Our trip week is ruined by the inlaws : (

[ilandrazdsw]

thanks everyone for your support! We are driving so we can't come back the day before the wedding. Plus I'm not sure when the rehearsal is and my daughter would need to be there for that. I found out my husband's cousin was also going that week and has to cancel for the wedding. I guess it also bothers me because the wedding was set for another day and they recently changed. We are now looking at going maybe the last week of August. I think week of 8/30 before school starts since Labor Day is late this year. I imagine though its still pretty crowded and awful hot? Then we are thinking of maybe taking her out for all 5 days in October sometime. My birthday is in October so then I could take advantage of the free on your birthday!

Double check school start dates many schools begin the second week of August.

 

[katie111]

I understand that you are bummed, but they changed the date and still gave everyone over a year's notice about the change in date. Most people I know aren't even engaged for that long! I agree with the other posters that stated that he will only get married once and he asked your DD to be in it so they must be pretty close to you and your DH. Believe me, your DD will love being in the wedding. My DD was in one at age 3 and she still talks about it. See if you can find a week with even one day off and go that week. They really don't miss all that much in one week. My DD missed 2 weeks and a couple days of school last year for trips to Mexico, St John, and Disney and her teacher did not complain at all about it. She is also one of the youngest in her class but even her teacher said she came back with so much knowledge about what she had seen & done that it was worth it. I just spoke to her first grade teacher today about a possible trip in the spring where she'll miss a week of school and her response was that it would give my DD some great new ideas for her writer's workshop as she loves to write about our vacations. I would just book a different week next year and then talk with your DD"s teacher right when school starts. I definitely would not miss the wedding just for a trip that hasn't even been booked yet.

 

[justtobeme2]

Go to the wedding, family is MUCH more important than a vacation...and.. he's a blood realtive of your husband's. Not like Disney isn't open 365 days a year.

 

[lila]

I would definitely attend the wedding in this scenario.

 

[Calla]

Edited, missed your second response before writing.

 

[toesmom]

I think you need to change your heading. It's not in-laws causing the problem, it's some flakey bride.


Women.

 

[DawnM]

I don't see how changing the date an ENTIRE YEAR prior to the wedding is being flakey! There could be all sorts of reasons for why she changed, but one year in advance does not make one flakey.

I really think you need to attend the wedding. This is a whole year in advance. You can work around it.

Dawn

I think you need to change your heading. It's not in-laws causing the problem, it's some flakey bride.


Women.

 

[Allison]

I don't see how changing the date an ENTIRE YEAR prior to the wedding is being flakey! There could be all sorts of reasons for why she changed, but one year in advance does not make one flakey.

I really think you need to attend the wedding. This is a whole year in advance. You can work around it.

Dawn

I agree. It's a year ahead of time not a month.



I'm sure the OP is bummed. I can understand but the trip is not ruined by inlaws. There is a year to plan something else. Plans change.

 

[TommyTutone]

While I agree that changing the wedding date is hardly flaky, I will add on that you should just blow off the wedding. If you want the Disney trip for your family (and not just for yourself), they come first. This might be different if it was your husband's brother, or if his mother was to get remarried, but nephew? Meh.

 

[Laurabearz]

Your DD will have other days off from school. Your nephew will only (hopefully) have 1 wedding. Tehy didn't set out t ruin your plans, so don't take it that way. Go to the wedding and enjoy their day and go to WDW another time.

Right, this isnt a personal attack against you.

thanks everyone for your support! We are driving so we can't come back the day before the wedding. Plus I'm not sure when the rehearsal is and my daughter would need to be there for that. I found out my husband's cousin was also going that week and has to cancel for the wedding. I guess it also bothers me because the wedding was set for another day and they recently changed. We are now looking at going maybe the last week of August. I think week of 8/30 before school starts since Labor Day is late this year. I imagine though its still pretty crowded and awful hot? Then we are thinking of maybe taking her out for all 5 days in October sometime. My birthday is in October so then I could take advantage of the free on your birthday!

It's a year away.. give them a break. And October is a wonderful time to be at WDW.

 

[mjkacmom]

I can't believe anyone would suggest missing this wedding, with so much notice, to go to WDW during the off-season. I would take a lot for me to consider missing my nieces or nephews weddings. Go in October - crowds are low, weather is beautiful, and review work is going on in school. I know you are worried about your dd falling behind, but it's only first grade, and you have so much time in the car to be reviewing with her! When I took dd out last year, first grade, her teacher didn't even give her make-up work.

 

[Allison]

While I agree that changing the wedding date is hardly flaky, I will add on that you should just blow off the wedding. If you want the Disney trip for your family (and not just for yourself), they come first. This might be different if it was your husband's brother, or if his mother was to get remarried, but nephew? Meh.

I have the opposite view. I would attend because it is a nephew. I cannot imagine missing the wedding of my sibling's child because of Disney. Nieces and nephews are very important in my family. They are my sister's children. That's not a small thing.

