OT - NEED to vent!!

[CruiseBoundnKY]

Ok, budget buddies I NEED to vent.

My Brother in law DBIL invited the whole family to go on a trip to Pigeon Forge this upcoming weekend. We originally were only going to go Sat/Sunday, but I convinced DH that spending time with the family is a great idea Boy am I gonna regret this!

My Sister in law DSIL who owns an i-phone, multiple Coach purses, and her newly acquired BMW told my DBIL last night during the family meeting to plan this trip that he needed to stop acting like they were made of money

OK, I had a hard time not losing it on that note, but I digress. Happy faces, and lets make this work. Right?

So, we made plans. Not definitive plans, just ball park ideas of what and roughly when we were going to Dollywood and the waterpark and a few other family things. Well DSIL insisted that she hates eating at the places that the family ALWAYS eats at and hates Dollywood and she will NOT be going as she has plans to hang with her mom that day and shop.

That could be the best thing for all of us actually.

Well this morning, DBIL calls his mom and says, those plans won't work for us at all. We don't want to have to be held to a schedule of any sort. Lets see, this whole trip was his idea. Most of the places we were going were his idea. Most of the eateries were his idea. BUT now he doesn't wanna do this.

What this all boils down to is that DSIL has invited her mom and nieces to go with and SHE doesn't want to do anything with the rest of us (whom she invited in the 1st place).

Deep breath in......out.

I just want it to go on record that I will NEVER invite these idiots to go to Disney with me................EVER!!!! Acting stupid and ruining a trip to Tennessee is one thing, but mess with my Disney Magic and somebody is going down.

This is not rocket science. There are 17 of us going. In order to make everyone happy we are going to have to separate ALOT and go our own ways. Why has this become such a huge pain in my rump?

Stepping off my soapbox. Practicing deep breathing techniques. Praying ALOT.

I'll post Monday and let you know how it all went.

~Karen

 

[Shmily1]

Take a deep breath.... plan your trip.... have a blast... Oh, and best yet, if you see the DBIL and DSIL, wave really big, smile, and say HI!!!!! I think it is best for all the rest of you all if you don't hang with them!! You will have much more fun and have a blast at Dollywood!! I love the roller coasters there!!

Oh, and I agree... never take anyone to WDW that will mess up your trip unless you are married to them or they are paying!

 

[FLAngie]

Take a deep breath.... plan your trip.... have a blast... Oh, and best yet, if you see the DBIL and DSIL, wave really big, smile, and say HI!!!!! I think it is best for all the rest of you all if you don't hang with them!! You will have much more fun and have a blast at Dollywood!! I love the roller coasters there!!

Oh, and I agree... never take anyone to WDW that will mess up your trip unless you are married to them or they are paying!

Good advice! Just do what you want to and have a great time. If they want to tag along fine, if not it might be even better

 

[budbeerlady]

Good luck, ignore them and have fun with your immediate family. (Family can be such a pain in the rear.....)

 

[KIRSTIN'S MOMMY]

Been there, done that...a few times. The last trip to WDW ended with me not being able to speak to my brother's family for over 2 yrs....tread lightly and keep that smile firmly in place

 

[thomasclan85]

Oh, and I agree... never take anyone to WDW that will mess up your trip unless you are married to them or they are paying!

I agree 100%!

 

[kelleigh1]

If it was me, I'd be planning what me and mine wanted to do and let them know "this is our schedule, if you'd like to join us, please let us know".

My first ever trip to Disney, there were 9 of us. It was an interesting group. We were all between 25 and 35 except my niece and nephew. I don't remember any arguments about what we decided to do. My older sister was in charge of planning and I was in charge of maps and getting there.

We had a "blueprint", but it wasn't set in stone and we knew we were each free to make our own decisions too. We usually met up each night to discuss plans for the next day and nobody really seemed to have any arguments. My younger sister and her husband decided they didn't want to follow the same plans that we had (mainly because they wanted to sleep till noon everyday), so they did their own thing and that worked out just fine. We all had a great time!

 

[Lady V]

Why not just plan one meal togethert to meet up and the rest you are all on your own? Try the Old Mill for your dinner. Great with large partiies. and then have fun on your own!! also-Disney store in Tanger Five Oaks is having giant Mickey Semi-annual sale right now!!

 

[kelleigh1]

also-Disney store in Tanger Five Oaks is having giant Mickey Semi-annual sale right now!!

Only Disers would have a Disney store sale on their non-Disney vacation itinerary.

 

[mumom95]

If you are going to that area, you should eat at the Apple Barn. It's a neat little, down home type restaurants and they have the BEST apple fritters I have ever had (ok, so I've only had apple fritters there, but they are really good). The food is served family style, and it's just a nice little place for the family to go. Your SIL probably won't like it, but if I were in your situation, that would make me want to go even more (but I'm spiteful like that).

