OT: "OMG! Your Mom Has A Tongue Ring!"

[DisneyAprilFool]

I have my tongue pierced. It had absolutely nothing to do with sex. It had EVERYTHING to do with spending 4 years of my life following rules and regulations- including what I could wear in the civilian world- including whether my shirt could be tucked/untucked, etc.

I served my country for four years and when I left the Marines? I decided to do something totally crazy- I got my tongue pierced!

As far as people thinking it's trashy, I've been complimented by quite a few people- for the most part, you can know me for quite a while and not realize my tongue is pierced.

I've had this piercing for 7 years now- it doesn't change who I am and if you are shallow enough to judge me on it or my USMC tattoo or the little fairy boy on my shoulder or the little fairy girl I'm getting next in memory of a child I've lost- well, that really is your problem.

I could say the same thing someone said wayyy back- "I wouldn't want my children getting ideas hanging out with kids whose parents are pierced (tattooed, etc)"- I could say, "I wouldn't want my children getting ideas hanging out with kids whose parents are so judgemental and close minded"- HOWEVER, I think my kids are well rounded and knowledgeable enough to think for themselves and meeting people of different mindsets will only serve to further their knowledge about the world.

 

[solferino]

yes, it is the little triangle piece of your ear next to your face. I think that one hurt the most! LOL So all my piercings are ear(s) and belly button.

I didn't think the tragus or nostril was bad, the anticipation of it happening was the worst part. Don't have the desire for any others, but OMG, I think the belly button one would be so painful. I've got the willies just thinking about it.

 

[DisneyAprilFool]

My tragus was the worse out of my group too- and recovery took the longest as well :S

 

[seawitch0313]

how is not wanting my child to associate with people that look like that any different than those of you who won't let your child hang out with a young girl who dresses a bit trampy and the Mom thinks it's cute? JMHO.

Just wanted to clarify that I was not saying that your shallow for not wanting your kids around other kids who might be a bad influence. My comments were for shunning another child simply because her mom has a tongue ring. If its not the moms tongue piercing, then its probably something else down the road; not being 'religious enough' for my kid, doesn't have the same income, not smart enough, not athlectic enough, not 'cute' enough. Why subject your kids to feel like they need to fit a superficial criteria to be someones friend? And dressing a 'bit trampy' has many personal levels of tolerance. I know some people that think spagetti strap tanks are trampy (If so, call me a tramp, cause I love the built in bras that come with those things! A plus for being on the small side in that dept) I'd worry more if she was 'acting trampy' while wearing the clothes in question. I know it was just another point you were bringing up but just wanted to give another angle on it.
I think the key is educating your kids on what is tolerable in your household, bearing in mind that when they come into their own maturity they probably will have some ideas different from yours. My own parents were not fond of piercings or tattoos. I was, but I knew my parents would never have it and I didn't even ask. I did ask to get my ears double pierced and my mom let me do that when I was 16. I probably mentioned a third row later but got shot down and never brought it up again. I had a totally different idea on tats and piercings, but respected my parents enough to wait till I was out of the house. Not wait till I was legal age, out of the house. I moved out when I was 19 and didn't get my coveted set of third holes till I was 20. My mom knew when I was getting my tattoo and was like 'oh god' about it, but when she looked at it she said, 'well...it is you.' She did let my brother get his ear pierced when he was 15 and in a 'grunge band', he ended up taking it out when he went into law enforcement later(the irony )
I do think if your kid wants something thats outside your comfort arena, say your 16year old wants a belly ring, this might be a good avenue for negotiation Say "you can get it...when you get straight A's on your report card, and you have to save your money for it.' That way, your not being a 'fuddy duddy' by saying no flat out, and they will have to work real hard to earn it, and will have the time to decide if they really want it that bad.

Oh and I thought I'd mention that I have a friend who is a lawyer that has a nose stud and various 'unseen' piercings. I also know a Dr that has a nose stud, but she's Indian and its for religious reasons ( the left side of the nose represents the 'goddess' side) I think its funny when people mention Drs and Lawyers not having them when for all you know they have the most risque piercings and a full backpiece. Them suits and lab coats cover alot

 

[merryweather's twin]

Your family picture is beautiful. As is the one of you and your friends.

