P and PD for DH and DFIL's family

[TheOtherVillainess]

DFIL called DH at work today. DH's grandfather died at around 2 am this morning.

We were already planning on flying up there on Sat anyway for the family reunion which is next week, so we're still leaving then as far as I know. From what I understand, all but one of DFIL's 5 brothers and all 4 of the sisters were planning on coming in either Fri or Sat also for the reunion, so...the funeral is going to be postponed until Monday so that everybody who is coming will be able to attend.

DH wants to go shopping on Weds for some appropriate attire for himself and DS. I'm not sure what would be appropriate for a 2 year old to wear to a funeral though. Any ideas?

TOV

 

[tevagirl]

I don't know what the appropriate attire for a two yea rold would be but I wanted to say I'm sorry for your dh's loss.

 

[Pooh67_68]

 

[DVC Sadie]

So sorry for your loss. When my DS was 2 his father died and I bought him a lightweight summer suit with a little tie. He only wore the tie for the service and then I took it off so he would be more comfortable. HTHs

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Would buying him black pants, a white button down shirt and a little clip on tie be appropriate? DH and I are hesitant to buy him a suit because chances are, he'll outgrow it before he ever needs to wear it again.

DH says he's ok with this whole thing, that he's been prepared for it for nearly 2 years now. I think he's putting off thinking about it and over the weekend, when we fly up there, it'll really hit him hard.

I know that DGramma is probably taking it the worst. She cared for him as long as she could by herself before she was forced to put him in the hospital. They were married for like, I dunno..sixty something years and I'm sure it's not easy to let go after so long.

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[CarolG]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

I think the black pants, white shirt and clip-on tie will be fine for a two-year-old. And if he tosses the tie after 5 minutes, he'll still be OK.

 

[Bbgrizzle]

I'm so sorry for your/Dh's loss. We are going through something similar ourselves. It is nice to feel the support on the DIS, isn't it?

Good luck with everything.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Thank you so much.

I wasn't really close to Grampa Gerald, but DH was. I'd only met him a few times when we drove or flew up to visit but he was always very kind to me and a sweet old man.

I was working on DS's scrapbook, so I'll have it finished in time to take with us and started sobbing right there at the kitchen table. There is a page I made months ago with a picture I took on DS's first visit to Grampa and Gramma's. Grampa and Gramma could NOT get enough of DS and DNephew and they wanted to hold them all the time. The picture I have is of DS on Grampa's lap, with DS looking up and Grampa looking down.

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[Boston Tea Party]

I wouldn't take a 2 year old to a funeral.

Best of luck whatever you decide.

 

[Disney Doll]

Dark pants, white shirt, clip-on tie would be fine. Be prepared for him not to keep it on too long though...he's two!!!! I'd also have a plan B for the fiuneral, in case he gets "antsy".

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Well, BTP, that's your opinion and I respect your right to think that.

If he or Ittybitty (Dnephew who will also be there) get antsy, I'm sure somebody (probably me and DBIL) will be able to take them out to the lobby or whatever.

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[kmebee]

First, I'm sorry for your family's loss. The shirt and pants will be fine. I wouldn't even go for the tie personally. You could maybe even go for just a polo type shirt, not a button down, but that depends on your preference. I know my DN was just 3 when his grandpa passed away and he behaved very well. Alot of questions but his behavior was much better than anyone anticipated. I think sometimes they know things are quite "right" and they better not get out of hand.

 

[Keli]

I am sorry for your family's loss.

I would either buy him a little suit or I would get him some dark pants, button down shirt and a vest of some sort. A little knit one would be cute. Plus he could wear something like that at other times when you want him to look nice but not as dressy as a suit.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Well, from what I understand it's going to be a VERY traditional Catholic funeral, whatever that means. I'm not Catholic, so I don't quite understand what that entails.

Last night, the ILs took DH, DS and I out and insisted on buying DH's outfit. He got a new black sport coat, new shirt,pants,belt, shoes and tie to go with the outfit. DS got new shoes and I think MIL went to Target or WalMart after we left to get DS an appropriate outfit, but I'm not sure what that would be. I haven't seen it, though.

Although I have an appropriate outfit already (black sleevless dress, knee length) and only had to buy new shoes, DMIL tried to get me into a pair of heels which I would not have at all. I don't wear heels often and I usually feel pretty uncomfortable in them. DMIL was satisfied when I found a nice pair of black leather ballet-style flats instead.

Because everybody is flying in this weekend, the funeral has been put off until Monday so that everyone can pay their respects, etc. The entire clan (except for one brother who has sort of divorced himself from the family for reasons I'm not sure of)will be there with spouses, kids, the whole shebang. It'll be quite an interesting trip, that's for certain.

TOV