Our "Trip of a Lifetime!" (I mean "A Fat Girl's Vacation!") AKL from 1/07-1/16

[bobcat]

Oh my belly hurts from laughing at your booger dance!!!! My kids are just looking at my strangly and telling em to snap out of it!

 

[snazzytoes88]

I so enjoyed your trip report... even though I was pretty mad at your boyfriend for saying such hurtful things to you. I like your sense of humor, and you obviously are intelligent and warm.

the mean message from that nelly kelly creature is pure,ignorant evil... so i hope you can consider the source - for goodness' sake, she can't even spell "their" right!! here you are baring your soul to us and someone has to kick you when you're down.

Please keep on writing for us! I hope you find happiness in a relationship (with Steve, if he can change his attidue toward women, or with someone who is already grown up).

you really deserve to be accepted and loved for who you actually are, not someone else's fantasy of who he should be with.

thanks again for sharing..

snazzytoes88@yahoo.com

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

mega13, been there done that and I ain't a going back no more, no more. You know the rest of that song?? (Hit the road Jack)

My first husband told me often of my many failings and being fat was one of many. If the house was not clean enough, he checked corners, I was not allowed the privilege of going out with him on payday and on and on. Lori, was exactly right when she said it is their insecurites that make them try to tear others down. Is sad, but true and needing to look at porn would be a symptom, if he is over the age of 20 something at least. Needing is the operative word IMHO. BTW, I weighed a whole 160 pounds when I was married the first time and my attitude toward myself was so bad that I would never have had the good sense to see it was his problem and not mine as you have. You are way ahead of the game girl friend!!

I am fatter than ever but being fat is such a small part of what anyone is and it is all relative anyway. I would give anything to weigh what you do.

Love makes someone feel good not bad. Who knows maybe your friend will learn and grow and catch up with you one of these days.

Weird is good, normal is highly overated. I like weird. LOL It is not so much where you go and what you do but who you do it with. I am sorry that your vacation was not quite the perfect one that you envisioned but you may just have come away with something even better, insight.

Gotta run there is a feller here who wants a big old fluffy hug from his grandma. LOL

SG/Linda

 

[jennymouse]

I just had to throw my 2 cents in

I've found that those who put-down others are trying to take the attention away from their own insecurities. He's telling you that you're fat and unattractive in attempt to destroy your self esteem so you'll think you can't get any better than him (and that you don't deserve any better). And it sounds like he's being successful at his little game. He's just putting you down to elevate himself...it makes him feel like he's better than you. It's a control thing and it's very destructive behavior and all too common.

No person should talk to you that way, especially someone who "loves and cares" about you. Please respect yourself and make good decisions about who is worthy of your company.

You look lovely and you are obviously quite talented. I hope you return to Disney again soon and have the most magical vacation ever.

Loved your report! Wonderful gift of writing you have. Lori of the Lodge is dead on here. Steve had to do something to take the heat off himself for his porn habit. And listen to me, you probably don't even know a third of what he does. Glad to hear you're getting your own place, you can do much better than that jerk. I'm sorry but he ticked me off. In my oppinion you're not fat either, you're fluffy and adorable inside and out.

Put Jelly Nelly on your ignore list, I don't know why the moderators haven't given him/her the boot yet. Obviously a kid troll.

 

[JoiseyMom]

Great trip report! I agree with the others where Steve is concerned. You are making the right move. I have been overweight all my life, and have never had problems finding guys who love me for me! The right guy is out there just waiting for you. My DH and I have problems, but not over weight. Good luck with your move, and hopefully you two can still stay friends, if you want to that is.

I hope your next trip to Disney is WONDERFUL. Best of luck!!

 

[d.daniels]

I REALLY ENJOYED THE TRIP REPORT. THE PICTURES WERE GREAT. I AM GLAD YOU SPOKE UP TO THEM KIDS, I WISH MORE PEOPLE WOULD. THANKS AGAIN FOR SHARING!!