DisneyAprilFool, I am sorry what I said upset you.I think you have every rite to do anything you wish to your body.

I think if you look at my first post you will see I have no problem with military tatoos (Thank you for serving and protecting our country by the way.) Or small other ones under clothes. ( I am sorry for your losses. I have lost 3 myself) Just the big scary cover your head and down both arms kind.

I was just trying to say what I think when I see tounge rings not that it is rite.I am glad to hear it is just an act of rebellion... (Maby I can stop having vivad imigary pop into my head) The orr poster had asked for parent point of view so I gave her mine even though it is not the popular view and not the politicly correct one. (I think many people think bad things in their head and I would never say that to a Mom (unless asked), or her children, or to my children for that matter).

All I was trying to say is people do judge people on the way they look including employers and children's friends and sometime parents. And if she thinks her choices are effecting her child and she does not want them to....then maby she should take it out. And that may make me close-minded but I am trying to be honest.. Agian I am sorry to offend you.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Then you didn't read my first post at all, the one on page 2 where I listed my piercings and tats. I have 1 tat on my lower back, I have my ears pierced twice, my belly button pierced, my cartiledge and my tragus, that's it. Nothing more. And you are judging me by assuming that my head looks like a magnet collection. LOL I have NO facial piercings at all, I have 1 tattoo where it can be covered, if you saw me walking down the street you would think I was "normal" and not tattooed/pierced at all. And no, I don't need anyone to notice me, I'm not seeking attention, I have my tat because I wanted it (read my first post, it has meaning to me and I waited until I was 31 to get it!), I have my piercings because I wanted them. It's not so anyone will look at me, it's because I like them.
As for the tongue ring, my partner has one, it was his choice. I did not ask him to do it, he wanted it. He asked me to do it and I said No, I have no desire to have a tongue ring, his doesn't bother me at all but I don't want it for myself, nor will I do nipples or *other* private parts, it's not for me. I've got the piercings I want and I'm happy stopping here. He has no desire to get anything else pierced nor does he want any tats, that's fine with me, as mine are fine with him. As for you knowing where his mouth is, LOL that struck me as funny, his mouth went the same places before he had his tongue pierced, why would only think that seeing the tongue ring? LOL
And you can bet that if I needed a lawyer and the best one was tattooed and pierced I would hire him/her for the job! Tats and piercings don't make you who you are, that comes from the inside.


Mouse House Mama, I'm not targeting you at all, I'm just replying to your post. I respect your opinon completely and understand your points, I just quoted you and replied to you because you used my post as a quote. Not flaming, not at all! Merryweather, I'm not targeting you either, I just thought that line was funny.

I'm sorry if I wasn't clear. I wasn't saying that you in particular had a magnet collection on your face, I was just saying that those in general IMO who have a head full of metal are attention seeking. You are not ever going to convince me that some person with 10 eyebrow rings, 5 noserings, the skin between their eyes, their lips and their chins are all pierced because they are trying to be different and they think they look beatiful. They are looking for attention. I do have a tattoo on my ankle. I love it but I would still have it lasered off if it made my kids not get one. I also had my bellybutton pierced twice. I took that out a while ago. I will not be wearing half shirts anytime soon as I think after a certain age it looks trashy and not cute so for me there is no need for that as well. I also would never want my kids pierced anywhere but one hole in the ears for my girls. That's just how I feel. I had all that stuff when I was in college. I personally am past that now. That's just how I feel. Just trying to explain a little better.

Merryweather- I do agree that people judge by their first impression. A perfect example was when I went for parent orientation at my DS's school. The bus drivers talked with us and it was 2 ladies. One of them had a flaming skull sweatjacket on with a shirt that said "It's all about me". As soon as I saw this I broke out into hives. Seriously I did. Now the ladies were super nice albeit a little rough around the edges but I could tell they were nice people. It still does stick in my head though since these are the people who are going to be driving my child. Is it right that I made a snap judgement? Maybe not but I would have been less stressed and shocked had this person took a little time to think about how her clothing would reflect on her.


