OT-Tacky?

[Anjelica]

Seriously???? - apparently all those times I didn't have a birthday party and therefore didn't get a birthday card has scarred me for life......

I truly don't understand it these days in terms of ensuring our childrens feelings dont get hurt. The world is not made out of marshmallows and bad things happen to good people. Now I'm not saying that our kids should grow up so fast as to not enjoy their childhood but WHEN do children need to learn to cope with not always being the "center of attention" REGARDLESS if its their birthday or not? Certainly by 10 that is something they should know.

I don't think the email was warranted and if I had gotten that email would have scratched my head in puzzlement. IMHO

 

[PrincessKsMom]

At what age did you all (no poster in specific) tell your children there was no Santa, toothfairy, etc.? Just curious at what age you thought it was about time they grew up and learned to deal with disappointment.

 

[TotalSnowWhite]

At what age did you all (no poster in specific) tell your children there was no Santa, toothfairy, etc.? Just curious at what age you thought it was about time they grew up and learned to deal with disappointment.

There's no Santa?

Thankfully that won't happen for a while in this house. I love seeing the world through the eyes of a three year old!!

 

[Anjelica]

At what age did you all (no poster in specific) tell your children there was no Santa, toothfairy, etc.? Just curious at what age you thought it was about time they grew up and learned to deal with disappointment.

Don't children learn about disappointment at an early age when you tell them no they can't have this or no they can't do that? My 5 year old daughter is disappointed everytime I tell her that her Uncle can't stop by to see her as he's off in a foriegn land making sure bad people don't come over here - they are very very close and its heartbreaking when she cries because she wants to see him - seems to me she knows about disappointment and that things aren't always going to go the way she wants.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

My children are 10 & 12......Santa and the tooth fairy are all very real in our house!

 

[sk!mom]

At what age did you all (no poster in specific) tell your children there was no Santa, toothfairy, etc.? Just curious at what age you thought it was about time they grew up and learned to deal with disappointment.

I told them when they point blank asked-
mine were doubters at 7, pretenders at 8, and non believers at 9
(they both asked for affirmation that their doubts were correct at 9).

This was for Santa. For the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny, push those ages back. At 8 my DD12 said, "Santa is at least human so there could be magic involved but seriously mom, a fairy and a bunny, I'm embarrased I ever believed that."

At least for me, though, I don't think your question is related to this topic at all. If my DD was disappointed that she was going on a really cool trip for her birthday and might not have the day recognized by other children, I would think that I was raising a really spoiled, self-centered child.