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

What a wonderful report! I felt so awful when I read the things your b/f said to you. I know how that feels because I've been struggling with my weight for pretty much my whole life. It's not easy but you're a beautiful woman and hopefully Steve will realize what a great person you are and how lovely you are not just on the inside but the outside too! You're absolutely hilarious and I truly enjoyed reading your trip report. Keep your chin up and don't let anyone get you down. You're awesome! And I hope to read more reports from you in the future

 

[Leigha]

Congratulations! You wanted to write a great trip report and you did! I felt every emotion right there with you except where Steve is concerned and I wanted to kick him out way before you did! You are dating (or were) and logically on your way to get married - for life - for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. He is not husband material and as you stated yourself, with friends like that, who needs enemies! I'm having a hard time believing anyone who would say things like that and hurt you like that was ever worthy of your time and attention. Please don't ever go back or even look back. I also hate to be rude, but if he's looking for perfection - has he looked in the mirror?? He's no Brad Pitt. People who care about you will like you for who and what you are. No strings attached. Anyone less isn't worth your time. It is a lesson my daughter learned in middle school - you learn to stay away from people who are mean to you and hang out with the nice ones. You wrote that you wonder what people think about you when they first see you and I thought then that I wished I knew what you looked like. From reading what you wrote, I thought you were fun, smart and very nice. Now that I've seen your picture, I think you look just like all of those things and pretty as well. Congratulations again!! This time on what is probably going to be one of the best decisions of your life!!

 

[JoiseyMom]

FYI: Disney TV Channels are all the channels they own. They own Lifetime, that is why it is there. I doubt it will change anytime soon!!

 

[RobinMarie]

Did ya ever wonder if Nelly was in Universal Studios in need of a tissue recently?

 

[DisneyResortsFreak]

Sent you a PM. You are Honestly A Great Person!

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

Did ya ever wonder if Nelly was in Universal Studios in need of a tissue recently?

I was thinking the same thing!

 

[eeyore45]

Been thinking about you today, as I had read your report this am, just thought I'd let you know!! I wish I had an easy answer, my ds is 19 and I think he too is addicted to the sites you mention, yet I hope I've given him a more realistic view of life, and bodies!! Yep I'm a pooh size gal, and HATE it. I'm addicted to the informercials on losing weight, and loved the BIGGEST LOSER on NBC, it seems the real trick to losing weight is sweating everyday!! I dont mind the strength training workouts, but the cardio is killing me!!

Best of luck, follow your heart, dont settle - he isnt worth it - - but YOU are! and he'll miss you!


I'm in your court!!

 

[WDWBetsy]

What a great trip report! You are so funny!

I was really upset when I read what your boyfriend said to you. You are beautiful, and his comments about your weight show his ignorance. I know you care about him, but you need someone who loves you for you - not your size. And you don't look like you have that much weight to lose. The most important thing is to be happy with yourself. It would make me a nervous wreck worrying about if my eating dessert would cause another comment.

My husband was over 330 pounds when we met, and I loved him then and love him now. I was worried about his overall health, as was he. He started working out every other day a little over a year ago and is now down to 210. He's the same, but a lot more energetic and his doctor says he's really in good shape. Now I just need to drop 20 more pounds! I have lost 25 on Weight Watchers.

If you ever need a buddy - PM me.

I sincerely hope the moderators do something about that nut who sent those cruel PMs. Thank God for the Ignore feature.

 

[lmhall2000]

You've heard it many times before...

1. Steve is not a Calvin Klein model...I saw the pictures...I think he turned on your weight issue to take the focus off his addiction to porn. If he had owned up to his addiction and not made you a driving factor in it, I would have said, "Give him another chance." But he took the weak man's out on that one...and believe me, in a committed marriage you don't need a weak man.

2. BRAVO on moving out...I know it will be tough...but I think you know you deserve better and focus on giving the best you can and you'll get the best you can.

3. I think you will be a great mom one day...you have a very sweet disposition and act as a proctector...kudos on calling that girl out on her obnoxious behavior.

4. I was svelte and shapely when I married my dh..after 3 babies...I lost control of my weight...I'm finally at a point where I want to lose it all....but my husband has NEVER found me unattractive...he's a gem...WISH on this board is wonderful and will keep you encouraged if you want to get in shape for YOU not for anyone else.

Stay strong...identify the character traits you want in a spouse....and don't settle.

