Did you say 14? You are still policing what a 14 year old watches? That is very suprising to me. I teach high school, and most of the 14,15,16 year olds that come through my room make thier own viewing decisions, and frankly are certianly intelligent and mature enough to do so. I cannot imagine telling my DD at 14 that she is "not allowed" to watch anything!
EXCUSE ME??? How dare you suggest I'm over "policing" my child because I said I wouldn't let her watch some of the shows on Teen Nick. Who do you think you are? YES I absolutely have every single right to tell her what she can and cannot watch, she's 14 not 18! And even at 18 if she's in my house I'll still have the right to tell her what she can watch at my house. My children are both very intelligent and mature enough to decide what they can and cannot watch and honestly, when I say to my DD14 "are you sure you should watch this?" 9 times out of 10 she says "no, I don't really like it anyway". We make TV choices together, I don't have to tell her what not to watch, my point was I don't like the shows on Teen Nick at all, they tend to be very sexual and since I also have a 10 year old I don't want the 14 year old watching garbage TV. Do you have a 14 year old of your own? (I honestly didn't look to see if you have any children listed in your signature) If not I would suggest you not speak of what you do not know, ie you may change your mind when you do have a 14 year old.
Same. By the time I was in high school the only "rule" I had with regards to TV/movies was I couldn't watch certain things around my younger sister. Mainly The X-Files or any horror movies, because the poor kid would have nightmares.
Honestly, there were very few things I was not allowed to watch as a child. That said, the content available to me 20-25 years ago was a bit tamer than what's out there now.
This is the same rule that we had in our house, we weren't allowed to watch scary movies at all, we weren't allowed to watch things that would freak our younger brother and sister out so we didn't. And yes, the content was absolutely tamer when I was a kid. And to be honest, my DD14 doesn't want to watch anything scary or gory, it's my DD10 that wants to watch that stuff. But I'm "policing" her too and she can't watch that stuff either.
thanks for all the replies..yes i have looked on netflix and i dont find them. i have to try looking for it on another channel. i have dvr but when theyre eating bfst and watching tv im using that time to back snacks, get back packs ready etc. i cant sit and fast forward. i dont know about letting my 12 year old watch but i think a 14/15 would probably relate to those shows a little better sicne its all high school related. and you right about those commercials being ok to be shown on teen nick but imo 14/15 year olds are probably not watching full house.
DD14 loves Full House, she and DD10 watched it all the time when we did have cable.
i never watched an R rated movie until I left home... And my parents put a block on MTV when i was in high school. And guess what? I put a block on cartoon network. The few good shows that are on in the mornings do not make up for the rest of the content.
i couldn't believe last year December when I was taking my kids to see Princess and the Frog at the theater, how many other families with kids the ages of my kids (6 and 5) were going to see a PG-13 that was rated such for language and sexual content.
i consider myself VERY lucky that my kids could care less about any of the tween shows.
I feel the same way, I still prescreen PG-13 movies (guess that adds to my "policing") for both of my girls. While my DD14 is very intelligent and mature she's still my DD and there are things in PG13 movies that I feel are inappropriate, for instance the movie My Super Ex-Girlfriend has a lot of sexual scenes in it, no nudity but you sure know what's going on in that bedroom. So yes, DBF and I prescreen PG13 movies but most they are allowed to watch. At 5 or 6 tho, no way.
I would hope that at 14 my kids will be making wise choices. After all, that is what we try and teach them. That being said, I am still their parent, and if I feel they are watching something innapropriate, I would not hesitate to tell them they are not allowed to watch it (and explain why). There are a lot of things on television that we should not even be watching as adults.
Well said, and I totally agree.
we took my 6 year old to see Avatar. She has seen all of the (4 hour uncut) Lord of the Rings movies. She has watched all the Harry Potter films. She is not scarred for life, far from it. I don't see the problem??? While I would not show her anything with extreme violence, gore, or sexual content ther are a LOT of PG-13 movies that are fine for her. We don't care for some of the cartoon network shows, but Star wars, Generator Rex, Symbioinc Titans is the friday night lineup at our house for all 3 of us. I show Shindler's List (Rated R)in my G&T class, and have never had one parent refuse to grant permission for it. Form my perspective I just cannot see telling a teenager "You can't watch that." Most of the ones I teach are just so far beyond needing that kind of policing. They are capable of watching something that, yes, perhaps they shouldn't have, and taking it with a grain of salt, learning form the experience and moving on. Iti s not like they are watching Southpark and them gonig out and replicating it. They havesufficent maturity to relaize it is inapproiate. They can watch it, and not have it effect thier behavior or metality. I guess I just don't see what a 17 year old watching South Park of Family Guy is hurting?
My child is not 17, she's 14. At 39 I don't watch Family Guy so why I let my kids watch it? We own Avatar, all the LotR's movies, all the HP movies, Star Wars, Terminators, Indiana Jones and a lot more PG13 or R rated movies it is our decision as parents to let our kids watch them when they are ready and not before. You mention your DD is 6, well at 6 I would be OK with some of the movies mentioned by me but not all of them and TV is the same deal. We just recently started letting the girls watch Bones, CSI and shows like that BUT we still prescreen them for content. There are some Bones & CSI episodes that I don't like to watch due to the content. We won't let them watch Criminal Minds and it's one of our favorites, but it seems that in your opinion I'm treating my kids poorly when in fact it's the opposite, I treat my children with respect and love and you know what, they do the same for me. DD10 walked out of her room when we had just started watching Criminal Minds last week (it dealt with a man with impotence who was killing past swinging partners he and his wife had shared, the opening scene was a nude couple in a car and the unsub shot them), we paused it and said she didn't need to watch it, she said "I know, I'm just getting a drink before bed" got her drink, gave us kisses and said "I love you" and went to bed. That's something we wouldn't let DD14 watch, is that bad parenting in your opinion?
My kids don't live in a bubble but they don't need to see 16 year old girls acting like they are in Desperate Housewives, which is what I see in a lot of those teen shows I "police" and don't "allow" my kids to see. Which is really a non-issue since we don't have full cable anymore and don't get those channels. And no, we didn't cancel the cable because of those shows, we cancelled cable because we can't afford it right now.
Every time I think to myself "let's go give the family board another try" someone condemns me for my parenting. You don't know me, you don't know my kids, if you did you would not say anything negative about us "policing" what they watch. Because if you did know us you'd know what awesome kids they are and you'd be copying everything I do to try to get your kids to turn out just like mine.
Thanks for your opinion princessmom but I think I'll keep parenting my way, because I've already successfully raised DD22 and DDs14 & 10 are turning out pretty darn amazing too.