To the person who suggested the piercing be a reward for good grades etc. I don't care if my children built a whole town for Habitat for Humanity they would never get mine or my dh's okay to get their bodies pierced. Children IMO should be working on getting good grades and helping around the house etc. Not everything is a reward. Not flaming but I have serious issues with kids thinking that everything they do that is remotely good deserves some type of reward. JMHO.

 

[DisneyAprilFool]

Oh, you didn't offend me- I think it's refreshing that people are being honest. I just wanted people to understand that tattoos- they have a lot of meaning to the person who carries them. Mine represent my children and my loyalty to the Marine Corps- my piercings represent my freedom to express myself without anyone controlling my decisions about my body.

I'm not a wild person. I'm not a trashy person either. I'm just a person who looks at piercings and tattoos as art. I prefer looking at someone with an interesting tattoo or piercing versus someone with gaudy make-up or jewelry.

I've also found that although people might make split-second judgements on someone by the way they look- most people are willing to look past those immediate judgements. I've had interesting conversations over the years with my more conservative friends- they love to ask questions about the piercings and that tattoos and love knowing more about it- even though they'd never do it, themselves. And I like to think I open their mind a bit more to different aspects of life.

BTW- I actually have two more tats I'll be adding. One will be a fairy girl in honor of my child- the other will be a Pooh Bear with wings in honor of my Grandma. Others may not like them, but honestly- in the end, all that matters is that feeling they'll bring to MY heart when I see them and I'll also be able to tell others about my Grams and my child when they ask about the tattoos. It's a way of sharing with the world

 

[pixiewings71]

The belly button wasn't so bad. Of course don't ask my friend who was holding my hand at the time, I squeezed really hard. LOL That anticipation of that one was the worst part, with my tragus the guy took forever to actually do it but I wasn't nervous (much) and it hurt more than I anticipated. And it was super hard to clean so it took much longer than the belly button to heal. It's hard to do a salt water bath on your ear! LOL Pru, I want to get another tat representing my girls, unfortunately I can't figure anything out. LOL

Merry, Thank You. I think they are rather good pics myself.
Mouse House Mama, I didn't take it as a personal jab at me, and I do tend to agree with you on the sleeves and the multiple facial piercings. Sometimes people need to learn that "less is more" and quit while they are ahead. lol I think that piercings and tats are a work of art, personal art and while we all love art sometimes we don't agree on what is actually art. I'm not wild, nor am I trashy, as I think those pics represent. I'm a Mom who loves her family but also loves herself and this is a way I chose to express myself. As mentioned in a different post sometimes Mom's tend to forget who they are as people, they are so focused on the needs of their children and spouse that they forget about themselves. I did that, I will not do it again, IMO it's important for Mom to be a person outside of being Mom, I really think it helps me stay focused on work and on being a good Mom.

 

[PghLybrt]

I'm a Mom who loves her family but also loves herself and this is a way I chose to express myself. As mentioned in a different post sometimes Mom's tend to forget who they are as people, they are so focused on the needs of their children and spouse that they forget about themselves. I did that, I will not do it again, IMO it's important for Mom to be a person outside of being Mom, I really think it helps me stay focused on work and on being a good Mom.

I think that is so true.


Not trying to butt into the conversation but I was taken aback by a few things and just wanted to say a few things.


Yes we actually think they we look good with the piercing and ink. Just like you feel like you look good in what ever makes you feel good. I love a woman with ink that is prominent. I think my Sister in law is one of the most attractive people I have ever met. Both on the inside and out side. She has over 25 tats most of which you can see(including 2 behind her ears as well as her boys names on her wrists). My brother is one of those “scary” ones who has full sleeves and ink from his neck up onto his skull (as do I minus the sleeves).

Yes it may come a shock but people hold excellent jobs and look this way! A good friend of mine is a judge and I am sure you would all be astounded at the amount of ink you would see when he takes off his robe.

I think the people you all think do it because everyone else is are the people that do it on a whim, or simply just go and pick something out of a book. I feel that ink is very personal I love the look, the feeling, the action of having it done.

