Overreaction or Innocent?

[snarlingcoyote]

Good Lord...Asking what you want to drink is now a passionate affair?
I've been around the block then....

Does that mean that custom at my old job that if you wanted me to stay late (without pay) to approve portions of your project you brought me a Venti Light Coffee Frappachino with no whipped mean that I'm easy?

 

[disykat]

Really? I guess everyone's different. My DH and I have some mutual friends, but most are our own friends. I have guy friends that my husband hasn't met (now, granted, I work in theatre, so most are gay, but not all.) He sometimes goes out to dinner with work friends, and since he's the music teacher at an elementary school, most of those work friends are going to be women. I don't know any of them, and that doesn't bother me. Why should it? I text a lot of my friends - sometimes important things, sometimes silly things. Again, should it matter?

I guess everyone's relationship is different. I'm turned off my jealousy more than anything else. It's the reason I dumped my boyfriend that I had before I met my husband. My first reaction to a husband from the original post, would be not to have married someone like that and if I had, take the hard road to divorce.

You apparently know about his friends. I assume he knows about yours.

THAT's the issue here. The husband apparently didn't know his wife was sharing meals with someone. Although I think the text sounded perfectly innocent, I would find the notion that spouses are keeping realtionships - innocent friendships included - a secret bothersome.

As for the texting. Yes, if it was the first time someone had casually picked up a meal for me I would have responded differently than in the OP. This did not sound like the first time they've done this, which could lead a spouse to wonder why he wasn't aware of this - especially since it could save him the effort of making breakfast.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

You apparently know about his friends. I assume he knows about yours.

THAT's the issue here. The husband apparently didn't know his wife was sharing meals with someone. Although I think the text sounded perfectly innocent, I would find the notion that spouses are keeping realtionships - innocent friendships included - a secret bothersome.

As for the texting. Yes, if it was the first time someone had casually picked up a meal for me I would have responded differently than in the OP. This did not sound like the first time they've done this, which could lead a spouse to wonder why he wasn't aware of this - especially since it could save him the effort of making breakfast.

Plausible Situation #1 What if the wife despises what he makes her for breakfast, but thinks that his going to the effort is really sweet? So she dumps it in the garbage on the way in. He gets to feel good about making her breakfast and she doesn't have to eat it.

Plausible Situation #2 Husband is a know-it-all control freak and makes his wife the breakfast he wants her to have, not the breakfast she really likes. So, a co-worker brings her breakfast and she gets what she wants to eat and he gets to think he's controlling her.

Plausible Situation #3 Co-worker is a nice, well-meaning sort who over-does and has to feed people. Wife has figured out it's just easier to go along and let him bring her breakfast and eat what her husband made her later. In the grander scheme of things, it's never been worth having a discussion with her husband about.

 

[merryweather20]

You apparently know about his friends. I assume he knows about yours.

THAT's the issue here. The husband apparently didn't know his wife was sharing meals with someone. Although I think the text sounded perfectly innocent, I would find the notion that spouses are keeping realtionships - innocent friendships included - a secret bothersome.

As for the texting. Yes, if it was the first time someone had casually picked up a meal for me I would have responded differently than in the OP. This did not sound like the first time they've done this, which could lead a spouse to wonder why he wasn't aware of this - especially since it could save him the effort of making breakfast.

Theyre is no indication that they are sharing a meal. I can't see how you interpret this as anything other than co-worker A buying a box of muffins or pastries and some beverages and plunking them on a communual surface, everyone grabs and heads back to their work space.

A croissant or doughnut can be nice on a day you want to splurge, but it doesn't count as news, and it doesn't count ad a healthy breakfast either. There is nothing wrong with a woman not telling her husband they occasionally have muffins at the office, and sometimes she has one, and sometimes she doesn't

 

[mdsoccermom]

You apparently know about his friends. I assume he knows about yours.

THAT's the issue here. The husband apparently didn't know his wife was sharing meals with someone. Although I think the text sounded perfectly innocent, I would find the notion that spouses are keeping realtionships - innocent friendships included - a secret bothersome.

As for the texting. Yes, if it was the first time someone had casually picked up a meal for me I would have responded differently than in the OP. This did not sound like the first time they've done this, which could lead a spouse to wonder why he wasn't aware of this - especially since it could save him the effort of making breakfast.

Sharing meals with someone? Good grief. For all we know, someone could have been bringing in bagels for the entire office. Frankly, that's not information I really would have felt the need to ever tell my husband. Just like I never felt the need to tell him when we had a potluck, ordered in pizza, etc.

And maybe she didn't feel the need to say anything because she was still planning to eat the breakfast her husband made her.

 

[myheartlivesatwdw]

BFD. If it read "Hey sweetcheeks. I thought about you all last night. What can I get my hot mama to drink this morning?" that would be upsetting.

That would not be upsetting , that would be hysterical.My drink selection would be hampered as I wouldn't be able to read that texts thru my tears of laughter.

I bring my co workers stuff in all the time so I dont think its a big deal.

It's a big deal. Shameful.

 

[snowy76]

Agree with Mrs. Charming: BFD!

Where I work, co-workers often grab stuff on the way in for others. Even if someone had b'fast from home, I think it would be the polite thing to do to ask that person if they want anything - not just assume that I can leave them out. No, Sue, I got coffee for all 10 other people on our floor... just not YOU.

