Oversharing on Facebook

[sonnyjane]

Now that I think about it, DH's fb would likely say single since I don't do fb. Is it wrong that makes me crack up?

You don't have to. My DH doesn't have an account but I still say "married", I just can't say who I'm married to.

 

[havaneselover]

I dated a guy (in my late 30s) who overshared about our relationship. I use Facebook to see cute photos of people's kids. It made me very uncomfortable. I told him I was a very private person and didn't use Facebook the way he did but he never caught on. Obviously this was one symptom of a generally unhealthy relationship. I sort of agree if both parties are okay with it, then it's okay. But I would probably unfollow anyone like this.

 

[Allons-y!]

As long as both sides are comfortable sharing the photos, why would anyone else care? There are plenty of people I'm friends with but don't follow because they post stuff I don't care about. It doesn't make me think any less of them, it's just not something I'm interested in.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

My boyfriend and I had been dating for about 2-3 months before I started posting pictures of us for my friends to see. They had all met him in real life so everyone knew we were together. It was probably 6-7 months before we changed our relationship status to "in a relationship."

This worked for us both but I have friends that don't post information like that at all and I have friends that start posting the second they start dating someone. It just depends on what you're comfortable putting out there. As long as both parties are in agreement I see nothing wrong with either method.

 

[Dentam]

I've never seen much date photo postings on Facebook. People who are in their late 20s to early 30s are too busy posting pictures of what they ate to take pictures of their date.

Maybe steer away from stereotyping an entire age group. I don't think I've ever posted photos of what I eat - not that I have a problem with those who do. People are so quick to judge others.

OP, if you don't like what others are posting just block them from your newsfeed. Problem solved.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

What exactly did you expect him to do? Continue to say he is in a relationship when he is not?

He overshares a lot
His 'I am now Single' post was long and sounded too needy to me, just not something a grown man should put all over the Internet IMO

 

[MickeySP]

Ok now it's beginning to sound like Facebook

I'm changing my status to "It's complicated"

 

[shoney]

I don't post much on FB. My kids are teens and want no part of being on there.
I do love me some food porn though!

I think as long as both people are ok with the early dating posts, I don't see anything wrong with it. There is probably some 20 something girl out there complaining that her boyfriend of 2 weeks hasn't changed his status or posted a pic. Can't please everyone.

To me this scenario is "over-sharing lite" some people really put it ALL out there. 40 something's getting a divorce can be quite entertaining!

 

[design_mom]

To me this scenario is "over-sharing lite" some people really put it ALL out there. 40 something's getting a divorce can be quite entertaining!

I was thinking the same thing. I have several Facebook friends who went through nasty break-ups -- live on Facebook. Talk about oversharing! They put *all* the dirty laundry out there. And they were all in their 40s.

I am not sure I would be comfortable with that much info about *my* new relationship being out there, but as long as both parties who are involved are OK with it, then I don't see the problem. I mean, it sounds like they're publicizing which restaurants they went to or which movies they saw, right? -- along with photos of them looking lovingly into each other's eyes? Its not like they're sharing bedroom preferences/photos.

 

[usnuzuloose]

MHO, is this man does not respect any woman to not do that. I mean all he had to say was we are no longer seeing each other and leave it at that. I don't have a fb account anymore. I just did not like seeing what people were posting and seeing on the wall of the page. I had it actually just for a news feed only.

 

[NewRVLady]

What exactly did you expect him to do? Continue to say he is in a relationship when he is not?

He never had "in a Relationship" as his status
Just pictures every Fri-Sat-Sun

Just go on with your life...post other stuff....would anyone like to read the LONG drawn out multi sentence speech he wrote?
even thanked her for dating him for two months....

 

[tvguy]

Maybe steer away from stereotyping an entire age group. I don't think I've ever posted photos of what I eat - not that I have a problem with those who do. People are so quick to judge others.

OP, if you don't like what others are posting just block them from your newsfeed. Problem solved.

LOL, not a generalization, an observation. What is it with under 30s and posting food? Mind you, many Police and Fire Departments and Public Agencies now post their press releases on Facebook (and Twitter) so I spend 40 hours a week on Facebook at work. Way more time that I would like to, but I AM getting paid to do it.

 

[low-key]

I like everything I do to be a big secrete

 

[Dentam]

What is it with under 30s and posting food?

I wouldn't know - haven't noticed this trend in my fb newsfeed. I do love reading dining reports here though! Wish my fb feed had more good food pics!

 

[Shutterbug]

I like everything I do to be a big secrete

I dont want to see pics of what you "secrete" either

 

[Julie's Haircut]

I've never seen much date photo postings on Facebook. People who are in their late 20s to early 30s are too busy posting pictures of what they ate to take pictures of their date.

If you want to get grossed out, go over to the dining board of the DIS and see some of the photos of disgusting Disney food some people are raving about.


I've been married over 3 years now and I think my FB status still says "in a relationship."

 

[CF'er]

From my FB wall (NOT my post)...You don't bring your mistress to your home and let her share you and your wifes bed that you had together for 29 years especially when you are still legally married.

This is not the first of these type posts from this person and I dare say it won't be the last. I cringe when I see them. I know she is hurting but I think these posts reflect badly on her as well. IMO (They are separated. She moved out. He pays her temp support. Still is an ugly goings on.)

 

[jdb in AZ]

Who needs soap operas on t.v. when we have Facebook and its quirky family dramas.

a) Niece (30-ish) who posts selfies every time she changes her hair color or gets a new manicure. Totally enthralled with her new silver hair. I really don't need to see her 6-yr-old DD' new streak of purple hair, complete with the kiddo sucking her thumb.

b) Niece in her mid-20's continually posting selfies. Not action pictures of her doing anything of interest, just posing for her camera phone.

c) Young mom in her mid-30's is a beach body coach and keeps posting videos of herself working out. Good for her, especially since she's lost 20 lbs but she's still over 225 lbs (and even posts her exact weight on Facebook.) I don't want to see her jiggling her way through her exercises.

d) Another niece in her late 30's selling skin care products (another multi-level marketing ploy) It's one ad after another. Often using her homely DD as a model.

e) Bro-in-law spewing red-neck political garbage. Since we have different political views, I blocked his feed and just scroll through it occasionally, looking to see if he posted something worthwhile.

f) Relative who posts religious quotes. Constantly. I try to cut her some slack because she's recently been diagnosed with early Alzheimers, but when she posts half a dozen religious pics/prose every day it does get tiresome. I finally blocked her feed too.

g) Relatives who go overboard with their sports fanatic posts. Part of my being annoyed is because they're cheering for the wrong teams.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I get that some people are too dramatic or whiny on facebook--which usually results in me rolling my eyes and moving on. Many probably "shouldn't" post those things, not because I care but because they are just making their own lives harder in the end---but oh well.

The one thing I really think people should not post on facebook are graphic photos. It is easier enough to start reading a post, realize you are not interested and scroll on; it is much harder to unsee a photo you were not expecting to pop up in your timeline. I have hidden a couple of people from my timeline who took to posting lots of photos of animal abuse or abortion---and that is too bad because in each case the person also posted lots of other things I was interested in and now I don't really see any of it.

 

[Daniel Kilkenny]

I were married less than a year after we started dating.