Love ya mean it!
Tara

 

[lulubelle]

OMG, you have got to be kidding! O-o-o-k-k-k-a-a-a-y-y-y then! You are a very pretty girl and when I read your report about Steve saying he does not want to date the fat girl, I truly choked up. That is so sad, but you are right that society has made many men like this. I, too, have gained weight in the past few years (30 lbs. - and I used to be fairly thin) and my DH is not as understanding as I hoped he would be. I didn't think it would be a big deal to him. The line he says that kills me everytime is "but you said you would never get fat, for over 15 years, you said you would never get fat...." Well, I am not that fat, I am 5"7" 170 lbs. - yes I am overweight and do not look like I used to, but sometimes I feel like an absolute cow. BTW, I love your comments about this, I can relate. It is odd that some men put such emphasis on phyical beauty. Anyway, I did want to thank you for such detailed and wonderful trip reports, you are an awesome writer! And I hope Steven gives up his internet problems and you are happy with yourself thin or not, with Steve or not. You deserve only the best girlfriend But I do hope things work out because no relationship is perfect and sometimes love prevails. Chin up and thanks again for the awesome trip report - enjoyed it a lot!

 

[Alicnwondrln]

I read you r trip report last night it was wonderful
I have to say I looked your photos and you look fine to me
I have put some weight on after having my kids and i wo would have been devastated if my DH spoke to me about this
I feel bad for you cuz his "problem" wil lprobably never stop ( i was telling my DH about it ) and if your not comfortable with that then he shoudl respect you
he also should not throw stones at glass houses hes not prince charming or mr perfect

 

[fanofdisney]

Well, of course I was expecting (and hoping!) to get some private messages from all of you. But you know, there are people out there who obviously have no life. Here's a word for word copy of a PM message I got just minutes ago. My suggestion? Stay away from this poster. She's bad news.

How rude of her! If you don't like what you're reading on here, move on! I have a small child, and personally, I would've applauded if I'd seen you sing back to them like that. I do not want my son seeing people talking like that! I wish I was as bold as you to say something!

 

[AshClan]

Em,

Okay, I know everyone else has said it, but I had to add my 2 cents.

You are obviously funny, sweet, thoughtful, fun-loving, a great writer, and from your photo, a very pretty girl. Steve's porn problem is just that....HIS problem, and it has nothing to do with you or how you look. He was obviously using you as a scapegoat to deflect his guilt. PLEASE know that a man's attraction to porn is never going to be due to his supposed lack of attraction to his mate. It is HIS problem!! I'm not a psychologist, but I can make a good educated guess that his addiction to porn relates a heck of a lot more to his own self-image than to his image of you!

If you decide you would like to lose weight for your health, or to improve how you feel about yourself, by all means do it! Don't do it, though, for anyone else. It will work much better, too, if you are doing for yourself!!

In a healthy relationship, loving and respecting your partner come naturally. Appearances don't matter. I shared your story with my husband and he was horrified. I myself have put on about 45 lbs. since my marriage 19 years ago, and my husband loves me more than ever. I do want to lose weight (because I am vain, and I feel better when I'm thin), but I know that my DH will never change his feelings for me based on how I look.

You sound like you've got a very good head on your shoulders, and it sounds like you're moving toward making some good first steps to independence and self-esteem. All I can say is....You Go Girl!!

Hope you keep us all posted. We're here for you!

 

[LibertyLover]

Mega13 - loved your trip report. My DH, DD2 and dear stepdaughter checked into the AKL late Friday night, the 14th, and ran into all the conventioneers. The next day a friend of mine told us that it was the home builders' convention and it was supposed to be one of the largest Orlando had ever hosted. And boy were they noisy. We ate dinner at Boma Saturday night and listened to all the screaming from the Victoria Fall bar. We were on the 5th floor, Kudu Trail, overlooking Sunset Savannah in room 5344. I forgot to pack anything lime green myself but did keep an eye out for others and didn't see any either. Of course, I managed to pack all the wrong clothing for myself and the toddler and so did my DH, so we enriched Disney's coffers by quite a few dollars for warm clothing.

In looking at your photos, you are a lovely person. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I too am heavy and so is my husband. Just in case, we were the older heavy couple - he with wild curly grey hair and I with long curly reddish brown, with the absolutely adorable 2 year old Chinese daughter in tow.

I hope you go back to WDW soon and have a magical time.