Or if I run out on my lunch, I usually ask the folks in my area if they want me to grab anything -- to eat or drink, that is.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Actually I think the answer is quite clear.

Co worker said I am bringing in breakfast...WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DRINK?

She replied. SWEET TEA OR LEMONADE.

She didn't ask for breakfast. Maybe the co worker knows that the husband packs her breakfast and was just being nice and bringing in a drink for her.

I don't see any reason for any alarm.

Exactly. One of my coworkers stops at Dunkin Donuts almost every day. If I'm running late, I'll text her and ask her to get me a drink - not a whole meal. The coworker seems to know this woman brings breakfast daily, and as Mickeyistheman states, is merely offering to pick her up a beverage.

Just a considerate coworker, and the husband is overreacting. And why is he reading her text messages, anyway? And then calling a radio station??? Really?

 

[kaytieeldr]

You apparently know about his friends. I assume he knows about yours.

THAT's the issue here. The husband apparently didn't know his wife was sharing meals with someone. Although I think the text sounded perfectly innocent, I would find the notion that spouses are keeping realtionships - innocent friendships included - a secret bothersome.

As for the texting. Yes, if it was the first time someone had casually picked up a meal for me I would have responded differently than in the OP. This did not sound like the first time they've done this, which could lead a spouse to wonder why he wasn't aware of this - especially since it could save him the effort of making breakfast.

It doesn't mean anyone is sharing meals with anyone. It SIMPLY means someone from a place of employment is stopping at a location that sells prepared food to pick some up for their own dining pleasure and, out of courtesy, texted one or more coworkers to ask if they wanted him to pick them up a drink while he was there.

It doesn't even mean they have TIME to eat breakfast together during work. Most people, barring company policy, eat breakfast at their workstations while working.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Are sweet tea or lemonade now codes words for something I don't know about? Otherwise, I don't get it.

Should I put those words into an anagram descrambler and see if we come up with anything provocative?

Lousy grammar, but I came up with
"want see model tee"
"sweet model eaten"
"elate sweet demon"
"woman deletes tee"

 

[EclecticWAHM]

It doesn't mean anyone is sharing meals with anyone. It SIMPLY means someone from a place of employment is stopping at a location that sells prepared food to pick some up for their own dining pleasure and, out of courtesy, texted one or more coworkers to ask if they wanted him to pick them up a drink while he was there.

It doesn't even mean they have TIME to eat breakfast together during work. Most people, barring company policy, eat breakfast at their workstations while working.

Right. And really, what's the big deal about sharing a meal anyway? I certainly don't expect dh to report to me every time he shares a meal with someone. Just because something hasn't been mentioned or brought up doesn't mean that someone is keeping secrets either. Sharing meals with coworkers certainly isn't anything out of the ordinary - I wouldn't even think to mention it to my husband if I had lunch or breakfast with a coworker.

 

[Tinijocaro]

"Hey baby, I can't wait to see you today. I heard that bathroom is still supposed to be out of order " would indicate someone is having an affair at the office.

I don't get this-someone please explain. Bathroom not working means an affair??

 

[Miz Diz]

I don't get this-someone please explain. Bathroom not working means an affair??

As in a rendezvous in the not working bathroom stall.

 

[mdsoccermom]

Right. And really, what's the big deal about sharing a meal anyway? I certainly don't expect dh to report to me every time he shares a meal with someone. Just because something hasn't been mentioned or brought up doesn't mean that someone is keeping secrets either. Sharing meals with coworkers certainly isn't anything out of the ordinary - I wouldn't even think to mention it to my husband if I had lunch or breakfast with a coworker.

Yep. Like I said earlier, I don't think I ever shared with my husband when someone brought in food to work. And furthermore, I don't think I ever mentioned when I went out to lunch with someone. It just was never relevant to anything.

However, the one thing I've learned on the DIS, is that if you don't not tell your spouse every bit of minutiae of the day, you are keeping secrets from them and untrustworthy.

 

[Allison]

It doesn't mean anyone is sharing meals with anyone. It SIMPLY means someone from a place of employment is stopping at a location that sells prepared food to pick some up for their own dining pleasure and, out of courtesy, texted one or more coworkers to ask if they wanted him to pick them up a drink while he was there.

It doesn't even mean they have TIME to eat breakfast together during work. Most people, barring company policy, eat breakfast at their workstations while working.

Exactly.

Man, I am a bad wife. One day I texted a coworker asking them if they could stop by McDonald's and pick me up a drink on the way to work. I didn't even tell my DH about it.

I like living on the edge.

 

[Allison]

Sweet Tea means... SWEET THANG
lemonade means.... SQUEEZE ME SUGAR

Isn't this obvious to everyone else!

See I knew there was a secret code involved.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Exactly.

Man, I am a bad wife. One day I texted a coworker asking them if they could stop by McDonald's and pick me up a drink on the way to work. I didn't even tell my DH about it.

I like living on the edge.

Imagine what your co-worker must have thought!

 

[Liberty Belle]

Sweet Tea means... SWEET THANG
lemonade means.... SQUEEZE ME SUGAR

Isn't this obvious to everyone else!

See, I was thinking Sweet Tea meant "pour some sugar on me, baby" and Lemonade meant "pucker up and get ready", but I've never been very good at flirting.

 

[cm8]

See, I was thinking Sweet Tea meant "pour some sugar on me, baby" and Lemonade meant "pucker up and get ready", but I've never been very good at flirting.

, You seem to be doing fine here