS5 out the door and he had a blast. So there are times when I nee to push so he gets over his fears and realizes there are fun things out there.

I know, I LOVE my alone time greatly. My son was a shy kid and a Momma's boy. He is now in 4th grade and has come a long way I wish I had some better ideas to give you. Sounds like you are doing great by encouraging him

 

[mickeyboat]

What did they do??

This was the fighting in the bathroom incident. Hannah slapped Emily so hard while she was naked and wet, that I heard it downstairs through a closed door. There were hand-print welts on her arm. Hannah replied with - well she hit me, too and she was pushing me against the door. So the lot of them were sent to bed - where I heard the chorus of "I hate you's, you are so mean mommy" followed by the "you should have just let them beat each other up, honey" from DH.

It's not easy being the only sane one in my house.

 

[PlutosFriend]

Exactly! Anything to get out of going to bed.

Actually, when I have two of them together it is pretty good. It's when I have all three that they go nuts! The older tow have started to gang up on DS3 and leave him out of stuff. He was so sad last night. I think it is ironic because the first two hated each other until about 3 months ago. Crazy!

Oh poor 3rd child!!! I am one and was left out of all sorts of stuff....I am over it now tho.... ....

 

[babytrees]

They are in the same grade, separate classrooms. Their bickering is getting out of control - it grates on my nerves as badly as whining! We recently instituted new consequences which I thought were working well, but they had a relapse last night. I like to blame it on Zach and Cody and Hannah Montana!

Zach and Cody grate on my last living nerve!!

Hi!! I am Theresa, working mama to DD15 almost 16 scared1: and did I say ) and DD11.

*Denae-you did right...if you would have let the duke it out, in my experience, it would have just led to more hitting.

* Is Lunch Bunch a must because it sounds like your DS might just not be ready for that extra part to his schedule.

* Logan sounds like he hit the terrible 3's early.....forget terrible 2's the three's are worse.

We are blessed that my girls get along very well....we have stated on more than one occasion that they are twins born four years apart (their birthday is the same day in May). We are also blessed that for some reason the oldest has a great head on her shoulders and we don't have to worry about MOST of the teenage angst.

As a co-worker stated yesterday...Theresa has had a ton of jobs... . Not really but I have had some varied experience from SAHM, day care provider, preschool teacher and now office manager at a church (these older people are much harder to work with )

These threads seem to get started every once in awhile...I hope this one sticks!!

 

[PlutosFriend]

This was the fighting in the bathroom incident. Hannah slapped Emily so hard while she was naked and wet, that I heard it downstairs through a closed door. There were hand-print welts on her arm. Hannah replied with - well she hit me, too and she was pushing me against the door. So the lot of them were sent to bed - where I heard the chorus of "I hate you's, you are so mean mommy" followed by the "you should have just let them beat each other up, honey" from DH.

It's not easy being the only sane one in my house.

I hear ya. Sometimes I am more thankful for my sweet little dog, since she is always happy to see me and never talks back

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

No not a must but I like to try and push him a little to try new things. If I let him dictate where he goes, he would stay home all the time. He is a homebody, momma's boy. Some of that is bc he had physical issues when he was younger that required a lot of PT. He still gets PT and OT once a week. Plus he needs work on socializing more and I thought this would be a good time to do it with the kids he already knows, in a place he feels comfortable.

Plus who wouldnt like just an extra hour at the mall but as usual I am torn to where to push and where to back off. Like on Halloween, he wouldnt put on his costume to go TOT. Well DH said I am not begging him and him and DS10 left. Well I got the idea of glow sticks and told DS5 if he wanted a glow stick he had to put on his costume and go TOT. Luckily DH hadnt gone far so I push DS5 out the door and he had a blast. So there are times when I nee to push so he gets over his fears and realizes there are fun things out there.

DS5 is like that. He reminds me of the kid in the movie Better off Dead. His parents are making him go to the dance and he is at the door yelling, "But, I wanna stay home with yoouuu!"

I would say you should try it together too. At least for a few times. Then when he sees it's not going to be a big freak out you can just send him. I also would try another big incentive. After he goes the first time solo with out freaking out. Give it to him. That works for DS. He loves candy of any kind, and gum too. I can get him to do just about anything for gum, or a promise to watch Dumbo when we get home. I would try that.

 

[PlutosFriend]

These threads seem to get started every once in awhile...I hope this one sticks!!

Me too, this could be fun! I am not part of any "clique" threads, as they are called, so maybe this is the one!

 

[babytrees]

No not a must but I like to try and push him a little to try new things. If I let him dictate where he goes, he would stay home all the time. He is a homebody, momma's boy. Some of that is bc he had physical issues when he was younger that required a lot of PT. He still gets PT and OT once a week. Plus he needs work on socializing more and I thought this would be a good time to do it with the kids he already knows, in a place he feels comfortable.

Plus who wouldnt like just an extra hour at the mall but as usual I am torn to where to push and where to back off. Like on Halloween, he wouldnt put on his costume to go TOT. Well DH said I am not begging him and him and DS10 left. Well I got the idea of glow sticks and told DS5 if he wanted a glow stick he had to put on his costume and go TOT. Luckily DH hadnt gone far so I push DS5 out the door and he had a blast. So there are times when I nee to push so he gets over his fears and realizes there are fun things out there.

this sounds like my youngest we have learned to keep offering new experiences...and sometimes she surprises us and says yes, she'd like to go. Our big problem is often she says her sister has to go. Actually, they both do that.

I think this is probably a time to back off but every once in awhile mention it.

I would also probably stop with the bribes...pretty soon he'll be expecting something from you all of the time.

 

[Bob Slydell]

ALL parents

Dads too?

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

I would also probably stop with the bribes...pretty soon he'll be expecting something from you all of the time.

Oh man, you are no fun!!!!

Oh wait, I'll stop talking back now.

 

[babytrees]

This was the fighting in the bathroom incident. Hannah slapped Emily so hard while she was naked and wet, that I heard it downstairs through a closed door. There were hand-print welts on her arm. Hannah replied with - well she hit me, too and she was pushing me against the door. So the lot of them were sent to bed - where I heard the chorus of "I hate you's, you are so mean mommy" followed by the "you should have just let them beat each other up, honey" from DH.

It's not easy being the only sane one in my house.

ain't that the truth!!

the hand print welts would have sent me over the edge.

On the rare occassions that my 2 fight it often gets physical. Cassidy (oldest) is always asking why she's getting into more trouble (which she isn't...it the teenage thing)...my answer? "Because I could her that hit from 2 rooms away"

I also remind her that she is acting like my sister did to me growing up and would she like to not talk to her sister for almost 15 years? My sister and I had a contentious relationship.

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

Dads too

Of course Dads too. Pretty sure they're parents too.

 

[babytrees]

Oh man, you are no fun!!!!

Oh wait, I'll stop talking back now.

I know

actually I am known as the fun mom....by a BUNCH of teenagers.

What they don't realize is I am also one of the strictest.