OT: Please help me...In desperate need of Potty training tips....

[Jay Foster]

Cornflakes,

Excellent apology!

I have informed peta about the cruelty to animals as well. Cruel method the way the train dogs to potty train, not the owners though, I don't mean they are cruel, just the methods. sarcasm. . .

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Does this really have to continue? If you want to train your kids one way and someone else another then who cares? Do I agree with every method here? Nope. Does everyone agree with my method? Nope. Do I feel the need to argue about it? Nope. Let's just give our tips on what worked for us and move on. This is the Dis. It's supposed to be a happy place! Let's just get along!

 

[HiddenMickey3018]

My children were potty trained all very differently. Our DD was completely trained within 2 weeks at 2 years old. Our first DS was trained by 2 1/2 and it only took about 3 weeks, (and he learned to pee standing up!) Our youngest took more time, my ideas just did not work. I got the advice about letting the child run around the house naked, that he would just "get it". I personally thought that was just weird. I didnt like the idea of his playing on the floor while naked so I X'd that idea really quick. Other family and friends were telling me to spank him whenever he had an accident. And I was completely against that for obvious reasons! The pre-school's and the doctor's were pressuring us to get him trained, and then that caused us to pressure him. My DH and I were finding his underpants around the house he would hid them just to keep his pull ups on. He started hiding them at 2 1/2, we knew that if a 2 year old could come up with the idea of hiding his underpants, we knew he had the sense to figure this out on his own. We saw what we were putting the child through, and we both agreed to chill and allow him to do this for himself. After we settled down, within a month and a half, he was completely trained. There were mistakes, there were accidents, but not forcing him to do it was so much easier on all of us. I got so much advice from so many different parents, a woman I used to work with trained her daughter at 6 months of age! I didn't believe it at all until I saw the child go on her own, her mom told me that she learned her schedule and learned to "read" her and always had the potty available for whenever she needed it. This thread has become very harsh. We all have opinions, I used fruit loops to train my son, and magic bowl cleaner to train my daughter, the youngest, well, he did it all on his own. The point is, those ideas worked for us. Do we really have to take this so personal?

 

[Melee's Mom]

DD2 is now wearing pull-up pants and has 50% success rate for peepee. She doesn't like to go potty if she is playing or watching movie (Now it's "The incrediables" ). At daycare, they have a set schedules to go potty every 1.5/2 hours. Someday she is 100% success but average is 50%-70% but never poopoo. This might sounds like a silly questions - does this mean DD2 is almost potty trained for the peepee department? Or she is not potty trained at all? She is in pull up for 6 months now and the teachers seems ok with the current situation (not mentioning to me about training her more). Is DD2 in the right track of the potty training? I saw most of people mentioned that complete potty train took about 6mo- 1 year. I really worry about this potty train experience. I have fitted seat for each of the toliets for her to sit it at home. And DD2 doesn't even want to bother telling us when she wants go #1. 4 more months she will be 3 years old and there seems no improvement on her potty train. Should I worry? I want to let her wear regular underwear at home to train her that way. I will do more laundry at the begining. But what should I do in the daycare side? Advice please?

 

[TheLittleRoo]

For my daughter, the incentive that appealed to her was getting one fingernail painted each time she went in the potty (eventually included toenails, LOL!!) She could pick any color for that finger (oh, yes, it was a LOVELY fashion faux pas). She had resisted all other rewards but this did the trick and she trained in 2 days at age 3 (after months of trying to catch her interest in the potty, starting/stopping training).

For my son, it was target practice on Cheerios that made it into a game for him. No rewards necessary other than tossing a couple of Cheerios in when he had to 'go', LOL! The game was the reward - - he's still so practical to this day!!

Each child is different, each will be ready at different times. I'm just waiting on the cues from my last child (a boy) to see when he's ready to start learning, but I agree with a PP - - no one starts Kindergarten in diapers! I'm a laid-back, laissez-faire parent to begin with, so ultimately it makes me no difference how old my child is when s/he potty trains (well, other than it's nice to save the $$$ on diapers!!)

 

[momamy]

for the first few days i trained my dd i put her on every 1/2 an hour to let her know that i was serious about it! i did away with the training pants. she just thought of them like diapers. she did not like wet panties!

most Dr's reccomend potty training at 3 now. So that there bladders are bigger and they can control them better!

Amy

 

[kkevcamsmom]

Follow your child's lead. They know when they are ready. If you push too hard they will resist. My youngest was 3 1/2 and we had been working on potty training for about 10 months, with little success, when all the sudden one day he decided he wanted to wear underwear and that was it. He was trained.

I do home daycare and have seen kids train anywhere from 18 months to 5 yrs. It really depends on the child. Keep in mind this in one thing they have 100% complete control over. Keep reminding him to go but dont pressure him with using his friends or moving up in preschool/daycare to get him to go.

One thing I have learned it that kids I have that have been pushed tend to have more 'accidents' later. I didn't push my own kids and yeah they still had accidents but they were very rare.

I have a little boy here now who's parents are pushing him to train, he's not quite ready and he has some behavior/social issues, that make it hard for him to go on time. They want him trained by December but I don't see that happening. I still remind him to go, wait to see if he will remember but I don't force it on him. They actually wanted me to take him in the bathroom and stand him infront of the potty and hold his **nis for him... UUMMM not a chance, I have this thing with DHS that tells me I can't handle a childs parts like that. I know he will train in his time, but it has to be on his terms.


Your child will go when he's ready, take a deep breath and just relax. If you don't already have it get this book, Once upon a potty both my boys loved it!


Lori

 

[tlmdisney]

Both of my children were trained before they were two my oldest was 20 months and my youngest was 23 months. I just had pottys in easy access to them. But the normal range is anywhere from 18 months to 36 months. It really does depend on the child and also how willing you are to make mad dashes to the potty when the child starts to do the potty wiggle. Also neither of my children enjoyed wearing diapers to much.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Probably the best thing you can do is relax about it. My attitude is that sooner or later we all get it, I mean who has a kid go to the prom in diapers (not talking about disabled kids here)? It'll come. Each kid is different so go with the flow, it will be easier on you if you don't take it as a critique of your Mommy skills (we all get that way) and it will be easier on the child if the pressure is off.

Good luck to all of you.