I think it is great that you live the way you want and teach your children to live their lives to the fullest. Why limit ourselves just because some people might object?


I guess what I am trying to say is that we do not do it to be different we do it because we actually like it. For example I have no idea why people think crocs are attractive but they do, and that’s cool for them because they do.

 

[DisneyAprilFool]

I don't think crocs are attractive- btw- but they are dang comfortable!

 

[seawitch0313]

To the person who suggested the piercing be a reward for good grades etc. I don't care if my children built a whole town for Habitat for Humanity they would never get mine or my dh's okay to get their bodies pierced. Children IMO should be working on getting good grades and helping around the house etc. Not everything is a reward. Not flaming but I have serious issues with kids thinking that everything they do that is remotely good deserves some type of reward. JMHO.

That was me I didn't mean it like a reward, I ment as an incentive. Yes kids should get good grades but the fact is alot need a 'carrot on a stick' to get them motivated. No kids shouldn't be rewarded for everything, but I do think doing well deserves recognition. Kids learn over time that the reward for cleaning their room is ultimately a clean room, but most don't arrive at that conclusion easily. No 'flames' taken and none intended, just a difference in opinions. Oh, I should also clarify that my stance on signing for piercings is limited to ears(and if I had a daughter a bellybutton) Anything facial, other, or tattoo is a decision that needs to be made by an adult individual over a period of carefull consideration.

 

[mickeymousemom]

Wow. I've only skimmed thru 3 pages of this thread, and I hate seeing all the judgemental posts by people who think tattoos are dirty, or make you look dirty, etc.
I am a mother of 3 girls ages 3-17. I am also 41 yo. I got my first tattoo last year and just got my third one today. In the near future I plan on getting a stud in my nose(a very tiny rhinestone). I am no where near trashy nor do I dress that way. I almost have my RN degree and work for an ophthalmologist. I drive a brand new mini van. I was never wild in school. I'm not wild now. I'm a reg'lar old MOM!
I'm lost as to why someone would think I have my tattoos or piercings because I want to look younger. At 41, what the heck is wrong with liking tattoos and piercings.
I totally respect your opinions, but please don't judge a person based on miniscule THINGS you see on their body. The older I have gotten the more confident i am with myself. I am wiser, and have much more self-esteem. The tattoos I have came about from years wanting one, then not being sure, then going for it! I didn't do it to be cool or to appear younger. Tattoos won't erase my wrinkles. I am confident enough to make my own decisions....and I don't regret it. Had I done this at 18...who knows.
There are thousands of professional people, including doctors, lawyers, businessmen and women who sport tattos that you never see. If you don't want them that's fine, but don't call me dirty or assume....Just sayin'.....

 

[mickeymousemom]

I think that is so true.


Not trying to butt into the conversation but I was taken aback by a few things and just wanted to say a few things.


Yes we actually think they we look good with the piercing and ink. Just like you feel like you look good in what ever makes you feel good. I love a woman with ink that is prominent. I think my Sister in law is one of the most attractive people I have ever met. Both on the inside and out side. She has over 25 tats most of which you can see(including 2 behind her ears as well as her boys names on her wrists). My brother is one of those “scary” ones who has full sleeves and ink from his neck up onto his skull (as do I minus the sleeves).

Yes it may come a shock but people hold excellent jobs and look this way! A good friend of mine is a judge and I am sure you would all be astounded at the amount of ink you would see when he takes off his robe.

I think the people you all think do it because everyone else is are the people that do it on a whim, or simply just go and pick something out of a book. I feel that ink is very personal I love the look, the feeling, the action of having it done.

I think it is great that you live the way you want and teach your children to live their lives to the fullest. Why limit ourselves just because some people might object?


I guess what I am trying to say is that we do not do it to be different we do it because we actually like it. For example I have no idea why people think crocs are attractive but they do, and that’s cool for them because they do.

WOW!! I wish I had read your post before I posted mine! You were nothing less than eloquent in your posting. Thank you for saying what I was trying to say....but in a nicer way!

And BTW...I think Crocs are cute!!



ETA: Actually, so many of you have posted extremely eloquently. I can never think of the right words...you all said it so well!