Your right, my girls are only 1.5 and 3, so no, I haven't had to deal with this first hand as of yet. But I still stand firm in my ideal that you need to contact the parent of the bullying child, whether through the school or picking up your own cell phone. You said yourself "Their kids is doing bad things and they are unaware." - If they are unaware, make them aware! I'm making this the next size so I can reread it, I'm not yelling really.
Been there done that. I have made them aware for the last two years of bs that their son is pulling, some of which involved the law. You want to know their attitude? They DIDN'T care and thought the police were wrong. They actually told their son "I don't want to have to hear from this woman again regarding your behavior!" Not a thank you for letting me know.
They disregarded what the police had to say and brushed the whole incident off letting others take the blame for what their kid did. I guess in their eyes they are above the law with all their $$ and they don't have to respect anything or anyone. It is amazing to watch really. Again, no offense, but your kids are little and you haven't lived it yet. Just wait until you do, it is an eye opener and not in a good way. My friend has kids older than mine and when she was going through garbage I would sit and listen to her and think to myself "wow, I can't believe this, you should do such and such." It's a whole different ballgame when you are the family involved. I hope you never know the feeling because it really is terrible. I mean, the way you see it (from what I have read) is that your going to take care of your child - I totally agree with that - but your leaving the "bad" kids parents in the dark.Again, I tried and was kicked in the teeth one too many times. Maybe your right, maybe they don't care, but how would you feel if your kid was the one doing the bullying, and parents and teachers were having meetings about him/her and you didn't know anything about it?! Oh they know all right because the principal called them and spoke to them. She let them know exactly what was going on and they CHOSE not to do the right thing by not contacting my child and us to apologize. Says alot about their character and integrity now doesn't it? This kid was at my house constantly. They were best friends. It goes to show blood is thicker than water and they will protect their own even if their own is wrong. Wouldn't you want to have all sides of the stories? You said: "It won't be long before it is drugs as the booze has already been passed around and drank." These kids who are drinking and drugging are in your town - driving cars.... what if there was something you could have done (like contacting their parents back in 5th grade) that could eventually save their lives, or the lives of a stranger they may impact (literally).Again, no offense, but we have also been there and done that. We were the victims of a drunk driver so I know exactly the effect of that. I understand that you can't save the world, but when you have an opportunity right in your hands, it is your adult, parental duty to do something about it. Maybe it wont make a difference, but at least you tried, and that's all you can do.I have tried over and over and over again. You also have to know when to back out gracefully and only save your own child. This is my time to do that and again I hope to God they are paid back in spades, because they truely are not nice people who deserve what they get.
I did tell her I don't condone this type of behavior, ( did I mention it's a Christian school??) but sometimes you have to put the bully in his place. I know I wanted to yank the little 
up by his shirt and show him what it felt like to be bullied.
