badblackpug
<font color=blue>If you knew her you would be shoc
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Just stick to your guns. Let them understand that they can cry, but you are not coming in the room. 3 years old is old enough to understand. Unfortunately I did this with my 1st. (incidentally at about age 3) I work nights and my ex would allow her to fall asleep on the sofa watching TV and then carry her to bed. When I expressed my dislike of this habit, because I thought she needed a regular bedtime and routine, he then started laying down with her until she fell asleep. This didn't work well for him, because he would invariably fall asleep, too. Then he was up at 3 or so in the morning because he fell asleep at 7:30-8. This was not a good thing when he had to be at work in the AM. We set up a bedtime routine. Brush teeth, wash face, read a bedtime story, then sleep. Well, that's when all h*ll broke loose. She
wanted to watch TV. Then she wanted someone to lay down with her. When she didn't get her way she got out of bed. When he put her back to bed, and told her not to get out again, she screamed, and screamed! He was finally so fed up and disgusted that he shut the door and let her. She eventually fell asleep. The next couple of nights she did some crying and whining, but eventually got the idea that it wouldn't work, and accepted it and went to bed by herself. The 1st night she slept all night without issue we made a big deal out of it. After a week of good sleeping we rewarded her with a trip to Chuck-E-Cheese. It went well from there.
I think other posters are wise with the advice of "don't start something you don't want to continue." Set up bedtime and naps the way you want it and stick to it. Good luck! No sleep sucks!
As for TV's in bedrooms, I am against it. Were it up to them, my kids would run the thing 24-7. The American Academy of Pediatrics is against it, too. Here is a brief article about TV and sleep disturbance.
http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/104/3/e27
wanted to watch TV. Then she wanted someone to lay down with her. When she didn't get her way she got out of bed. When he put her back to bed, and told her not to get out again, she screamed, and screamed! He was finally so fed up and disgusted that he shut the door and let her. She eventually fell asleep. The next couple of nights she did some crying and whining, but eventually got the idea that it wouldn't work, and accepted it and went to bed by herself. The 1st night she slept all night without issue we made a big deal out of it. After a week of good sleeping we rewarded her with a trip to Chuck-E-Cheese. It went well from there.
I think other posters are wise with the advice of "don't start something you don't want to continue." Set up bedtime and naps the way you want it and stick to it. Good luck! No sleep sucks!
As for TV's in bedrooms, I am against it. Were it up to them, my kids would run the thing 24-7. The American Academy of Pediatrics is against it, too. Here is a brief article about TV and sleep disturbance.
http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/104/3/e27
-lots of them!!! I vaugely remember the sleepless nights, mainly because I was the only one doing them. We had the whole binky issue, every night she would cry "my binkie!" I would stumble in 4 or 5 times per night to "it's over there" ( so nice and considerate of her to point it out for tired mommy) Finally one night I had enough. I bought 7 of those suckers and put them all in her crib. Then I asked her to pick one up. She did. Then I told her Mommy could'nt pick them up and when she woke up without it, she had to find it. ( because you can rationalize with a 17 month old ) The first night was terrible.The dog even went downstairs to find a more quiet place to sleep. The second night, same thing, till about 2am-ish when I heard "oh, there it is" and that wonderful "slurp slurp" noise. 
But that's a whole other ball of wax!
. JK
. She really resisted trying crying it out, even though she constantly commented about how DS sleeps and she knew we let him cry it out for 2 nights before he caught on (he was only about 6 mo at the time). She had tried a few times to let her DD CIO, but always gave in because she couldn't stand the crying (she's a puker too). Finally she got desperate enough to just let her cry, and three nights later her DD started sleeping through the night (w/o any puking). I will say that I told my friend to sleep in their basement while they were doing CIO (they have a futon down there) so the crying wasn't so intense to listen to, and put on some music if she needed something else to drown out the sound (she could watch the monitor for sound and her DH was upstairs). It was tough, but she was at the end of her rope and just needed to sleep. Now she wonders why she didn't try it earlier 
. Funny thing is she swore by CIO just a week later when another mom in our club was asking about getting their infant to sleep (BTW the other mom converted to CIO quickly).
I don't have a problem with going into DD3s room when she first starts crying, just to try and calm her down, and let her know that theres no way shes getting out, but after that, I'm done. Aahhh, sleep is good.... I can actually get on the treadmill today without worring that I'm going to fall off due to passing out! Thanks everyone, for all kind words 
did I actually have that helped you out?? Must have been back when I was getting sleep and my brain was actually functioning!
) and the grandparents are watching the girls. I don't think they would ever let them cry it out, nor would I really want them to. I don't really think it will set us back to far though, since it will be grandma and grandpa letting them out of their rooms, not mommy and daddy. Plus, they are usually so tired after spending a few hours with the grandparents, they are usually good to go for a night.... we will see!
