Oversharing on Facebook

[NewRVLady]

Dating oversharing......

if you JUST started dating someone-and you are older -late 20's-30's...would you want a pic of each date posted on his Facebook?
And when you broke up-would you want him to post a big "I'm SINGLE" folks...and have all his friends offer sympathy?
(it lasted 2 months)

My newly married son never posted a pic of girlfriends in his 20's on Facebook....and his wife-I think when they were dating a year he might have put the first pic at A Dave Mathews picnic type concert.

 

[katie01]

No, I wouldn't. I don't even think I'd be comfortable with the "in a relationship" status unless we were pretty much engaged, too much attention and drama if the relationship doesn't work out and you have to change the status back to "single". Glad we didn't have Facebook back when I was dating

 

[BadPinkTink]

that would be one of the first topics of conversations right on the very first date. Are you both comfortable sharing photos of each other on dates on Facebook. Its the nature of social media, some people are very comfortable and post alot of selfies , some dont.

@NewRVLady just because YOUR son didnt, does not mean that others should not.

 

[Mizzoufan]

Dating oversharing......

if you JUST started dating someone-and you are older -late 20's-30's...would you want a pic of each date posted on his Facebook?
And when you broke up-would you want him to post a big "I'm SINGLE" folks...and have all his friends offer sympathy?
(it lasted 2 months)

My newly married son never posted a pic of girlfriends in his 20's on Facebook....and his wife-I think when they were dating a year he might have put the first pic at A Dave Mathews picnic type concert.

What your son did or didn't do shouldn't be the measuring stick for what others do or don't do

 

[BadPinkTink]

@NewRVLady people use Facebook for different reasons. Some have alot of family and real life friends, some have work colleagues and associates. You cant just assume the content you post on Facebook is the content everyone should post on Facebook.

The same with the relationship status. This actually has to be actioned by BOTH people. John can change his relationship status to IN A RELATIONSHIP with Jane, but it wont actually activate and show up in peoples newsfeed until Jane approves it. Therefore BOTH people in the relationship have to agree to be Facebook Public about their relationship!

 

[ronandannette]

Just a guess, but I think people in that age group are the stereotypical demographic for FB and have come of age "laying it all out there". It's mystifying to me, but I'd imagine the people you're talking about (if they are real and this isn't a hypothetical) are pretty comfortable with it.

 

[cabanafrau]

I think it's silly personally and IMO points to what I think is an epidemic of people living their lives with the attitude of a 24 hours news channel, always looking for content to fill the airwaves.

I've been pretty impressed my 17 year old has kept to her original plan of not changing her fb status, despite being in a relationship with her first real boyfriend for a year and a half plus. I do wonder sometimes if he is bothered by her insistence at keeping it offline. She does post photos of them on a pretty regular basis, so it's not as if it's top secret, but she's insistent that the people who know them already know their status.

 

[BadPinkTink]

Just a guess, but I think people in that age group are the stereotypical demographic for FB and have come of age "laying it all out there". It's mystifying to me, but I'd imagine the people you're talking about (if they are real and this isn't a hypothetical) are pretty comfortable with it.

EXACTLY, different demographics of people use Facebook in different ways and post different types of content. The type of content posted on Facebook is an individual choice.

 

[cabanafrau]

Now that I think about it, DH's fb would likely say single since I don't do fb. Is it wrong that makes me crack up?

 

[msjprincess]

Well DH and I were married less than a year after we started dating. So if FB existed back then we probably would mention it.

 

[tvguy]

I've never seen much date photo postings on Facebook. People who are in their late 20s to early 30s are too busy posting pictures of what they ate to take pictures of their date.

 

[TipsyTraveler]

I've never seen much date photo postings on Facebook. People who are in their late 20s to early 30s are too busy posting pictures of what they ate to take pictures of their date.

Sometimes the food is better looking.

 

[NewRVLady]

He overshares a lot
His 'I am now Single' post was long and sounded too needy to me, just not something a grown man should put all over the Internet IMO

 

[BadPinkTink]

He overshares a lot
His 'I am now Single' post was long and sounded too needy to me, just not something a grown man should put all over the Internet IMO

thats maybe just his style of posting, so what if he over shares, if you dont like what he posts, simple solution, UNFRIEND him. You have no right to tell someone what they can and can not post on Facebook. Its his page, his personal space. Some people use Facebook like a diary, so what??

 

[powellrj]

My DS doesn't post pictures of him with his girlfriend, but she has posted a few of them together when they go someplace. Not very many maybe 2 or 3 a month.

 

[NewRVLady]

thats maybe just his style of posting, so what if he over shares, if you dont like what he posts, simple solution, UNFRIEND him. You have no right to tell someone what they can and can not post on Facebook. Its his page, his personal space. Some people use Facebook like a diary, so what??

Wow- I never said I was going to say anything- chill
I just don't get telling the world the minute you break up with someone - espy since it just started ( shrug)

 

[BadPinkTink]

Wow- I never said I was going to say anything- chill
I just don't get telling the world the minute you break up with someone - espy since it just started ( shrug)

exactly YOU dont get it, YOU dont think a grown man should posting like that... just unfriend him, problem solved, you wont have to see his over sharing and get so annoyed you come to DIS to complain

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Wow! There's all kinds of intense feelings bouncing around on this thread.

 

[NewRVLady]

LOL
I must have struck a nerve

BTW- I didn't think I posted anything objectionable

 

[BadPinkTink]

LOL
I must have struck a nerve

not really, I am just very open minded about what people post on Facebook. Maybe I am just a different generation, I am someone who is online all the time, Facebook and Twitter both professionally and personally. I know that what I post is not what others post, also what others post I would never post.

If what someone posts bothers me that much I just unfriend people and move on.

Whats over sharing to some is not over sharing to others. We are all different, just deal with it and move on