 

[mjantz]

While I agree that changing the wedding date is hardly flaky, I will add on that you should just blow off the wedding. If you want the Disney trip for your family (and not just for yourself), they come first. This might be different if it was your husband's brother, or if his mother was to get remarried, but nephew? Meh.

I'm incredibly close to my nieces & it would take a lot for me to miss their weddings. A scheduled vacation wouldn't cut it.

 

[crisi]

August isn't bad. End of August has low crowds - probably lower than you'll get over Jersey week. Yes, its hot, but its hot mid day - and you have a baby - most summer travellers just make sure to build in nap/pool time. Get to the park at opening, get out right after lunch. Go back in the evening. Spend the hot hours in the room or in the pool. Understand where the good spots are for hot times (air conditioned attractions), have a good touring plan, drink lots of water.

I'd have the kids miss school before I'd miss a nephews wedding - so if the heat scares you, reschedule your trip for another time when you get a few days off. We get two days off in October, and so pull the kids for three to get a whole week. Its incredibly common here to do that over that week in the elementary schools (by middle school its less common) - and so the whole week worth of school is set up assuming that there will be a lot of absent kids - they never cover anything important that week.

 

[minnie1012]

We are definetely going to the wedding. I am looking foward to my daughter being in it as well. It just seems like my husband's family always puts a damper on something even if like in this case it wasn't anyone's fault.

They changed the wedding because the bride wanted a fancy reception hall. That hall was only available on a Friday in November. So now the wedding is in Philadelphia instead of NJ. Anyway, I am still hoping all works out. My luck we will plan for October and miss the shower! If we are already booked and I find out the shower is for when we are away that I will miss!

 

[sha_lyn]

I can't believe anyone would suggest missing this wedding, with so much notice, to go to WDW during the off-season. I would take a lot for me to consider missing my nieces or nephews weddings. Go in October - crowds are low, weather is beautiful, and review work is going on in school. I know you are worried about your dd falling behind, but it's only first grade, and you have so much time in the car to be reviewing with her! When I took dd out last year, first grade, her teacher didn't even give her make-up work.

ITA...I can't believe the posts suggesting to blow of the wedding. IMHO priorities are messed up if a trip to WDW is more important that attending the once in a life time event of a family member. WDW will always be there

 

[Minniemouse07]

ITA...I can't believe the posts suggesting to blow of the wedding. IMHO priorities are messed up if a trip to WDW is more important that attending the once in a life time event of a family member. WDW will always be there

Some people aren't as close to family members as others are.

If I had arranged my family's vacation time around the wedding of a sibling's child and THEN had them move it to when we would be away...then yes I would consider not going to the wedding.

I wouldn't plan our vacation during the wedding if I knew ahead of time...but if it was scheduled around the wedding and their dates changed...that is another story.

Please don't judge others based upon your family dynamics... everyone's family dynamic is different.

 

[Allison]

We are definetely going to the wedding. I am looking foward to my daughter being in it as well. It just seems like my husband's family always puts a damper on something even if like in this case it wasn't anyone's fault.

They changed the wedding because the bride wanted a fancy reception hall. That hall was only available on a Friday in November. So now the wedding is in Philadelphia instead of NJ. Anyway, I am still hoping all works out. My luck we will plan for October and miss the shower! If we are already booked and I find out the shower is for when we are away that I will miss!

I wouldn't worry about the shower. It's the wedding that is the important thing.

I hope your daughter has fun being in the wedding.

 

[surfgirl]

Just going to throw something out there... you are very concerned about your dd missing school. imho, missing school in 1st grade is incredibly a non-event. Unless you have a teacher or principal that is very against vacations, most are supportive and would encourage you to do it. (most believe family time is important and the children learn alot)

You seem concerned about your dd and the fact that she made the cutoff by hours. This, to me, is a bigger issue that I would pay attention to now. Is she doing okay in K ? Is she behind ? Very importantly (!!), how is she doing socially ? Don't let her young age be an excuse to not do something. Make sure she is in the right class now b/c to hold her back at a later date may be perceived as a stigma, but no one knows when they are young.

You've been given some incredibly creative ideas. Don't let your annoyance over the fact that they moved their date a year in advance get in the way. Think about how you can make this a positive thing and get to do both!

 

[sha_lyn]

Some people aren't as close to family members as others are.

If I had arranged my family's vacation time around the wedding of a sibling's child and THEN had them move it to when we would be away...then yes I would consider not going to the wedding.

I wouldn't plan our vacation during the wedding if I knew ahead of time...but if it was scheduled around the wedding and their dates changed...that is another story.

Please don't judge others based upon your family dynamics... everyone's family dynamic is different.

The OP/her family is apparently close to the nephew. As the OP has said, her DD was asked to be in the wedding and her DD is excited about being in the wedding. I didn't base anything on my family dynamics, I was basing it on the posts by the OP. It appears you are the one basing it on your family dynamics.