I think you misunderstood. I don't think Verizon is more open than AT&T. I think the Android platform is more open than the iPhone. Now, I realize this isn't an issue for everyone and that is fine. People have different criteria for choosing anything. For me the ability to do whatever I want with something I purchase is important. I don't want an app blocked because "it duplicates the function of iTunes". Who cares? If I don't like the way iTunes does something I want an alternative. I love Google Voice and don't want the Google Voice app blocked just because Apple or AT&T don't want me to use it. I am more than capable of vetting my own software and don't need it done.
I think your criticisms of the App Store are completely valid. I do understand that the openness is really more an Android thing than a Verizon thing. The reason I mentioned it is that Verizon has been touting it as a feature in their Droid ads, and I find that completely ironic given their history. All of a sudden Verizon is presenting itself as the poster child for open platforms? Please. But I agree that Android has a very different approach than Apple does with the iPhone OS.
I think in some ways choosing an Apple/iPhone product is a deal with the devil. Despite the hype, the iPhone was not the first smartphone or the first device to do most (any?) of the things it does. I have used a lot of PDAs/smartphones, starting with the old Palm Pilots back in the day. Even those could do many of the things the current iPhone can do.
In my opinion, where the iPhone excels is the user interface. It makes many of those functions available and easy to use for regular people who don't want to spend their lives tweaking their cell phone. I'm a computer nerd and a phone nerd. I don't deny it. I was comfortable hacking the registry of my Windows Mobile phone to enable certain features, and even my Motorola Razr a few years ago with SEEM edits to get around different limitations. I can do those things, so I was very skeptical about the iPhone at first, since on paper it doesn't really do anything those other devices couldn't. But where it excels is not in
what it does but in
how it does it.
The trade-off, and the deal with the devil part, is that part of how Apple achieves that brilliant user experience is because they control it all, from start to finish, hardware and software. There aren't 15 different variations of the UI for different devices, there is no pre-loaded software selected by the carrier, none of that. Who knows for sure what went down in the negotiations where Verizon turned down the iPhone, but I'm sure part of it is that Verizon didn't want to relinquish control over certain key elements of the device. AT&T obviously gave in - there is no AT&T branding on the iPhone, none of the crapware they inflict on their other smartphones - only what Apple has allowed to be present (much like a Mac, which is blissfully free of the virus-like shareware that plagues many Windows computers).
It is not at all surprising to me that Apple exercises the same kind of control over the App Store that it does over other aspects of the iPhone. I don't think that is always for the good, and sometimes it is downright ridiculous. With the explosion of apps, it's going to be impossible for them to keep up with it (they certainly don't control all Mac software). I think there will have to be changes in the future, if for logistical reasons if nothing else. For right now, though, I accept those limitations because I love my iPhone so much. It just is far and away the best device of its kind that I have ever used. I
could spend my time tweaking another device, but I'm actually really happy not to have to (I haven't even jailbroken it). Maybe I'm just at another phase in my life these days where I'd rather not spend the time.
As for the Droid, I have never used one, but I have heard a lot of good things. I can completely respect someone not wanting to deal with the control-freak approach that Apple uses. It certainly has its drawbacks (the Google Voice fiasco being a prime example). For me currently, I can live with the issues. But while I think they may change some things to be a little more flexible in the future, I doubt their corporate culture is likely to change significantly anytime soon.