 

[ceecee]

If you are going to that area, you should eat at the Apple Barn. It's a neat little, down home type restaurants and they have the BEST apple fritters I have ever had (ok, so I've only had apple fritters there, but they are really good). The food is served family style, and it's just a nice little place for the family to go. Your SIL probably won't like it, but if I were in your situation, that would make me want to go even more (but I'm spiteful like that).

We LOVE the Apple Barn as well. I argee with some of the above posters...plan your days and whoever wants to join you can and the rest can do something else. We did this with our annual WDW vacation (in-laws all live within a few hours of Disney) and it works much better. Before that DBIL was always changing our reservations for meals or they were too good for POP and couldn't possibly stay there! We loved going to POP and actually had a better time there than the WL where they insisted on staying.

 

[Adi12982]

I'm subbing to the thread because I want to see how it turns out.

I agree that you should just make the best of it and enjoy the time with your family. I've learned that trips with certain family should not be taken. I learned the hard way with my BIL. Back before DH and I were married, my brother and I wanted to go to WDW. My brother is in a wheelchair so DH was happy and wiling to come along to help carry my brother onto rides and into the shower, etc. DH and I invited his brother along. We told him that the room would be covered but he would have to pay for his expenses. That turned out to be a disaster - I ended up paying for his tickets and all while he spent money on clothes and such, it didn't end so well. Now we know, never again. BIL thought that since we invited him it meant he had a free way!

 

[CruiseBoundnKY]

The Apple Barn is one of the restaurants where she turned her nose up, but we ALWAYS eat there, so she can get over it or just not go.

I'll let you know Monday how it went.

 

[RobinFabulous]

Ok, budget buddies I NEED to vent.

My Brother in law DBIL invited the whole family to go on a trip to Pigeon Forge this upcoming weekend. We originally were only going to go Sat/Sunday, but I convinced DH that spending time with the family is a great idea Boy am I gonna regret this!

My Sister in law DSIL who owns an i-phone, multiple Coach purses, and her newly acquired BMW told my DBIL last night during the family meeting to plan this trip that he needed to stop acting like they were made of money

OK, I had a hard time not losing it on that note, but I digress. Happy faces, and lets make this work. Right?

So, we made plans. Not definitive plans, just ball park ideas of what and roughly when we were going to Dollywood and the waterpark and a few other family things. Well DSIL insisted that she hates eating at the places that the family ALWAYS eats at and hates Dollywood and she will NOT be going as she has plans to hang with her mom that day and shop.

That could be the best thing for all of us actually.

Well this morning, DBIL calls his mom and says, those plans won't work for us at all. We don't want to have to be held to a schedule of any sort. Lets see, this whole trip was his idea. Most of the places we were going were his idea. Most of the eateries were his idea. BUT now he doesn't wanna do this.

What this all boils down to is that DSIL has invited her mom and nieces to go with and SHE doesn't want to do anything with the rest of us (whom she invited in the 1st place).

Deep breath in......out.

I just want it to go on record that I will NEVER invite these idiots to go to Disney with me................EVER!!!! Acting stupid and ruining a trip to Tennessee is one thing, but mess with my Disney Magic and somebody is going down.

This is not rocket science. There are 17 of us going. In order to make everyone happy we are going to have to separate ALOT and go our own ways. Why has this become such a huge pain in my rump?

Stepping off my soapbox. Practicing deep breathing techniques. Praying ALOT.

I'll post Monday and let you know how it all went.

~Karen

Here's the best advice you'll get. You do what YOU want to do and let them do what they want. Don't stress or worry. Make reservations for you & your family only let them worry about themselves.

 

[eyor44]

We just went to Disney with some friends. I learned real quick to say, tomorrow I am going to X park and leaving at X time. At first I waited for people and then changed plans to do what they wanted. But when I realized I was missing Disney, I got serious. They learned just how serious when they had to run to catch up with me as I left each morning.

When at Disney, eating and sleeping in are highly over-rated. You can eat and sleep when you get home. Unless it's a Mickey Bar or Boma's.... some food I'll stop for....briefly.

I've eaten at Apple Barn and love it.

 

[Melmac]

Why not just plan one meal togethert to meet up and the rest you are all on your own? Try the Old Mill for your dinner. Great with large partiies. and then have fun on your own!! also-Disney store in Tanger Five Oaks is having giant Mickey Semi-annual sale right now!!

I agree on the meet-up-for dinner plan. When I went to WDW with 9 family members a couple of years back, we had a pow-wow beforehand to decide on restaurants. I made the ADR's, passed along the information and off we went. My DH and I are park commandos (not so much my parents) so I gave everyone the schedule that we were following and they were welcome to join. If not, I knew that we would catch up at dinner. It worked really well (this was for a group ages 24-60).